DD 15yrs shouldn't be disrupting the house having a bath at this time of night?

[DailyMailDontStealMyThread]

I have 3 DC. Youngest has SN, older two "resent' how we parent him differently to them.

DD 1 is 15 and the typical teenager but I'm at a loss right now. She answers back at every opportunity she is always right as far as she is concerned, thinks she can parent our younger Dc better than me etc

Again tonight she has decided to have a bath now, this really disrupts our youngest light/non sleeper rule is phone out of 15yr old room at 10.30 currently in the bath listening to music.

Youngest trying to sleep, I've been up and down the stairs all night, youngest is 7.

How do I stop this happening every night. There is no calm time. AIBU to expect DD 15 has a bit of empathy of how hard it all is and expect her to think a bit more about what her actions cause?

She won't tidy up the bathroom, leaves bath water and clothes where they are, don't start me on the state of her room. AIBU and expecting to much?

[ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess]

I'm kind of thinking when does the OP get to have a soak at the end of a busy day if the fifteen year old is in the bath at 10:30? Can you suggest a 9:30 cut off point? It seems as though you're stuck between a rock and a hard place - dealing with the youngest child's SN while trying to placate the 15 year old.

[DailyMailDontStealMyThread]

Thank you for all the replies. Some have had me in tears realising that I'm probably letting her down. Some have given my things to think over and all have been very helpful one way or another.

I've had a good chat with her today, based it around how it all makes me feel (not DS) and asking how she feels. We've agreed on having a soak without music on/with ear phones and why didn't I think of this before giving her a towel and asking her to get changed in her room.

Oh, and I've bought DS head phones as well!

[YelloDraw]

Nice update OP!

[LifeLong13]

Good luck OP!

[howabout]

Op this is the poster in my bathroom to remind the 2 teenage DDs about bathroom etiquette. It also hung in my DM's bathroom throughout my childhood.

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/186458023/vintage-mabel-lucie-attwell-bathroom

[harderandharder2breathe]

Good luck going forward OP, you can only do your best and there will be times when neither child is happy but you will get through it