"we're pregnant"

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Urgh - does anyone else find this intensley irritating or is it just me?

Really really grates on me.

Rant over.

Yes makes my blood boil. Not only does it make zero sense at all, but for some reason also just sounds far more smug than "I'm pregnant"

Depends how it is meant. Some husbands are trying to be supportive and mean well, can't see what the harm is in that. Yes everybody realises that the man is not actually carrying the baby, but it's not unheard to see new dads over exciting, taking on all the chores and making a huge fuss about their pregnant wife. Good for them, and if mum-to-be are happy with that, again, what is the harm.

You might hate hearing that from your own partner, but from someone else, really who cares.

Ugh, yes, I hate it too and inwardly shudder every time I hear someone say it.

'We' are not pregnant, only 'she' is pregnant. It's a biological state but has become a smug, twatty way of saying we are having a baby.

I hate it almost as much as 'playdate'. Almost.

Dp did this once- 'we're pregnant' I think I said "unless you mean the royal 'we' I think you'll find I'm the pregnant one!".

If it comes from a good place, I think it's fine and totally harmless.

I do find it a tiny bit cringe though. Just find it a bit cheesy sounding but that's more because of the men I know who use it than the actual expression. You know the one in Bridget Jones; "isn't it about time you got yourself sprogged up?" [rub wife's pregnant belly] "you aren't getting any younger. Tick tock" .

YANBU

We are having a baby, I am the fucking pregnant one.

My husband said 'we're pregnant'. I've no issue with it - he suffered as much with my broken sleep as I did I think it's just some men's way of getting themselves involved - which in my opinion isn't a bad thing when you read some of the threads on here.

Agreed! For some reason it really grates!

What's wrong with 'we're expecting a baby'?!

YANBU. I can't stand that phrase.

I am pregnant. We're going to be parents. These are acceptable phrases but never 'We're pregnant'.

Another one that I hate is "We're going for our scan next week!". You mean the guys going to drink enough water to fill a boiler and then have someone smush cold goop onto their sensitive belly and push really hard on their fit to burst bladder too? It's very much the scan.

It really doesn't bother me, it doesn't effect my life so o don't care TBH

If somebody wishes to say we are pregnant, we're going for our first scan then let them, they are excited and not hurting anyone

I hate this (to me it's like saying "we've got our period")

but I also hate it when people quibble over saying (e.g.) "my uncle is having a baby" "oh really? That's a medical miracle!!" I didn't say he giving birth ffs.

We are expecting a baby - yes.
We are pregnant - no.

WTF is with men increasingly pushing women out of women only experiences?
Yes you can be excited your wife is pregnant, yes you can be involved enthusiastically in the pregnancy and birth but NO men do not get pregnant and men do not give birth.

Next it will be "we are on our period".

YANBU!

A: untrue

B: sounds cringey

It's just a turn of phrase.

It's not pushing women out of anything, it's not like anyone will actually think it's some sort of shared pregnancy and most people's first thought is "congratulations!" I would hope.

We might be having a baby, but I'm the one sporadically vomiting at train stations, and retching when going in to the supermarket, peeing every 5 minutes, and busting into tears at 'its a small world', just because...

If we could take shifts, then we could happily both be pregnant, but that's not how it works.

I was listening to a radio show ambit about breastfeeding the other day. The male presenter used phrases like "we tried to breastfeed " and "we breastfed for x months". Gave me the rage!

Yep gives me the rate too. We are breastfeeding is a new one on me skippy did nobody text him and tell him to stop being a gobshite?

YANBU. I HATE THIS PHRASE.

Unless you are a medical fucking miracle, it is "I". Not "we".

Really doesn't bother me. Everybody knows it's just the female person that is pregnant. The phrase involves the father too.

My first thought would actually be to congratulate them rather than get all arsey about the way it was announced.

cabbage nope, no one did! It was James O'Brien, though, so I doubt he would've told us if they had...

A really awful woman I know and limit contact with came out with "brothers name is pregnant"

The only man I've heard say this did so at the insistence of his wife who said they were both in this together. Not an expression I'd choose (a bit late now!) but each to their own.

I agree it is a little cringey, but some people may not feel comfortable saying "We are having a baby" in case there is no baby at the end of the pregnancy. So perhaps it is a compromise to accommodate that?

We always said "we are expecting a baby"

Unless a lesbian couple with overlapping pregnancies, it's a biological impossibility.

A bit like a woman saying 'we donated sperm today' - really irritating, encroaching and inappropriate.

You can be lovely and supportive, in similar and more appropriate ways, but saying something like 'we're expecting a baby' (as both of the couple will be parents.

Small, but important change.