AIBU to say no kids at our new years eve party/partners birthday

[harrypotternerd]

My partners birthday is on new years eve. My kids go to their dads house at 3pm on new years so from 3pm onwards we are child free. We decided to have a new years eve party/birthday party in the evening. Most of our friends do not have children however we have a couple that are coming who are always babysitting their nephew so his mother can go out and party. Most of our events are child friendly due to my children attending, however this year my partner and I are wanting a child free event as it is the first time since being together we will be child free for his birthday/new years. We mentioned this to our friends who were ok with it but now our friends sister is complaining to them, saying they cannot babysit so she cannot go out with her friends. She also sent a message to both my partner and me telling us to allow her child there because she wants to go out. What we are planning has alcohol involved and I do not feel comfortable with a young child (he is 18 months) being around that. My partner got quite annoyed at this child's mother because it may mean that they cannot come. What would you do? would you allow this child to come so that our friends can come (they are very close friends) or be firm in what we said about no kids?

[CoraPirbright]

Your poor friends - how horrible for them that they felt they had to apologise. This mother sounds utterly awful and I feel so sorry for her child. But hurrah for your party - hope you have a rip-roaring time!

[Normandy144]

Excellent result. The fact that they had said no to her should have been enough. Can't believe she thought it acceptable to side step them in that way. I hope they stand their ground, as I think she might start to get whiny! Do you know any teens looking for babysitting work? You could always pass on details.

[pluck]

Haha, your friends are mortified too? That means you can, with a clear conscience tell this woman that the party is child free, so she's not welcome, either!

Seriously, is she very young?

[dustarr73]

I just be wary they dont bring the child anyway.Keep your guard up,