Who gets the premium room?

[Strandedinthehills]

My husband and I have taken my son and his girlfriend away for the weekend for my sons birthday. Couldn't book two standard rooms so had to book one standard one premium. The premium room comes with a bottle of champagne, flowers and chocolates.

I think my son and his girlfriend should get the premium room as it's a treat for his birthday. My dh thinks we should as we are paying. Who is bu?

'Ds will question it. I'm sure of it.'

That's rich of him. He's already getting a weekend away. FFS. My folks took us away as a treat. Their room was better than ours. Never crossed my mind to have a dig at them for that.

Your DH is right, you keep the room and the gifts.

Would you consider changing to two premium rooms?

If not, I'd give them the room and perks and bring a chilled bottle of champagne and chocolate from home. I can understand why your dh feels a bit hard done by but he's taking this a bit far.

I feel like the parents should get the little treat as they were good enough to take DS away, and surely any son would rather his mum has flowers and chocs than take them himself?

I was with you until this
Ds will question it. I'm sure of it.

Is your DS usually do spoilt? If so I can see your husbands point

LOL @ all these accusations of your husband being tight when you're giving your son a weekend away with his girlfriend for his birthday. Your son is spoilt as hell if he'd even question that.

Hate to ask, but you say 'My' son... Is DH birth-dad?

If my DH was being so joyless about a DSs treat weekend I'ld ask him to either stay home, or come in the spirit, I would not have him there being all bitter and tight and making it a misery

Is there something else going on? Is your DH your DS's step dad? Or have DH and DS fallen out?

So now he's bitter, tight and miserable . . . but the son who will surely question it deserves to be spoilt.

Is it just me that thinks it's a bit odd to have joined the DS and his gf on the weekend away , surely the birthday treat is paying for them to go away . Anyhow I'd let the DS have the better room as it's supposedly his birthday treat .

Your husband needs to get over this odd idea that paying gets you the lion's share when giving a gift. When you give a normal "boxed gift" for someone, you get nothing at all and the recipient gets the lot!

Personally, I would think it's weird to give your ds a birthday gift at exactly the same time as treating yourselves to the same thing only nicer. Obviously you should get the nicer room if this weren't a birthday treat, but if the whole point of it is to celebrate his birthday, then to make sure you get the best of everything because you are paying for it is a bit of a crap attitude to gift-giving. What would you be wanting to use the champagne for? Toasting your ds's birthday without him?

You and dh should have the nice room and the ds and his partner should get the chocolates and fizz.

Give them the nice room and treats.

Neither your dh nor your ds sound that lovely. You take the room and tell them both to sod off

If it's your son's birthday treat he should get the better room and goodies.

I agree, I would find it rude if your DS questioned it. And the price of a room away seems like a lot, to me, for an adult's birthday present.

But, if that's what you're doing, giving yourselves the fancy room very odd.

Why are you going with them at all?

So your DH agrees to book and take your ds away for his birthday but then won't give him to "special" room, Your DH is a weird man!

Surely as it's your ds birthday and that is why your going away it's an easy decision.

Can't you add fizz and chocolates to your standard room?

Gees, if someone gives me a free weekend away I'm fucking grateful, not looking askance at the fact they have a better room with fizz and choccies or think I should be given the royal treatment at someone else's expense. The treat is the weekend away.

Can you leave DH at home and take someone nicer?

Yeah, OP, your husband is a real arse and tight, giving a weekend away as a gift .

The only reason I think hed question it is because we kind of talked him into this weekend away to begin with. He was happy with just a meal at a restaurant. We sold it as a treat away for him as his girlfriend for their birthday. To me it feels like us getting the nicer room makes it more about me and dh wanting a weekend away and using sons birthday as an excuse.

Dh is is his dad.

Is DS expecting to get the fancy room?

Because if yes... that sounds extremely spoiled, so I wouldn't give him the premium room.

But yes, I think giving them the premium room is probably best.

If it's just about the champagne DH should simply take the champagne and give them the premium room.

But why doesn't he want them to have the champagne?

We are talking both my sons and their partners but it's for only one sons birthday. So both sons and partners will get equal rooms even though it's for ones birthday.