to think the current trend of hen and stag dos is ridiculous?

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Seriously.

Hen dos in Spain for a week?

Stags away to somewhere in Europe or Las Vegas for a weekend?

What happened to gathering with friends and getting drunk the weekend before you get married?

Why does this generation of narcissists, who cannot afford mortgages, think their guests should spend a fortune of forced fun for a weekend, abroad?

I hate this trend.

Providing you're given enough warning, I really don't see the issue. Go or don't do.

Exactly. I've turned down invites to hen nights/weekends that I didn't want to go to or didn't feel I could afford at the time. And even I lived to tell the tale!

Oh, that was artistic?
OK

Oh dear onelast, you are a grumpy girl today aren't you?

I'll stick to grumpy and you stick to being defensive and we'll call it quits alright m'dear?

Haven't RTFT but YANBU - part of the general trend amongst some people to make an enormous hooha over absolutely everything.

I went to the local empire to see the lion king for mine with my bridesmaid and nana

It's also the forced socialising which I hate. Anytime I'm expected to have a great time, I inevitably don't.

A PP said something about people thinking they are in their own reality show, it's exactly that.

Welcome baby high tea Poor baby!

I am so glad I found this thread. Both SIL are getting married shortly both having these extended hen weekends miles away from home (where I work full time and have 3 young kids) I've declined both they are weeks apart. The cost is unreasonable the time away from home and family even more so I don't even have that much spare time in a year let alone the same month

'I'll stick to grumpy and you stick to being defensive and we'll call it quits alright m'dear?'

But I'm not defensive. I've never had a hen night/hen weekend/hen hour, I don't have a horse in this race. I just think all the sneering that goes on is quite tedious. Everyone should have the celebrations they want and not concern themselves with what other people do for theirs.

If you're invited on a hen weekend that you can't afford just say no.

I find the sneering at people who want to complain about them quite tedious.

Fair enough!

I have enough money to go on big hen dos. I just find it all so "meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee".

I was recently invited to a surprise 40th...
I'm thinking venue, drinks, etc

Oh no. It was £400 a head.

Less is more.

fret usually the bride isn't the one who has organised the hen do though so unless she has done it herself, or made demands of her bridesmaids that it be something extravagant, it's not meeeeeee at all.

I think it depends whose hen it is. I wouldn't necessarily go on an expensive weekend especially with someone I see all the time. However, I have a friend from my days in the armed forces and I am well excited about that hen do. I'm going to see some other old friends there too.

No way would I go on a week away though, 2 nights max.