AIBU to expect a separate room for dc when booking holiday?

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So I am looking for a holiday in Dominican Republic but all the hotels have two beds in one bedroom. I am going on holiday with my dd and my boyfriend (who is not her dad) so feel it would be more comfortable for both of them if there was two separate rooms but all hotels seem to provide only one room with two beds!

Even if he was dds dad I still think she should have a separate room as it's not like we could go without any action for two weeks, how do other families manage on this type of holiday? Seems off to expect a child to sleep in the same room as a couple weather their two parents or not for two whole weeks!

Pay for an interconnecting room. But seriously, you can't go without action for 2weeks what did you do when your daughter was born?

This is why I can never really get my head around why anyone chooses a hotel based holiday when they have children (not just the "action" but the sheer inconvenience and cramped living conditions,) why pay a lot of money to be less comfortable than you would be at home? Baffles me, but I know lots of people like staying in hotels all crowded into one room, hiding in silence in the bathroom to drink wine out of tooth mugs from 7pm onwards while the kids fall asleep and never getting a lie in...

Unless interconnecting rooms are an option I'll choose a self catering set up every time until the kids are old enough for a separate room. Hotels are an inconvenient necessity sometimes for a night or two but not a holiday when you're away with kids.

Do you want to pay for a separate room? If so, YANBU to expect one. If you do not want to pay for a separate room, YABU to expect one.

I'm a bit confused as to what you actually want here OP?

Can you not Book 2 interconnecting rooms or a suite?

5more to be fair we usually go self catering in this country, we may have a couple of short breaks in hotels or go on a city break somewhere like Cologne or Paris with our son in a hotel though. We have never sat in silence to let him sleep, we have maybe sat on the balcony while he falls asleep or had the telly on low in the background, but usually we stay up late and only go back to the room when it's time for bed. Holidays in America and so on have been so full on and packed with activity that he has dropped off really quickly, and we maybe stay awake and chat for a bit.

It sounds like OP wants to pay for one room, but get two.

Because if she was paying for two, she'd get two.

look for an apart-hotel or an apartment on air bnb instead of a normal hotel.

most hotel rooms are just that - a room. Thats what they are. You book a hotel, you get one room. Some do interconnecting rooms but its not the norm

so you want a suite, 2 bedrooms, bathroom, living area.

If you want two rooms, pay for two rooms. No hotel gives a customer more rooms than what they pay for.

How old is your dd? Would she definitely be comfortable being in a room on her own? As this is the most important part of all this, if she wants to be in the room with you then one room with two beds it has to be surely?

If she is happy to have her own room - then you need to find a hotel that GUARANTEES interconnecting rooms (so you pay for two rooms) or pay for a suite (which would have one or two bedrooms and/or a sofabed etc) OR get a self catering apartment/villa as others have mentioned. Speaking from experience, these are not so easy to find though and also, I have had experiences where even after booking interconnecting rooms, upon arrival with our 4 dc, we have been allocated two rooms miles from each other anyway meaning dh and I have had to split up :(

We're a step familly with teenagers and do find we've had to explain very clearly when booking that we do not want to be sharing with our children. We've also had trouble with hotels allowing us to book rooms where there's no over 18 going to be in the room. Some do do connecting rooms, which should work for you (or if your DD is old enough you can be sneaky and book and double and a single room, and claim that you and her are sharing the double, then swap).

Or try a resort villa - all the best things about a large hotel, but with your own private appartment/villa within it with self catering.

No way would I have my 10yr old child in a separate room, time to get creative.

It sounds like OP wants to pay for one room, but get two.

Yeah, how is this even a thread.

You book and pay for 1 room - you expect one room.

You book and pay for 2 rooms - you espect 2 rooms.

Get a villa, or an apartment or suite - more suitable when you have pre-tens than hotel rooms, although interconnecting ones are good.

From about 14 I had a separate room to my parents. Before then we shared a hotel room or stayed in apartments (better for me).

Book a suite. That's what we did last time we went on holiday and it was so much better, even though DD still ended up sleeping in our bed.

Bizarre question.

You get as many rooms as you pay for. Pay for two and you will get two. Pay for one and you will get one.

Depends on your DDs age. A villa would possibly suit you better.

You and dd share and your boyfriend can have his own room. Once dd asleep, sneak next door for a bit of nookie if you can't go 2 weeks without.

You can't go without sex for two weeks?

Holidays are supposed to be fun. I certainly wouldn't want a sex free holiday, sounds like torture.

Please come back OP - we want to know if we've missed something. It would seem quite normal that if you pay for a room, then you get a room, and if you want 2 rooms then you pay for 2 rooms. Seems an odd question to ask, unless we are all interpreting this wrongly and you meant something else altogether ?

Wow! It a hotel. If you want someone to have a separate bedroom, you buy another room or a suite or hire out a villa/apartment. And you have to pay for it. Duh.

How old is she is the critical question? I certainly wouldn't have a child alone in another room so I could shag my boyfriend, I'd say anything below 12 or 13 and it's not ok,

My daughters now 19 and we've always shared a room, and still do. Usually because it's cheaper, but also we are used to it and are a family.

I think maybe the OP was just putting 2 adults + 1 child with destination and date and perhaps tick boxes like AI and pool etc into holiday booking search engines and was surprised all the options which the search engines spat out were for a "family room".

When you have individual requirements you have to put a bit more effort into finding what you actually want (interconnecting rooms in this case) which may involve contacting hotels directly or using an old fashioned high street travel agent if you don't know where to start with putting together a more personalised package / holiday.

I dont understand how you dont realise this is entirely normal in hotels

all hotels seem to provide only one room with two beds!

Huh? Whenever I have wanted to book 2 rooms, I have been able to book 2 rooms. Or do you think hotel should give you a free room for some reason?