to use James on a girl?

[AyGirl]

Am overdue. Baby has not arrived. Do not know gender. Have finally after much indecision, decided a girl will be Iris James. Mentioned to DB who got very upset and kept on saying it's not a girls name. Mother has rang me this morning and said he was so upset because he wants to name a son of his James. Keep in mind he is not married or having a child. I do think they are TTC. But I want to use Iris James!!!!! She said that I shouldn't and should save it for him because it will be his first child and a son. So what, the two beautiful little girls I've delivered into our family are nothing. A boy will probably be Gage Theodore.

My older DDs are Hattie Juniper and Cleo Annika so we use quite different names.

The girls names are pretty main stream too arnt they op.

My dd is pixie honey blossom garden spring and ds is Thor almighty cloud atlas.

Try harder.

Your brother is BU in trying to 'bag' the name for himself.

But why saddle a girl with a traditional boys name which will surely cause her a lifetime of confusion, repeating it, spelling it out. "Did you say Jane?" "No, James, as in J-A-M-E-S, like the boys name..."

If you like it that much for a girl, there a feminised versions like Jamie which will cause her less aggro in future years.

Go with whatever you and your dh want.
In future keep any names between the two of you until you announce the arrival and name of baby 🙂

Flounce ahoy

My nephew (and friends DS and my DP himself) have the same middle name as DS's first name.

It's a complete non issue.

If James is a lovely name for a girl, I do wonder why people can't use Sophie or Charlotte for a boy
Right on gender shit I think it's needed in some cases, girls are girls so give them girls names, maybe Colin will make a nice girls name! I mean seriously when will it end

Like this Ellie?...

CarOLINe

My dd is pixie honey blossom garden spring and ds is Thor almighty cloud atlas

That is so pedestrian. I expect you live in the suburbs and have a bidet. My DD is Clements Hamburgler Pecorino Tombola. And DS in Tallulah Funbags Bumflick. They are very special and so am I.

Given your liking for "unusual" names, your brother probably though he was a shoe-in with a traditional name like James.
Why don't you tell him that you won't be bothered if he decides to use James for his possible son even if you use it.

Or, fingers crossed for a boy, then it's all academic!

Will NO ONE consider Ethelburga or Aethelflaed?

Gloria has it, call your baby Flounce Ahoy

Always nice to have a story to a name...

James is an awesome name.

For a boy.

I can't imagine anyone deliberately suggesting that they would call a girl James - Jamie yes, or Jaime more probably - but James? Really?

The poor lass will be subject to people asking her to repeat it, spell it, questioning it every time she is required to give her full name.

I do wonder if parents who give their children ridiculous names secretly hate them and are surreptitiously laughing when they think of the lifetime of ridicule the child is going to face.

That is so pedestrian. I expect you live in the suburbs and have a bidet. My DD is Clements Hamburgler Pecorino Tombola. And DS in Tallulah Funbags Bumflick. They are very special and so am I.

Just as well I wasn't drinking a cup of tea when I read that - haven't chortled out loud so suddenly in ages.Thank you!

I know a 17yo called Gage. He's a bit quirky tbh but I don't think that's because of his name.

On meeting him for a short while as a one-off, some years before I got to know him, he stuck in my mind - maybe the name, maybe the quirkiness. Not such a bad thing. I've not read Pet Semetary tho. Don't think he has ever had any grief about it.

1 bagging names is not reasonable
2 your daughter might be too embarrassed to ever use it. I like it, but kids get funny hard into their heads.

Just because you like it, that doesn't mean you should inflict it on your child. Sorry.

I love James for a girl and would have used it if hubby would have let me.

I absolutely love James for a girl. It's a family name for me and I wish I'd put my foot down and used it

Rrross

All true but use bidet for a foot spa!

My sister taught a girl who had been born the night of the hurricane 1984?? She was called 'wild storm' I kid you not.

Why do parents do this?

my dd knows twins called 'Harley and Porche' ffs.

This is precisely why we kept the names to ourselves. It's your baby and you should call him or her what you love. As James is a second name, I think your mother and brother are massively overreacting. If they have a little boy and call him James, wouldn't that be something sweet to have in common with his cousin? What if they never have a boy? What if they don't conceive at all? Then you'd end up resenting them.

OP, I don't think your mother or brother should assume they can "bag" names. I do think Iris Jaime looks and sounds much better, but your call!

Sorry you are upset- but you did ask - yabu. It's your daughter who won't be happy - just choose something else!

She will be Irish James at high school.

It's a boys name op and you shouldn't fool yourself otherwise. Unless you want to appear cool and 'unique' I think it's ridiculous giving your daughter a boys name.