AIBU to expect a separate room for dc when booking holiday?

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So I am looking for a holiday in Dominican Republic but all the hotels have two beds in one bedroom. I am going on holiday with my dd and my boyfriend (who is not her dad) so feel it would be more comfortable for both of them if there was two separate rooms but all hotels seem to provide only one room with two beds!

Even if he was dds dad I still think she should have a separate room as it's not like we could go without any action for two weeks, how do other families manage on this type of holiday? Seems off to expect a child to sleep in the same room as a couple weather their two parents or not for two whole weeks!

Sorry I don't think I was very clear, my dd is only 10 so I cannot book two separate rooms, what I was hoping for was maybe more like a small apartment but everything I have looked at in Dominican Republic seems to just have one bedroom with two beds.

I have stayed in hotels before that had a small Livingroom area which had a sofa bed then one or two bedrooms, someone mentioned apart- hotels maybe this is what I need but I haven't been able to find them so far in Dominican Republic!

I went for dinner with an acquaintance who started a humdinger of an argument about the restaurant not offering her DS a meal. They had and he'd eaten it. It took ages to figure out she thought her heartily eating 10 year old should have had a FREE meal.

Try hard rock punta cana. They have a family suite. Lovely and spacious.

Just to add. Look for suites rather than a room!

You'll need to ask about 2 connecting rooms or a suite. But that is more expensive.

You are looking for a suite then. Plenty of Dominican hotels have them.

Some of the posters have said things like why should the hotel give me a free room for me to have sex in I'm not expecting that atall!

All I meant was I have been searching online and cannot seem to find appropriate accommodate and I am wondering if like others have said that a hotel may not be the ideal set up!

I loved the thought of being all inclusive with entertainment and a kids club etc but I don't think it's really appropriate for my dd and boyfriend to have to share a bedroom for 2 weeks (not just because I would like some action while being away on a lovely holiday but more importantly because I think both my dd and boyfriend could do with some privacy).

I'm wondering if I may need to change destination as I have been to the canaries on many occasions and found the type of accommodation I am hoping for now!

Most hotels will have these but it will be two connecting rooms or a suite, uou will need to speak to the hotels or the agent uou are booking through.

I second the suite idea. Before mine were old enough to have their own rooms we booked a suite. It was normally a normal bedroom with a separate door to a sitting area with a sofa bed.

You're not unreasonable to not want to share with a 10 year old but it does mean you'll have to pay more.

We are looking at Agadir (Morocco) and Cape Verde, both of which are warmer than the Canaries at the moment.

Good luck!

This is just weird on all levels. So you want your daughter in a separate room to your BF because you don't want them in the same room as each other for privacy reasons? And you also want to be intimate without your DD being in earshot?

I think if you wanted such a holiday that it would be an adult holiday with no children.

The way we manage privacy around things like dressing and so on is by the chaps getting ready first then going out on the balcony or for a walk while I get ready. It is doable but requires a bit of effort to make it practical, also quiet sex while DC are asleep... also wearing pjs or underwear in bed (only happens when room sharing with my son!)

We booked a hotel in St Lucia just on the base that they had family rooms with a door between the bedroom and the living room where the sofa bed is. Hiding in the toilet may work if you have a baby which falls asleep easy but not a pre-teen.

A night sharing a room, yes, more than that would be murder-suicide for all of us.

It is expensive but for us it is worth it. We only do these kind of holidays every now and then so plan and budget accordingly.

You may need to talk to travel agents about it, we couldn't book the hotel on the website, we had to use Virgin.

You do know the Dominican republic is a zika hotspot right now

Moving - why not book one room for you and another for your partner, and ask for them to be interconnecting - then your dad can have one room and you and your partner can have the other.

Thank you to all that had sensible suggestions as in suites etc, I will look into this, I have already spoken with a travel agent and told them our requirements but still she has only come back with one room with two beds!

For all the posters that think it's very odd that I want to have sex with my boyfriend if we are on holiday for two weeks, I think it's odd that you don't want to have sex with your bf / husband within two weeks of being away!

I also think it would be A lot worse if I instead wanted to have sex in the bed right next to my dd! Now that would be weird!

Why do so many mumsnet's member seem to get angry when posters mention they want to have sex? I saw another thread ages ago when someone mentioned Sex on holiday with D.C. and again lots of people said things like why can't you go without for two weeks? Why the hell should they go without for two weeks! Just because you don't enjoy sex don't be jealous of others that do

Book an adjoining room; it's a separate room but they have a door between them which the hotel unlocks before your arrival. You just book two rooms and then email the hotel to make sure they are interconnecting.

There's no reason at all why it can't work with a 10 year old - we use this method with our 3 year old twins. You just leave the door slightly ajar or bring a baby listener.

I always spend an inordinate amount of time searching hotels/holidays because I really want accommodation that has separate sleeping areas within a large family room (sliding doors, or 'suite' with a side room) so that kids can be with us, but separate. I want them to be able to go to bed, and for me and DH to be able to chill at the end of the evening, watching a DVD or chatting or
whatever takes our fancy...

But this is not the norm, and I understand that
A) you have to search long and hard, and choose your destination and hotel specifically with this in mind
B) book early
C) expect to pay heavily for the privilege

Book one room for you and dd and one for your boyfriend. You wouldn't be putting a 10 year old alone while you two shared anyway.

NB if there is an Intercontinental hotel there, it's worth joining the Ambassador scheme before booking - costs $200 to join and you get guaranteed room upgrades every time you book (for a year after joining).

We always use this method to get a 1 or 2 bedroom suite, and it's usually a lot cheaper than booking interconnecting rooms.

You are searching for the wrong thing. In a hotel, it's a single room with either a double or a twin bed. You can sometimes add another bed in there with extra charge. Or it gives you a sofa bed. If you want two bedrooms, you need a serviced apartment or a self catering apartment. If your child is old enough to be in her own room, then you can go for a hotel and book two separate bedrooms. But a quick glance on the thread says she's only 10? Then no, you can't get a hotel and send her to another room. Some hotels also have interconnected rooms but I'm not sure you'll be allowed to have a 10 year old in it either.

In a hotel, it's a single room with either a double or a twin bed.

Plenty of hotels have suites that have a bedroom and a living area where DD could sleep, or even 2 bedrooms. Or look for hotels with bungalows/villas, again there are quite a lot of those in Dominican.

we could go without any action for two weeks

I can relate...Holidays were in fact the only time we did get any action!

With 3 children we always had adjoining rooms, so they were in one and we in the other..:)

I can understand a hotel not allowing you to book a room for a 10 year old. What you should do is book two interconnecting rooms; on the booking form you and your DD will occupy one, your BF other. When you get there, just swap. However, you will have to pay for two rooms.

But, unless the rooms ARE interconnecting, I would not allow a 10 year old to be in a room all by herself, for safety reasons.