Aibu to respond like this when asked when I'm having a second child?

[steppedonlego]

I have a DD age 3, and people at work are constantly asking me when I intend to have another one, to the point where I'm asked two to three times a day. For the past two years since I returned to work I've given the platitude of "oh well maybe when we're ready..." but it's been really getting to me lately.

I struggled for two years to get pregnant, suffering two miscarriages, a difficult pregnancy that saw me unable to walk at all for the last month because of severe SPD, and PND so badly that I'm still receiving treatment for it now. Added to this several disasters whilst I was on maternity leave (boiler broke down expensively, car broke down expensively, several other more minor things) which has left us in significant debt that we are slowly paying off, but the cost of a second baby, mainly because I would have to be off work with no overtime for two months, would bring us to bankruptcy.

I'd love a second child, but life circumstances is looking more like it's never going to happen, so I'm trying to be content with what I have (especially with DD, who is the loveliest little girl) but it's like a wound that I'm trying to heal that is being poked at every day.

AIBU to tell the next person who demands I have another child all this? (or rather, AIBU for finding imagining telling people this just to imagine the look on their faces cathartic, as I actually could never tell people this kind of personal information anywhere but an anonymous forum)

I don't have children. Never wanted them.

I used to get "you will change your mind when you get older", "I was like you until I had mine", " you would change your mind about them if you had one" etc, etc.

I used to be quite polite and mumble various excuses, but now I don't. I have on one occasion been exceptionally rude to someone, but for the most part the face says it all.

I don't understand why people think it is their business! I could have had medical reasons for not having one for all they knew. Very, very insensitive and really boils my piss.

Funnily enough, the only people never to mention it have been my immediate family. Having said that - I have been telling them since I was about ten and I am now forty-three!

Sorry - bit of a rant there.....!!

Just a little update, I used the "wrong hole" line as mentioned here.

Me: "oh we keep trying, but DH keeps using the wrong hole"
Them: chuckle "oh steppedonlego you're awful, but seriously you need to think of having a second soon, you don't want too much of an age gap"
Second random: "oh definately, when they're close in age, they play together"
First person: "it's so much easier isn't it"
both look at me expectantly

It's up there with 'when are you getting married?'! Sometimes I go with never sometimes I do a full scale over share and give details of all the probs and hysterectomy. They don't ask again!

Your work colleagues should not be asking you this question! Very unprofessional. People can be so thoughtless. I have never asked anyone if they plan to have a child or a second child because you never know what people are going though.

Don't let it wind you up. Just tell them one is enough and you're not having more.