My best friend came over this morning and we took Dd to the Christmas Market in my town centre. Dd's dad was due to pick her up at 12 so I text and said can you pick her up from X as we aren't near home. I knew he would be taking Dd to the market so thought it would be easier for him anyway.
He said yes but OW will be with me. I assumed that anyway as I know they are a couple (he left me for her two weeks before I have birth to, now 3 year old, Dd so it isn't a recent thing) and they live together so obviously I knew she would be with him. I text back 'okay' as I didn't see the issue; I'm a grown up and I expect to have to see her at some point.
I have begrudgingly accepted that she is a part of Dd's life now and I just have to lump it and I am not interested in causing grief with her.
I have only ever been face to face with her once about 18 months ago as I walked past their car and she was in it. I waved and said 'hiya' and she slid down in the seat and hid behind her scarf. Seeing what an absolute coward she is made me feel tonnes better about the whole thing actually and I felt like the better person after 18 months of being made to feel like the horrible one in it all.
He turned up to collect Dd and OW was nowhere to be seen. She had hid around the corner like the coward she is and daren't even face me. She is okay to play happy families with Dd and trying to get Dd to call her mummy etc but she doesn't have the backbone to face me after 3 bloody years.
We went the opposite way to where she was hiding to avoid any awkwardness and also because we wanted to circle the stalls again to have a proper child free look at stuff. I wasn't bothered about him or her and honestly was glad to be free of a tired, morngy Dd and enjoy the market!
About twenty minutes later we went to a tapas place for some dinner and I got a text from ex saying:
'Are you staying around town because it isn't fair on us if you are. It isn't fair on Dd if we are both around town because she will want to come home with you and OW feels uncomfortable'
I ignored the text obviously as what I do in my child free time is fuck all to do with him and I am not being made to feel like I shouldn't be allowed to walk around my own bloody town centre because of how OW feels! I felt uncomfortable at the thought of seeing them playing happy families with Dd but I had on my big girl knickers and just ignored it! We are all adults and should be able to be in the same bloody town centre ffs.
I can't believe the cheek of him. I wouldn't dream of texting him if I felt uncomfortable, I would just go home if I was that bothered.