Facebook: People saying "happy birthday" to other people's kids

[thebloodycat]

Just a small rant.

I often see a parent post a photo (old or new) saying something like "happy birthday to our darling baby girl, can't believe you're 5 already" blah blah blah, vomit. What I then find even more odd and annoying is then 500 of their friends will start saying "happy birthday xxx".

What's the bloody point? The kid isn't on Facebook!!?

Or am I being mean??

Totally with you OP, don't care if it makes me sound miserable.

It's such an obvious "proud mummy moment" to all their friends. I'd rather they just updated their status to say "can't believe xxx is xx years old today" - feeling proud/happy, whatever.

I can top that anyway, I've just unfollowed a friend who has posted a massively long gushing birthday wish to her DS, via all her FB friends, complete with a video montage of photos.
A video ffs.

People are just acknowledging their friend's child's birthday.
They do it for the parent of that child to let them know they wish their child a happy birthday,
It is only annoying if you let it annoy you. You can ignore it...It is that simple.

I think if someone posts a picture of their kids day then fair enough others may follow with a happy birthday, that's nice it is nice to be nice, im of the opinion if your not interested just scroll on, or get rid of the entire thing like I did

But this is what annoys me, i don't even have FB, DP does have an account with a few friends but hardly uses it.

Our siblings are obsessed with the bloody thing, knowing I'm not on it and DP rarely uses it one will only wish any of us a happy birthday on FB by tagging DP.

These would be the better options

Send a card
Pick up a phone
Send me a text (for my birthday)
Send something on email that I can print out and shove it under kids noses

All better options IMO

Ah, so you're jealous Why does it mean that? I have children, I have Facebook and I probably have a similar amount of money to spend. I just don't share it because it's ridiculous.

katiegg - Tagging people? That's another level!

SoupDragon - of course I have celebrated them - my point was about people saying happy birthday to children on facebook not celebrating birthdays at all!

I acknowledge my grown up kids birthdays on my FB and they have their own accounts.

I am a proud mummy so bloody what

Totally agree hudyerwheesht and PoppyPicklesPenguin.

I really love birthdays. I just don't get the whole sharing thing.

I wish my friends' children happy birthday on fb. Usually something along the lines of, "Happy birthday to ! I hope he/she has a lovely day😍🎂" with the expectation that my friend would then pass that wish on.
I don't always see my friends/family in person, which is part of the reason I'm on fb, so it's nice to still feel involved in their lives in some way.
I am also super skint and can't really afford to send them cards, despite it only costing a few quid, so I do the fb happy birthday thing in place of that and, if you think about it, it's really no different; a toddler can't read the message inside the card but no-one had got anything against people sending them then again, this is mumsnet and there is always someone against something on here.
When people wish my children happy birthday over fb I read the message to them and then type their response as though it was an actual conversation. No doubt in doing someone's head in but to me it feels pleasant and polite and there's nothing wrong with that.

Greengoddess12 - nothing wrong with being a proud mummy. I am too.

OP I agree with you but then I can't stand Facebook for this kind of thing generally. E.g. 'Thank you to my wonderful husband for the gorgeous birthday flowers' etc etc. Surely they live together? Why say it publicly unless... It's nothing to do with saying happy birthday or thanks at all, it's for attention. Oh and saying 'feeling blessed' out loud would sound demented.

I'm a grumpy sod.

Oh God I realise I do the feeling blessed bollocks and am cringing now cat FB brings out the inner idiot in me

Ilovetorrentialrain, they're probably sat right next to each other on the sofa

arf I loved Black Mirror. Always curious as to where he got the inspiration for the PM shagging a pig episode, though.... Hmmm.

E.g. 'Thank you to my wonderful husband for the gorgeous birthday flowers' etc etc. Surely they live together?

Even more cringe when they take a picture of flowers, bottle of bubbly and presents, all aranged in a lovely little 'shrine'.
I can imagine them taking ages to arrange it.

They probably reminded husband to buy them too.

I do strongly believe that those that feel the need to flaunt their relationships on Facebook probably have issues or insecurities they're trying to cover up.

I agree OP - just bloody get on with it! As for feeling blessed..... I just tend to keep scrolling. I hate FakeBook anyway. You're much more likely to get The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth on MN!

My family would think I'd gone insane if I started doing the whole I'm blessed thing on FB, or started taking pictures of flowers OH had given me.

I might start doing it for a laugh Can't beat em join em and alll that.

What's Vaguebooking?

I know my DH would think I was mental - and the family would too!!

www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Vaguebooking

It is friendly and kind to acknowledge an important day in someone's life, and for parents their child's birthday is an important day. Wishing the child happy birthday is a way of being kind and friendly. Hardly something to be annoyed about.

This.

lynniep - wasn't saying it was wrong, I was just asking why.

Its how it all works - just grin and scroll past and ignore if it bothers you.
I do this with about 80 percent of facebook , although sometimes i do like to see a picture of my great nieces and nephews as i rarely see them in real life ( maybe a couple of times a year) so its nice for me to see how big/ grown up they are and stay in touch that way. Maybe thats why people do it, not really for the likes? I must admit i dont, but my dh might put up a picture of my two now and again ( memory picture, when that pops up) which they probably hate!

I don't get it either. Dh recently celebrated a significant birthday. Close family member posts a pic of two of them with a gushy message telling him how amazing he is and of course wishing him a "Happy Birthday!"

All well and good you might say, but....dh is not on fucking Facebook!!!!

She didn't even bother buying him a card, wtf is that all about??? fucking attention seeking, that's what

I don't like posts like that because they are attention seeking and chances are little darling won't be reading the post anyway.
I always cringe at all those 'love more than the world' etc etc bla bla bla. Go tell that to your child and have a lovely day with him/her instead of fishing for likes and congrats on facebook. Vomit.

I think it's because on fb it says what's on your mind?

So then people literally post what's on their mind

People then respond to it as they do with all other posts they see that are interesting to them.

It's the way Facebook has always worked.
I personally cba to post happy birthday to every child who's birthday it is so I don't but I think it's just done out of politeness.

Now if you were pissed off about people checking into hospital every time they get a sniffle then I would definitely have a lot to say