AIBU to expect a separate room for dc when booking holiday?

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So I am looking for a holiday in Dominican Republic but all the hotels have two beds in one bedroom. I am going on holiday with my dd and my boyfriend (who is not her dad) so feel it would be more comfortable for both of them if there was two separate rooms but all hotels seem to provide only one room with two beds!

Even if he was dds dad I still think she should have a separate room as it's not like we could go without any action for two weeks, how do other families manage on this type of holiday? Seems off to expect a child to sleep in the same room as a couple weather their two parents or not for two whole weeks!

Headdreamer why wouldn't she be "allowed" (by who?) to give a 10 year old an interconnecting room? A separate room no, but you can put a child of any age in an interconnecting room, babies, toddlers, young children, pre teens, why not if the door to the corridor is locked and the interconnecting one unlocked?

We have 3 kids so when we have to use hotels interconnecting rooms are the best option - not many places do a family room that sleeps 5, and if they do its some unsatisfactory arrangement that means kids have to share a double bed (sometimes you get two queen size beds and a camp bed in one room, but that's pretty shit in practice). Only youth hostels do decent family rooms for 5 (and overnight ferries bizzarly).

Unless you want to rent a villa OP I'm not sure you'll get what you want!

I've just returned from the dominican and researched loads of hotels before I went and there didn't seem to be any suite options at any of the big AI resorts. You could still rent a lovely villa but obviously that would be a completely different holiday to an AI.

Also, if you're not pregnant / planning on being pregnant in the next 6 months then zika shouldn't be anything to worry about!

why wouldn't she be "allowed" (by who?) to give a 10 year old an interconnecting room?

It can be the case that the hotel specifies there must be an adult in each room. Of course, who actually stays in each room once you've booked is another matter.

I can do without sex for 2 weeks. If you can't then book 2 interconnecting rooms.
Not sure what you think the hotel should do?

Yes Soup. The OP should just book with an adult in each room and adjust when they arrive. By the sound of things OP needs to make it very clear that a double bed, not twins, is needed in one of the rooms.

If it helps a lot of the sensetori rooms have separate sleeping areas amazing all inclusive hotel

I think we booked a suite once and there was an additional bedroom (bunk beds) and bathroom for the kids, the main room was then the living room/adult bedroom. Worked well so DCs could be put to bed while we stayed up a little longer. This was in Mauritius.

Our rooms are usually a set up like in the OP. There's dh, me and dd. You said you don't think it would be appropriate for dd to share even if your boyfriend was her Dad.

Dd is 11 and while she's very conscious about her changing body etc, it honestly wasn't a problem on holiday. Plenty of families manage with Dads and their Daughters in set ups like this, sometimes you need to make minor adjustments so that everyone is comfortable, so dh wears pjs instead of being naked like at home. Changing is done in the bathroom, or if I'm in there, dh will go on balcony, or pop to hotel shop until I text him that dd is dressed, or we meet in lobby.

We've been in rooms that have a dividing wall between beds and honestly they didn't give a great extra privacy, paper thins walls, you can literally talk at a low voice and be heard in the other bedroom.

When dd was younger, we'd sneak into the bathroom for a quickie with shower running, she never woke but we would have said I was in shower and dh on toilet.

We haven't bothered the last two years as she would know why we'd sneaked off and while she most likely knows we have sex, I wouldn't want to make her uncomfortable, we never toilet and shower together at home at there's no way she would fall for that excuse now. Dh and I have been together for 17 years though so 2 weeks isn't a long time :)

In a newish relationship I'd be tempted to bring a grandparent etc and book 2 rooms. Or only have one week away and leave dd with someone at home and then have a week as a family either all three of us or adjust dd and me.

most will default to the cheapest option but if you select room upgrades they have the option or a family suite

I've just looked on the Thomson website and there are plenty the sensatori ones especially

I'm laughing at some of the responses here, I've been married for 10 years, have a 10 year old and you know what - I still like to have sex on holiday, it's one of the perks of not being at work and having a bit more time to relax.

I think hotels are missing a gap in the market. Gone are the days for most folk that they are so grateful to be on holiday, that they're quite happy to squeeze in like sardines for the fortnight. The majority of new hotels seem to be building more family suites, with at least a segregated area to give some privacy.

We would never share a room with DS for more than a couple of nights. Not just because we enjoy adult time on holiday, but also because DS wakes up earlier than us but is quite happy to amuse himself on his I-pad or reading a book until a more civilized hour, but if we were in the same room he'd wake us all up. Indeed even though we only have one DS we often pay the extra for 2 bedrooms so that DH can then stay up in the lounge as he likes to watch tv and go to bed later than me.

I've found travel agents to be fairly rubbish at investigating these options, so I generally book flights and hotel myself. If you do want a package deal, then you could locate likely hotels on booking.com and then let the travel agent know which ones you were looking at. I did a quick search myself and found a few hotels with suites and also this www.ultravioletacabarete.com/ which looks lovely and has 2 bed apartments.

When we went to thDR we had interconnecting rooms

Actually checking out the booking.com listings and there are loads of lovely looking hotel/apart-hotels with one and two bedrooms available.

We went away to a caravan in the summer, with DSS aged 13 and DS1 and 2 aged eight and ten. We had our own room, but no chance of actually having sex.

We paid the kids £5 each to go to the arcade on the last night, locked the door, and had the flashest fully clothed quickie we had ever had.

You can have sex even when sharing rooms, you just sneak it in. It's quite fun!

We definitely want some 'adult time' when on holiday with the family, or, more accurately in our case, OAP time

Ah... I don't remember ever being asked who was sleeping in each interconnecting room. We had to specify once when circumstances forced us to book 2 properly separate rooms (but then we actually did have an adult in each room, we did a "boys" and a "girls" room and it was only a stop over night so no problem and quite fun... Only fun because it was one night though so a novelty... Like camping...).