To think the headteacher has screwed me over?!

[PriscillatheKing]

I reported something going on in DDs class. Nothing major but not something small and silly.

Head spoke to the children and called the parents in and she told them it was me who reported it?!

Why would she do that? Surely she could have just said "we've had a report?!"

It's gone down like a lead balloon at school.

OP well you did put a sad face so I assumed that tou were upset/sad

Now you are being selective of who on this thread you want to tell...

RebelRogue I could not even guess even if I tried to.

It's all getting a bit childish now.

What the children were doing is completely irrelevant.

A parent raised a concern with the head relating to something a number of dc were doing, (including her own) all the head needed to do was to talk to the dc and tell them to stop what they were doing and why!

The head was completely in the wrong to mention the parents name to anyone. I would be making a complaint.

Champs

Maybe she's not telling you because she thinks you'd tell us

I don't care what it was. I think the HT handled it badly. If she thinks it's an issue that needs addressing, she should take responsibility for addressing it. How she found out about it is irrelevant.

It reminds me of parents who won't tell their own kids off directly in a shop, saying instead "The shopkeeper will tell you off if you carry on"

BTW

Are you sure the other parents will be unreasonable enough to blame you for the calling of the police and not the Head (who called the police)?

Is it the thing where they chuck water bottle up in the air and try to get it to land right way up? That is criminally annoying

I don't think the police were actually called? The OP used the stealing a rubber / calling police as an example of how the teacher overreacted to something fairly minor

Hang on, were they called? I thought that was just an OTT example but now I've re-read I'm not sure!

Aaah

I'm not sure

Doesn't matter really. The Head just needed to assert her authority.

Gimme a second to reread, but that's the impression i got. Ooops

And the police were very much  at her calling them.Parents furious because the police had been involved over something so small and silly. No violence or theft involved, nobody being bullied or anything.*

Sounds like police were actually called over whatever the incident was?

yes

You need to tell us what it was. It will help us give feedback and satisfy my need to be nosey as fuck
Pleeeeeaaaaasssseeee

She won't

I wouldn't. She's already paranoid about it.

NotYoda that drives me absolutely insane, 12 fucking water bottles I've bought since school went back because DS is constantly chucking them about. It makes me see red, other parents must have me down as a loon because I'm always shouting at him at the school gates.

Bomp. Bomp.Bomp.Bomp

I can't believe the HT did that. It's one of the golden rules not to tell anyone about who had complained...

Sorry was just putting DC to bed

I'm sorry if you think this is childish or attention seeking and if I wasn't paranoid about the DM or other parents reading this I would tell you (mostly because I know you'd all agree with me then )

Either way I'm going to leave this thread now. Regardless of the incident there was no need to tell anyone it was me who called. Any number of other parents/staff could have reported it. Thanks for all the replies.

(We need a locked talk subject that the DM can't get to!)

NotYoda if someone tells me something in confidence, I wouldn't tell anyone

It reminds me of parents who won't tell their own kids off directly in a shop, saying instead "The shopkeeper will tell you off if you carry on

I actually witnessed this today "stop or the man will tell you off"

Just re-read email and it says verbatim "the children, including mini priscilla, are aware that you were concerned"

Mini Priscilla told me that the head had spoken to all the children and said "x's mum is concerned"

She definitely told them. Anyway really am going now!

I have worked in a school. It would be considered unprofessional. I cannot quite believe she used your name. Within school we might say another teacher had mentioned something but a parent would not be named without their consent. Partly because this could have knock on effects on the child of that parent. I guess it might depend a little on the issue. But the head where I worked would be appalled! Doesn't foster trust - what if you needed to report something serious but now felt you couldn't because of this?

Like others - desperate with curiosity!!! But based on my school experience the issue doesn't matter. What happened does seem to be complaint worthy. As long as I haven't misinterpreted anything.

Still desperate with curiosity ... !!! But understand you not wanting certain people to see it all.

You didn't object to bottle flipping did you OP??

I must admit, I thought of you when I read the BBC story today

I would forward the email to the governors. That's really bloody unprofessional of her and she needs to be told it's inappropriate. To be honest though, if I were another parent, I'd think a lot less of her than you.

I don't think it matters what the 'thing' was. Say it was Match Attax cards - that your DD had felt pressured into swapping a 'good' card for a rubbish one by a slightly more forceful child and was upset when she got home. Perfectly legitimate to contact the head and say that you thought she should be aware and school then bans MA cards in the school.

This is something that actually happened at DS's school - I didn't complain but other parents did for exactly this sort of reason so the cards were banned. The head just said 'A number of parents ...'. If she'd said 'Priscilla has complained ... ', I'd think she was a fucking idiot (the head, not Priscilla).

Has bottle flipping come from the telly then? They are all doing it at school and DS is flipping everything at home too. It's getting right on my tits!

Can I get a PM too OP? I'm a nosy old cow dying of curiosity.

If they head as mentioned it, they obviously agree with you so the other parents are dicks if they are taking it out on you. The Head definitely shouldn't have mentioned your name though.

Match Attack cards were banned in our school too. The HT didn't say who had complained but we all knew which parent it was because they moaned about it at pick-up whilst everyone else looked on in bemusement.