to use James on a girl?

[AyGirl]

Am overdue. Baby has not arrived. Do not know gender. Have finally after much indecision, decided a girl will be Iris James. Mentioned to DB who got very upset and kept on saying it's not a girls name. Mother has rang me this morning and said he was so upset because he wants to name a son of his James. Keep in mind he is not married or having a child. I do think they are TTC. But I want to use Iris James!!!!! She said that I shouldn't and should save it for him because it will be his first child and a son. So what, the two beautiful little girls I've delivered into our family are nothing. A boy will probably be Gage Theodore.

My older DDs are Hattie Juniper and Cleo Annika so we use quite different names.

DB is being U for trying to bags a name for a hypothetical child. Gage instantly made me think Pet Semetary though...

I love it! Your brother is being ridiculous! If he loves it so much he can still use it as a first name should he have his hypothetical son.

Girl name, boy name... yawn whatever. Your baby, your name.

(I named DD a unisex name but more commonly seen as a male name. Shrug, I love it)

Well I prefer James for girl to Gage for a boy.

There's no problem with it at all. Iris James sounds lovely. There's a girl in dd's year called Ricky.

I know a girl with James as her middle name. It's cool.

I've a feeling Nev Schumann & his g/f have just given their new baby girl the middle name James, so it's obviously a thing in America.

I'm old-fashioned and one of my sons has the middle name James, so it wouldn't be my choice, but it does sound pretty. Your brother can't 'bagsy' a name for a potential child. They might change their minds when it comes to it anyway - I was always going to call a son Thomas but I have 2 and neither has Thomas in his name at all!

*Schulmann

NRTFT, but wanted to mention that James was a unisex name until the around the middle of the 19th century when it fell out of use for girls. So, OP, you're just reviving an old usage. Do it if you love it.

My middle name is James. I am female.

I FUCKING HATE IT!!!

To the point where I pretend not to have a middle name.

Don't do it. It's mean and cruel.

I've only read two pages and I'm finding myself quite liking James as a middle name for a girl.

I do wonder however if your DD will be forever explaining to people about her middle name.

The kids at your daughter's school will have a field day. She will be the butt of transgender/gay bullying and jokes. Iris Jane sounds similar. Or Jaime. Give the poor kid a chance in life!!!

Gage?

Do you remember being at school, and all you want to do is fit in, blend in and not stand out?

Don't burden your kid with that name. You may as well just be done with it and call him 'Victim'

As a middle name, it's a bit strange but of no consequence.

I know a woman called Jamie, and she loves the name, really suits her

My daughter has a name which is very much a 'boys' name.

I've never heard of it on a girl before, we didn't announce it for the same reasons as the PP's have said. Didn't want anyone to put us off a the only name we both loved! She would have had the same name wether she was male/female.

Personally I like James for a girl. But then, I would

Your brother wants to use a name for a child who is not even conceived yet? And your mom thinks this is reasonable? He might be only able to have girls has he thought of that? He might not be able to have kids at all!

Disgusted at the pure rudeness on here. God, almighty! I'm deleting this thread. Can't take this.

My first contribution to this thread. You asked are you being unreasonable- the majority said yes. If you don't like the response don't ask in the first place!

What do you expect? James IS a boys name after all! Although your DB certainly can't save it for himself!

Weird reaction to all the advice on here OP, I suggest you calm down.....

Er call your kids what you like.

the two beautiful little girls you have delivered into your family

Made me laugh out loud

Iris Eric?
Iris Norman?

Quite like it tbh and it has special family significance for you.