First person to ever be pregnant in the whole wide world.

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Don't get me wrong - pregnancy is the most extreme thing I can think of happening to a human body without even getting to the whole birth part.

I know complaining and grumbling is completely within the right of any pregnant person and it is normal for there to be pain etc in pregnancy.

However. How many of you have ever had to listen (mine is over FB and in person) to someone who acts like they're the first person to ever be pregnant (you know what I'm talking about). Moaning and complaining constantly over the tiniest of things, even if they're not exactly pregnancy related they somehow become because of it!

Example: ''My headache is so bad, pregnancy is so hard, I didn't realise it would be this awful! I'm going to have to go to the doctor to get some strong painkillers''. This is at about 6 weeks.

I'm sorry I didn't understand a word of your post. If you read up the thread I've said I'm happy with her but she has form for being a drama queen, has said she is going to 'demand the doctor give me something' because she was feeling tired (understandable in pregnancy and I sympathise but demanding meds from the doctor isn't the way to go). Also she has said she is unable to do anything because she is pregnant - see the not standing by the window post.

I think other people on this thread have shown that this is a known thing in the pregnancy world and this thread isn't mean spirited, just realistic about being sick of hearing every tiny detail of a pregnancy/PFB from this particular type of person . As I said, those who have struggled to conceive or have genuine troubles etc I know and don't mind it too much as I know their updates and excitement has come from a struggling place. This girl is not like that and neither are the women others on the tread are talking about.

I have a friend who is like the first person to ever have a baby, and she bugs the hell out of me. Despite the fact that others have children too, if you bump into her she won't actually really talk to you atall. She'll stand there with her toddler doing something completely normal for a normal toddler, but she'll be acting like she's standing next to the reanimated corpse of David Bowie in ziggy stardust period , and expecting you to comment in an Amazed and starstruck fashion on the completely normal toddler next to her.

If I found David Bowie's reanimated body next to me, I'm pretty sure I would just be terrified.

When our first was a few days old we went out to a restaurant in Bath for lunch. My husband meant to say, "good afternoon. Is there any chance of a table for two with room for a pram?" What he actually said was, "hi. I've got a baby!" The waiter looked at him as if he wanted to say, "well done dicksplash!" My DH and I now cringe at what entitled weapons grade ocean going cock gargling smug arse thundercunts we were!

On the topic of over sharers, I have a next level oversharer I get everything from crying fit photos to 'his first explosive poo' photos. Bath photos every week without fail. I would unfollow her but I find it captivating how someone can be like that!

She's just a drama-llama.

I spent most of pregnancy with DC2 in hospital on high risk pregnancy unit. When I put a message on FB annoucing his birth (about 5 hours after the fact) most of my RL friends and close FB friends congratualted me with "I didn't know you were pregnant"

Tell her to FOTTOSOF

I felt the world deserved to hear my pain lol. I loved moaning about my aches and pains, I felt I had earned them,

You sound like a total pain in the arse.

I've had experience with one of 'those' types. Strangely, she really held back on FB - but in real life (I sat next to her at work) unbearable.

Endless mind numbing baby talk, and if the conversation moved on, she would find some way the bring it back to her and her pregnancy. The last couple of months before she left were the worst. She would exclaim every couple of minutes "OOOOOH He's moving!!!" And I... I just what do you say to that that hasn't already been said?

I'm 5 months myself now, and in some ways I'm almost grateful I experienced her behaviour, as it's kept me in check and I only bore my husband with every little wriggle the baby makes. 🙃

Hormonal headaches are a pregnancy related illness in early pg so YABU about that.

YAB a little U to complain about her FB posts/attitude to PG/illness/accidents and still be her friend.

On the whole yanbu op. I breezed through my first pregnancy but have had a few more pesky symptoms this time around (to be clear, nothing on the same level as some others). I also have one sister who was unable to have children and another who has one child by IVF. Complaining about such a positive thing seems very selfish and self indulgent indeed in these circumstances. And that's the problem - when talking to others, you don't know what kind of problems they might have. They could be undertaking their fifth IVF attempt while you're complaining about more frequent trips to the loo and a few stretch marks.

There are some women though who genuinely have awful, stressful and quite dangerous pregnancies. You tend to get to know the drama llamas from the genuine ones though.

Facebook updates about everything baby has done etc don't bother me - I like to see my friends happy and it lifts my day to see them enjoying their children in a world that can often seem extremely shitty.

A lady I work with has a 12 year old and she shares pictures of them eating out, she said he had to go into hospital and was being ott about it turned out he was having a tooth out, she does the whole #feelingblessed shit too and he gets really embarrassed by it. Another girl I've now un followed shared endless breastfeeding pics, once she posted a pic of the after birth, all the different dyed baby clothes. Blugh! I'm pregnant but someone on my facebook has fertility problems so I'm very careful of what I post.

