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Who gets the premium room?

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Strandedinthehills · 05/11/2016 16:18

My husband and I have taken my son and his girlfriend away for the weekend for my sons birthday. Couldn't book two standard rooms so had to book one standard one premium. The premium room comes with a bottle of champagne, flowers and chocolates.

I think my son and his girlfriend should get the premium room as it's a treat for his birthday. My dh thinks we should as we are paying. Who is bu?

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Strandedinthehills · 05/11/2016 17:15

I don't think he will demand the nicer room or even say he should get it but I do think he will be a bit Hmm about it.

Dh has a habit of putting us financially over our children and it's something that we have argued about in the past.

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YuckYuckEwwww · 05/11/2016 17:17

The only reason I think hed question it is because we kind of talked him into this weekend away to begin with

so, 1. he didn't even want to go, and now 2. he's already bemoaning you "treating" your son

Leave him at home, seriously: how is it going to be fun for anyone if he goes?

SirChenjin · 05/11/2016 17:19

I'm with expat - you're treating your son and his GF to a night away and you've done that. Given that he was getting the standard room before I don't see any reason why he still shouldn't.

Otoh - I can't imagine tagging along with my son and his GF for his birthday weekend!

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Strandedinthehills · 05/11/2016 17:20

Sorry ds wasn't convinced about going, myself and dh did came up with the idea.

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YuckYuckEwwww · 05/11/2016 17:21

Otoh - I can't imagine tagging along with my son and his GF for his birthday weekend!

Lots of families continue to holiday together occassionally and add partners and children as families grow, it's really not that odd!

YuckYuckEwwww · 05/11/2016 17:22

Sorry ds wasn't convinced about going, myself and dh did came up with the idea.

Oh. Why are you going then?

SirChenjin · 05/11/2016 17:22

Your 24 year old son wasn't keen to go away with his mum and dad for his birthday? Can't ithink why! HmmGrin

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 05/11/2016 17:23

What SirChenjin said. It sounds a bit odd to me to take your sons and girlfriends away for one of the son's birthdays but each to their own.

I would be hundreds of miles away doing something else, somewhere else personally... not with adult kids.

PeppaIsMyHero · 05/11/2016 17:33

If he's that bothered, he could always book two premium rooms and be done with it...

LetsAllEatCakes · 05/11/2016 17:37

I think your dh is right about the room but I'd share the champers and all have some. It does sound pretty spoilt for your ds to be funny about you getting the best room.

Are you paying for your other son as well? if not then I definitely think your dh is right and your ds would be being spoilt. If you are then it does become more family trip then birthday gift.

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Strandedinthehills · 05/11/2016 17:38

We are paying for everyone.

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LetsAllEatCakes · 05/11/2016 17:43

Is that why you think he should get the better room? Because they've both been treated equally so you feel your ds hasn't really had a birthday gift?

Lovewineandchocs · 05/11/2016 17:45

Could you let the hotel know it's a birthday celebration and maybe they will upgrade the standard room to a premium?

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Strandedinthehills · 05/11/2016 17:45

Yes and I do feel guilty that we have presented this as a birthday treat when it was really just a family break.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 05/11/2016 17:46

I see, more than one son/couple going. In that case, its probably best to take the bigger room so that it doesn't set a precedent and either give the treats to birthday ds or share them out . Does the better room have a bigger bed, if so, I'd use that as an excuse. You're older and need comfort.

2kids2dogsnosense · 05/11/2016 17:52

Give them to your son - it's his birthday treat.

(Though I would be tempted by the choccies . . . )

GerdaLovesLili · 05/11/2016 18:49

Birthday biy should get birthday treats! Of Course he should. YDHIBVU.

RockinHippy · 05/11/2016 19:03

DH is BU

LetsAllEatCakes · 05/11/2016 20:06

Then I agree with Mummyoflittledragon. That's the best way I think.

SpunkyMummy · 05/11/2016 20:18

I agree with mummyoflittledragon as well.

mum2Bomg · 06/11/2016 09:35

Can't you just add bubbles and chocolate to their booking too?

BigChocFrenzy · 06/11/2016 13:47

"Dh has a habit of putting us financially over our children and it's something that we have argued about in the past"

So this is a long-running problem of your DH wanting first dibs and relegating the DCs

BadToTheBone · 06/11/2016 13:49

Normally the person paying or the other couple, get the premium room, in this instance I'd give it to your ds, it's his birthday.

BigChocFrenzy · 06/11/2016 13:49

He's selfish.
On birthdays, the gift to DCs shouldn't be of a lower standard that what you both are having.
It would be odd

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/11/2016 13:51

But this isn't in the financial abuse league BigChoc. Don't know about stuff in the past. You are both paying for your dcs so perhaps best not to overthink on this occasion.

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