AIBU to insist that ds loses no more break times

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I'll try and keep this fairly short. Ds y6 has lost 2 break times today because a parent has made a complaint against him. Her ds said my ds has asked another student to ask him something rather rude and head teacher has said ds has lost all breaks until she believes he can behave. I am furious that it's all very he said, she said and that ds hasn't been believed at all but the other child who could have made the whole thing up ( they don't get on) doesn't seem to have been questioned, just believed straight away.
My AIBU is would it be wrong of me to write to the head and say ds will not be losing anymore of his breaks and that I consider the matter closed. There is no proof and someone must be lying, whether that be ds or the other child I don't see how ds can be punished on the word of one person!

It does sound unfair & definitely worth querying with the teacher/HT, if nothing else, the open ended punishment sounds very off IMHO too.

As you are seeing your GP next week, can I suggest that you ask for his B12, Folate & Ferritin to be checked. Especially if he looks pale.

We have pernicious anaemia & I have seen similar symptoms get worse & worse in my own DD, to the point where if I hadn't known that she had no problems when much younger, I would have guessed she had an ASD, but with hindsight I can now see that her symptoms got worse when she was exposed to things that deplete B12 stores, gas for dental work, certain antibiotics etc.

She barely slept 2 hours a night at the end of it & had raging anxiety, plus ticks etc. All mostly gone with B12 injections. Might be an idea for his DF to be tested too as its hereditary. Do ask for copies of his results though as there is a lot of controversy about "normal" uk levels, varies according to where you live, plus its very low anyhow. DD was supposedly well in range, but kids need a lot more B12, especially when puberty is kicking in.

Ds has beta thalassaemia trait Rockin so his levels are always low but can not have iron.

I would definitely have a chat with his doctor about low B12 levels then as he sounds like he has a lot if symptoms of deficiency & I think it can sometimes go hand in hand with low iron. Low folate is apparently similar symptoms too & there is a an MFTHR gene defect that can mean they cant convert folic acid into the bioavailable folate. Ive had to have us checked for this gene defect as it often goes hand in hand with EDS & I seem to remember thalisseamia (sp) was mentioned in conjunction with that too.

I will come back with a good B12 link

GOOD B12 LINK HERE

Bare in mind they don't need to show all symptoms, mine hasn't had any mental retardation for example, quite the opposite in fact as she has been G&T most of her school years

& as he has health problems, even if it's just the low iron which will have an effect, the school should be supporting him, not punishing him for his disabilities

There us definitely a link with B12 deficiency, taken from a medical article on the oakland kids hospital website...

Individuals who have Beta thalassemia trait have microcytosis and hypochromia; there may be targetting, elliptocytosis, though some individuals have an almost normal smear. Hemoglobins A2 and F will be elevated on hemogram results. These hematologic features can be accentuated in women with trait who are pregnant and in individuals who are folate or iron deficient. If iron deficiency is concurrent with beta thalassemia trait there may be a normal Hgb A2. Iron deficiency causes decreased hemoglobin production, and folate or vitamin B12 deficiency can lead to megaloblastic anemia with increased Hgb A2. Both of these deficiencies need to treated prior to evaluation for thalassemia trait. In iron, B12, and folate replete individuals, the Hgb A2 can be as high as 3.5 to 8% and the Hgb F as high as 1 to 5%. Generally, beta thalassemia trait is milder in African-Americans (who frequently have a promoter gene mutation) but has a similar presentation in individuals of Chinese, Southeast Asian, Greek, Italian, and Middle Eastern heritage.

Taking things very literally, the hand flapping , hyperactivity could be signs of something on autistic spectrum. Good that you are seeing the GP next week. Why don't you ask for an appointment with the child psychs at the hospital.
Alternatively we got private appointments for our kids for about £100 which then finally started the ball rolling when we had a very unsympathetic GP.