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AIBU?

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To be annoyed about this??

17 replies

Feedmewine22 · 09/11/2016 13:21

My cleaner bought her grandson (aged 4) with her to my house today. I'm not normally there when she comes but popped back today.

I wouldn't have minded if she had called me to check if it was ok and it was because there was no one else to have him, but she didn't.

Should I say something to her or just leave it? Btw the cleaning looks as good as ever so no change to the quality of work.

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Mommasoph30 · 09/11/2016 13:32

I would just say to her you have no problem the Grandchild being there ( if you truly do not) but can you just let me know out of courtesy please

Enidblyton1 · 09/11/2016 13:37

Wow, I'm impressed any cleaner can manage the same level of cleaning when they have a four year old with them.
I'd be annoyed too - I wonder if she brings him every week or if this was a one off. If every week, perhaps she could do more/quicker if he didn't come?
I would definitely ask her about it and see if was just a one off. If just a one off, I would just ask her to let you know if it's going to happen again. But I suppose it's good that she still managed the same level of cleaning!

TheCatsMother99 · 09/11/2016 13:41

I agree with enidblyton , I can't imagine a cleaner doing as good a job with a 4 year old in tow but if she managed it then it's a case of just wanting to know who is in your home, even if it's a child.

Charlottelouisa · 09/11/2016 13:41

It's not really a big deal, if she still does her job as good. I wouldn't say anything just because it will cause a bit of friction there and you might (in the long run) lose a reliable and trustworthy cleaner down to this.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 09/11/2016 13:57

I think your creating a fuss over a total non event. Everything was completed to your liking.
There can't have been anyone else to mind him, so. What choice did she have. Either bring him with her, or. Not to have come at all. I mean the little mite could hardly be left alone, could he.

maxfielder20 · 09/11/2016 14:14

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KurriKurri · 09/11/2016 14:33

Why would you say that without knowing the OP's circumstances maxfielder ? My mother had a cleaner - not because we were wealthy, but because she had to full time look after my severely disabled brother, and didn't have time to do all the cleaning herself. This 'having a cleaner is appalling' rubbish is so judgemental.

To return to your question OP, I have sympathy for the fact that your cleaner found herself in an emergency situation regarding childcare, but she does need to check - you might have left things out that would be dangerous for a child, or that he might damage if he tried to play with them or whatever.

allegretto · 09/11/2016 14:37

I wouldn't be happy because my cleaner is insured against injury - anyone else isn't but I don't know if that applies in the UK.

grumpymcgrumpypants · 09/11/2016 14:42

maxfielder20 WTF? You judge people for having a cleaner?

Would you judge someone for paying for a gardener, or decorator, or childminder, or furniture assembly? Most people could do all those things themselves, but whatever reason, some people need to outsource.

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Feedmewine22 · 09/11/2016 16:17

Thanks for the replies. I just think she should have checked first really. But it's not that big a deal I might just mention it to her in passing, but not make a thing of it.

I don't really want to have to defend my need for a cleaner, but as it was brought up! This lady chooses to do cleaning as her job, I pay her a fair wage and have the utmost respect for her. I don't treat her a a skivvy, and if everyone who employs her suddenly decided that having a cleaner is a bad thing she would be out of a job. I really don't see the issue. It's no different to paying someone to clean my car.

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IreallyKNOWiamright · 09/11/2016 17:05

My cleaner had her dd with her once. I ended up with crayon on my cream walls. They don't go together.

WLF46 · 09/11/2016 18:07

Get rid of her ASAP. She is either so selfish that she doesn't think she should ask you, or she was being deceitful and just assumed you wouldn't find out. Either way, you don't need someone like that in your home when you're not there.

NavyandWhite · 09/11/2016 18:09

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Horsepower9 · 09/11/2016 18:14

Would you be liable if the child had an accident in your home?
Don't know how old your Dc's are but you may not be set up for a toddler.

Horsepower9 · 09/11/2016 18:17

You pay someone to clean your car
(Only joking.... so do I)

Sleeperandthespindle · 09/11/2016 18:17

It was the highlight of our summer holidays as children to go with our grandma when she went to do her cleaning job (in a posh house!). We all (cousins) remember every detail of that house.

rookiemere · 09/11/2016 18:20

Surely one of the perks of self employment is that provided you complete the work to the client's standards - which you confirm she did, then you can do it how you want.

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