"we're pregnant"

[idontlikealdi]

Urgh - does anyone else find this intensley irritating or is it just me?

Really really grates on me.

Rant over.

[milkshakeandmonstermunch]

Nooooooooo skippy!!! Tell me that's not true?!!

"We are pregnant" has long been my red rag to a bull phrase but it has just been replaced with "we are breastfeeding". I am breastfeeding. MY nipples cracked, MY breasts were engorged for 2 weeks and I do every. single. feed. Day and night. Fuck off with "we are breastfeeding". Fuck right off.

[RafflesMaidenSister]

That works too! Never had to do it, but often wondered if that's why some people do it ...

[GinIsIn]

It makes my teeth itch - eurrrghhhh. I was in an antenatal class the other day and the guy said 'we are 26 weeks pregnant, and we are due on the 5th Feb'. You could actually feel the room cringe.

[idontlikealdi]

Glad it's not just me!

[AllPowerfulLizardPerson]

Unless a lesbian couple with overlapping pregnancies, it's a biological impossibility.

A bit like a woman saying 'we donated sperm today' - really irritating, encroaching and inappropriate.

You can be lovely and supportive, in similar and more appropriate ways, but saying something like 'we're expecting a baby' (as both of the couple will be parents.

Small, but important change.

[KlingybunFistelvase]

We always said "we are expecting a baby"

[RafflesMaidenSister]

I agree it is a little cringey, but some people may not feel comfortable saying "We are having a baby" in case there is no baby at the end of the pregnancy. So perhaps it is a compromise to accommodate that?

[Silvergran68]

The only man I've heard say this did so at the insistence of his wife who said they were both in this together. Not an expression I'd choose (a bit late now!) but each to their own.

[Maudlinmaud]

A really awful woman I know and limit contact with came out with "brothers name is pregnant"

[skippy67]

cabbage nope, no one did! It was James O'Brien, though, so I doubt he would've told us if they had...

[Sparklingbrook]

Really doesn't bother me. Everybody knows it's just the female person that is pregnant. The phrase involves the father too.

My first thought would actually be to congratulate them rather than get all arsey about the way it was announced.

[Temporaryname137]

YANBU. I HATE THIS PHRASE.

Unless you are a medical fucking miracle, it is "I". Not "we".

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Yep gives me the rate too. We are breastfeeding is a new one on me skippy did nobody text him and tell him to stop being a gobshite?

[skippy67]

I was listening to a radio show ambit about breastfeeding the other day. The male presenter used phrases like "we tried to breastfeed " and "we breastfed for x months". Gave me the rage!

[Blueskyrain]

We might be having a baby, but I'm the one sporadically vomiting at train stations, and retching when going in to the supermarket, peeing every 5 minutes, and busting into tears at 'its a small world', just because...

If we could take shifts, then we could happily both be pregnant, but that's not how it works.

[KidLorneRoll]

It's just a turn of phrase.

It's not pushing women out of anything, it's not like anyone will actually think it's some sort of shared pregnancy and most people's first thought is "congratulations!" I would hope.

[Leviticus]

YANBU!

A: untrue

B: sounds cringey

[DoYouRememberJustinBobby]

We are expecting a baby - yes.
We are pregnant - no.

WTF is with men increasingly pushing women out of women only experiences?
Yes you can be excited your wife is pregnant, yes you can be involved enthusiastically in the pregnancy and birth but NO men do not get pregnant and men do not give birth.

Next it will be "we are on our period".

[Hufflepuffin]

I hate this (to me it's like saying "we've got our period")

but I also hate it when people quibble over saying (e.g.) "my uncle is having a baby" "oh really? That's a medical miracle!!" I didn't say he giving birth ffs.

[Sparlklesilverglitter]

It really doesn't bother me, it doesn't effect my life so o don't care TBH

If somebody wishes to say we are pregnant, we're going for our first scan then let them, they are excited and not hurting anyone

[IDreamOfPeace]

YANBU. I can't stand that phrase.

I am pregnant. We're going to be parents. These are acceptable phrases but never 'We're pregnant'.

Another one that I hate is "We're going for our scan next week!". You mean the guys going to drink enough water to fill a boiler and then have someone smush cold goop onto their sensitive belly and push really hard on their fit to burst bladder too? It's very much the scan.

[ElodieS]

Agreed! For some reason it really grates!

What's wrong with 'we're expecting a baby'?!

[Shutupanddance1]

My husband said 'we're pregnant'. I've no issue with it - he suffered as much with my broken sleep as I did I think it's just some men's way of getting themselves involved - which in my opinion isn't a bad thing when you read some of the threads on here.

[UnoriginalNN]

YANBU

We are having a baby, I am the fucking pregnant one.