People who do the #feelingblessed and post daily memes about how horrible they are going to be to their son's girlfriends are the ones I am most about. I unfollowed a friend who does this because I can't trust myself not to tell her how her son will either be forced to choose between her and his partner and choose his partner and never contact her again, or still be living with her when he's 40 if she carries on much longer - her son is almost old enough to have his own fb account...

I can accept that some people have a worse time in pregnancy than others but I don't accept that there's ever any merit in going on about it the whole time. I have friends with chronic illnesses and they don't broadcast their woes every day on Facebook. Far better to tell the people who are genuinely interested.

what a mean and horrible person you sound. If they bother you, block on facebook and avoid in person. People moaning about others behind their back are worst than the actual moaners.

This sounds like my sister... she's always been a huge drama queen anyway (sore throat maybe cancer/backache must have slipped a disc etc etc). She has had more scans X-rays & tests than everyone I know put together yet has never actually had anything wrong with her even a broken bone! Anyway she fell pregnant by accident with then 9month boyfriend, I already had a son, married, together 6 years & found out I was pregnant. She told the whole family I deliberately got pregnant to "steal her thunder" & didn't speak to me for a while!! Everything & anything that I said was invalid, if I got baby a coat I should have got the better more expensive version she got etc etc. All very tiring!! Fast forward to her 2nd baby & me & mum tried to arrange a baby shower for her. Her partner couldn't afford the place she wanted so she threw a strop told us to cancel everything & didn't speak to us for 3 months!! Some people are really only interested in themselves & what's happening in their lives!

I did unfollow her like I said, glad I figured out how to do it! Its making me laugh to see the situations you've all been in yourselves. I'm sorely tempted to upload a picture of my dog with ''Love my baby #feelingblessed

But...I still have to see her in work. Like I said on a previous post. She said she couldn't work near the window as she ''and the baby would get cold''.

User you wouldn't be the first (by a long shot) to do the #lovemybaby#feelingblessed hashtag along with a picture of your dog - you'd be in the minority doing it ironically though...

5moreminutes That is very true haha!

This thread is in The Sun

I once worked in a corner shop with one.she actually refused to lift any goods into the store.I could understand with heavy goods,but this one wouldn't even lift a very light box of crisps because she was pregnant

I don't get the people on this thread who think it is being mean.

Have you never come across this kind of solipsistic person? They aren't having a particularly difficult pregnancy/ having a straightforward pregnancy but deserving a bit of sympathy. They are completely caught up in themselves and think that everything they are experiencing is innately interesting to others, purely by virtue of them experiencing it. It's all about them.

In this example it's a pregnancy, but could easily be their wedding/ any other life event. They genuinely think, even though they are experiencing/ enjoying/ not enjoying a life event millions of others have, it is more special and better because it is happening to them. And that others will then naturally be very interested because it's them.

It's a v unpleasant personality type who is like this and certainly not the majority of people who make reference to their pregnancy.

So no it is not mean, in fact people are mostly kinder to them than they actually deserve and put up with the constant self-referencing.

I suffered from sickness day and night for the whole term of both pregnancies, second one with twins. I felt so unwell I didn't have the energy to complain. This person needs to realise there are loads of other pregnant folk out in the world with a whole lot worse symptoms some life threatening to either the woman or child or both. Tell her, only when she has been declared to have some devastating condition will you listen to her complaints and (unless you are medically qualified)you are not the one she should be telling. Hopefully will shut her up.

Thanks ovenchips you've hit the nail on the head.

oven there is no way that everyone moaned about on this thread is the sort of person you describe and there is no way that every poster moaning would know them well enough to be able to gauge their personality.

It could be that some of the posters on this thread resent other women banging on about their pregnancies because its not about them

There are mean posts on this thread and the general tone is unpleasant.
There is also quite a lot of ignorance about how pregnancy affects different women.

Physical and mental issue vary widely in women and pregnancies. The first is bound to be a massive shock to many.

If a woman can't be obsessed with what is happening to her during the biggest change her body will probably ever experience I don't know when she can

MN has form for labeling women selfish, obsessive, controlling etc if they dare to express strong preferences about their pregnancies, births, newborns, weddings or pretty much anything.

Yet on the relationship boards women are told to stand up for themselves, stop being martyrs, don't indulge their partners or parents .......

So what if someone documents every second of their pregnancy on FB? How on earth does it impact anyone else?

Its ironic to be annoyed at someone for moaning about something as massive as pregnancy whilst simultaneously moaning about something as trivial as an acquaintance posting on FB

No sorry girl's!
The first woman to ever give birth is my sister lol
Younger sister of course
I've teenagers but never denied them Chocolate in moderation
But when i tried to give my sisters children some as a treat my head was bitten off me grrrrr
She believes in rice cakes,fruit and no sugar
Turns out her kids are little brats and mine were angels,haha