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To think people that walk whilst smoking look uncouth?

98 replies

VladmirsPoutine · 05/11/2016 22:23

I'm not being goady and I am also a smoker but wouldn't ever walk through the street just casually smoke in hand puffing away. I think it looks uncouth. I don't tend to notice people anyway on my commute but I do notice the smokers and think perhaps they should find a bar/cafe with outdoor seating or some kind of smokers corner. Not on the main bloody high-street!

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KoalaDownUnder · 06/11/2016 14:56

Unless you're Indigenous, Koala. The smoking rate has only just dipped below 40% in Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islanders.

Which is awful, of course. But Indigenous people make up 3% of the population, so it doesn't change my general statement.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 06/11/2016 15:44

I am the anti-couth and am currently enjoying a delicious GV rollie in my kitchen.

GloopyGhoul · 06/11/2016 15:53

I'm a bit worried that this thread hasn't descended into smoker-bashing. Might be a sign of the coming apocalypse.

For what it's worth, I rarely smoke in the street (inebriation aside), preferring to find a restful or quiet spot away from prying folk. And indoor-smoking freaks me out!

WhooooAmI24601 · 06/11/2016 16:00

I love the smell of cigarettes. Love it. Never smoked - I never dared; my Dad was a miner and suffered with awful lung problems, possibly because he chuffed 40 a day for 40 years but I always got the feeling he'd be disappointed in me if I smoked, so I took to the drink instead to disappoint my Mum. It's such a rarity that I get a bit excited if I see people smoking on the street and deliberately trail them for a few minutes. DH says it's batshit.

Saying that, a young lad came into the petrol station on a moped the other day with a lit cigarette and tried to fill up his tank. I had to explain to him the chemistry of petrol plus naked flame and make him put it out. The poor garage owner looked like he was about to have an embolism watching me shout at this boy. I did have a lovely big sniff of his fag though before he extinguished it.

Fluffyears · 06/11/2016 16:31

I hate it because if they walk in front on me I have to speed walk to get away from the stinky cloud. The other week I was in queue to take money out of the ATM and some bloody idiot decided to smoke in the queue where no on can escape.

legotits · 06/11/2016 16:35

There ya go Gloop ole Fluffy just rebalanced things.

Fluffyears · 06/11/2016 19:13

Less of the ole if you don't mind 😜

5OBalesofHay · 06/11/2016 19:15

AIBU to not care about looking uncouth?

MatildaTheCat · 06/11/2016 19:19

As an 18 year old in 1982 my mother, who didn't like smoking but accepted that I did ( at the time), told me that smoking in the street was common. That was never her sort of language but had probably been drummed into her in the fifties.

I never, ever smoked in the street. It is, indeed, uncouth. I will be using this word more, it is much underused.

FantaIsFine · 06/11/2016 19:31

I'm a dedicated smoker...I hate smoking while walking, but do it - often as it's on the way to a non-smoking venue where I'm meeting someone, so combines efficiently.

Actually, you can't really help but smoke on the street when at work; nowhere else.

Pisses me off when outdoors at venues another punter has a problem with it if permitted, BUT I do understand if they have a nonsmoking outside area and will of course conform.

I smoke everywhere I can, but am I think a considerate smoker. Don't in my own home if a guest dislikes it, would NEVER push a pushchair with a fag on the go. If there were children in a smoking area I'd still be considerate.

What I don't get is anyone equating vaping output as anywhere comparable, it simply isn't.

TheNaze73 · 06/11/2016 19:47

YANBU. They are drug addicts

Candlelight123 · 06/11/2016 19:48

Hello mother, is that you???

Marmalade85 · 06/11/2016 19:50

I live in a nice family area of London and absolutely hate it when both of my sisters visit and constantly smoke as we walk around. I've told them it looks rough but they don't care. I'm also the only one without a tattoo.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 06/11/2016 19:52

Koala, I didn't realise the Indigenous population was so low! That's actually shocked me more than the smoking rate.

The point I was clumsily trying to make was that lowish smoking prevalence overall can hide massive disparities between different demographic groups. Looking at the Australian data, people who are unable to work, lone parents and people who live in remote locations also have very high rates, as well as all the usual groups e.g. unemployed, low paid, people with MH issues, prisoners ... It's the same in most developed countries, especially those with high levels of inequality. Sorry for singling out Australia it was just a very stark example I'd read about recently.

In Australia and many other countries, smoking behaviour is inversely related to socio-economic status, with disadvantaged groups in the population being more likely to take up and continue smoking. The authors of a seminal British report on poverty and smoking observed that one can ‘almost study social disadvantage itself through variations in smoking prevalence’

I'm always a bit Hmm when I read posts saying something like, 'Barely anyone smokes these days, I'm shocked when I see it, everybody knows it's unacceptable and everybody's OK with that ...' If you live and work somewhere fairly well-heeled and/or somewhere with stringent tobacco control laws it might not be that visible to you but I guarantee that not that far away, there will be communities where smoking is totally commonplace. And where people get sick and die in large numbers because of it.

I'm glad this thread is not so far bashing smokers much More often than not these days, if you're bashing smokers you're bashing people who have already been handed the pooey end of the stick in life, for one reason or another.

To think people that walk whilst smoking look uncouth?
specialsubject · 06/11/2016 19:59

Models and low rent celebs still smoke, I don't think they have it tough.

Dog end in your mouth doesn't get classy just because you are standing still. Here's to vaping, just a bit of nasty cheap perfume rather than the full on reek.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 06/11/2016 20:01

I want to tell you yabu but it's just occurred to me that even though I'm a smoker I don't smoke whilst walking. I don't smoke on my way to the bus stop, I have one at the smoking shelter area at work, all subsequent cigarettes are had there and then I don't smoke when I'm on my way home or at home. I'm genuinely intrigued as to whether this my subconscious smoking snobbery.

Chopstick17 · 06/11/2016 20:34

Is your name Margot Ledbetter?

witsender · 06/11/2016 20:35

When I smoked I just found doing the two things quite hard work!

green18 · 06/11/2016 20:37

What I find worse than walking along smoking,is congregating outside entrances smoking. it means that everyone has to walk through the stinking fug to get in or out. I remember walking out of hospital with my first born. Her first gulp of the brand new world was B&H puffed on by a heavily pregnant mother in a dressing gown outside the door, class.

Oysterbabe · 06/11/2016 20:42

I can't stand walking and eating. Even as a pissed student staggering home with a kebab I'd wait until I got home to eat it. It's impossible to enjoy any food while walking.

Fluffyears · 06/11/2016 20:44

I'm not bashing all smokers just inconsiderate ones...you get just as many arse holes who don't smoke. Just please be aware of your surroundings and other people.

elephantoverthehill · 06/11/2016 21:07

It is quite strange that when smoking was allowed in pubs you only took your DCs on a sunny afternoon for lunch so you could sit in the garden. Nowadays you stay inside if you have children.

Chopstick17 · 06/11/2016 21:10

I grew up in a family where people smoked, I first worked in smokey offices, I went out to pubs and clubs and had to rewash my hair and wash all clothes because they stank. I think that now because we are so used to cleaner air and environments, we have become less tolerant of the one rogue smoker who happens to be walking in front of us. Just need everyone to wise up and pack up.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 07/11/2016 00:12

It's threads like this that make me more determined to be the rogue smoker.

Briarthorn · 07/11/2016 00:37

Vapers are just as hated on MN as smokers these days, ILikeyourHairyHands, give it a go, you can still be edgy Grin