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AIBU to think I should get the puppy?

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GiveUmEll · 02/11/2016 17:03

We have a tri-colour beagle who is 6 months. I ideally would like to get another puppy and have been looking at the sweetest baby Cavapoo puppy. We went to a kennel the first time we bought our boy and have gone back to ask about the puppy. We chose the Cavapoo and have been in motions to buy it, signing paperwork and putting a deposit down. She has met our daughters and they talk about her constantly! But, I went to the breeders today to give her the rest of the money and she said that she wasn't going to sell her to me anymore because her niece wanted her! I said that we'd payed and she just refused to let me give her the money and buy our puppy. I can't tell my girls that we can't have the puppy anymore, they'll be devastated! I want my dog!

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Wolfiefan · 02/11/2016 20:49

Navy and White. Check out my user name!!
Mega clue there.
I fell in love with the breed over 20 years ago. I am finally in a position to have one. Can't quite believe it but I have actually had the ok from a breeder.
We have been house checked and informally interviewed. I have attended shows and met loads of owners over the past year and a half.
Please keep it all crossed for me!!

NavyandWhite · 02/11/2016 20:51

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FluffyPineapple · 02/11/2016 20:54

Do NOT buy from a puppy farm - Ever! Go to a reputable dealer. In your case I would get another beagle. Then they will both require the same amount of stimulation and exercise and have exactly the same needs. Don't worry about the age difference. There is 6 months difference between my two Labradors. They are the best of friends and have caused me no problems.

AliceInUnderpants · 02/11/2016 21:22

They have eight dogs - four of which are working? They have bred at least six of them this year?

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Cherrysoup · 02/11/2016 21:33

So what if it's a puppy farm, if the animals healthy and well what does it matter. Where does any animal come from these days

Words fail me (apart from goady fucker)

Lilmisskittykat · 02/11/2016 21:42

I got both my dogs from dogs4us.

I had no idea about puppy farms at the time I just thought genuine breeders used the place as an outlet.. but for reassurance they have both been great family pets.

Problem is rescue home probably wouldn't let us have a dog because I only have a yard and wanted 300 for a dog and a breeder I understand from a close friend can be very fussy about who owns their dogs she had to be vetted plus can require you to let them use your pet for breeding as part of the purchase, not to mention the extra they charge for the dogs.. she paid over 1.2k for a malamute !! until then dogs4us will continue to work and sell.

Pisssssedofff · 02/11/2016 21:47

This is the thing, the scantimonous twats that get all up in arms about these things forget "the criteria" most rescue places apply stop many many people adopting - sadly you could say the same about children. We had an elderly Labrador we practically kidnapped from dogs trust, poor soul was going out of her mind in kennels with the noise of other dogs barking she just wanted to snooze by somebody's fire. Having a child under 10 meant we couldn't have her in theory. The dog and my three year old never crossed paths and until she passed away the old girl had a nice peaceful life.
It's supply and demand, the animal shelters and charities need to climb down off their high horses and actually do the right thing for the animals.

Lilmisskittykat · 02/11/2016 21:49

I do agree with you pisssedoff.. even a working person with love to give and a warm home must be better then having to live out your days in a kennels.. I'll never understand it

Pisssssedofff · 02/11/2016 21:52

Our Lucy would have literally gone mad if she'd stayed there, she shat herself if I dropped a plate or something on the tiled floor. We lived in a 5 bed detached cottage with huge gardens at the time and we're still deemed unworthy. Luckily we just never returned her from the trial visit and she had a lovely few years loved to bits.

Pisssssedofff · 02/11/2016 21:53

And I was a stay at home mum at the time.

Soubriquet · 02/11/2016 21:54

I will agree with rescues

Their blanket policies harm more than help

JenLindleyShitMom · 02/11/2016 22:03

Christ people are still so stupid about dogs. There is literally no excuse nowadays to not know about fucking puppy farms FFS! 2 seconds into your "I want to get a dog" research will have warned you what to watch out for. Ugh.

BeauHeaux · 02/11/2016 22:03

It appears that some people haven't got a clue what a "puppy farm" is and what the term means. And no, it isn't a lovely farm where puppies are born, and play with Treacle the pony, it's where female dogs are bred so intensively that they die and puppies wind up with serious ailments that YOU will end up forking out for at the vets. Why anyone would pay a sleazy dog dealer who places profit above the welfare of animals and contribute to the suffering of these animals is beyond me.

TupsNSups · 02/11/2016 22:13

CosyCoupe88 I read about little rascals in the echo, I do not own a dog but I was appalled with what I read.

AliceInUnderpants · 02/11/2016 23:14

Pisssssedofff

There are many, many rescues, with different criteria for different dogs. I am a disabled single parent to two children with autism. I live in a rented home. We were home checked and deemed fine. 5 months ago we adopted a (12 months in a few days) gorgeous Romanian puppy who had a horrible start to life.

If you were being rejected by various reputable rescue centres/charities, you need to question why.

GinIsIn · 03/11/2016 05:08

Also, not everyone SHOULD have a dog. There are plenty of people who can't provide the time, attention or long term care and finance a dog needs. These will be weeded out by a rescue or a reputable breeder, but all they have to do is flash the cash at a puppy farm and they walk away with a living, breathing animal they can't or won't care for. Our dog was a puppy farmed pup, sold to fucking idiots as a Christmas present for their very small children. By April they'd nearly killed her and she came to us in a horrific state with health problems both from being puppy farmed and from shitty owners.

Pisssssedofff · 03/11/2016 06:50

AliceInUnderpants - because we had kids under 10 that was why - you know the time when most families are home based and enjoy having a pet around. Now they are all nearly over 10 I have my life back, I'd pass the criteria but no way do I want to be tied to a dog really.

tabulahrasa · 03/11/2016 07:00

No rescue that I've ever come across has a blanket policy of not rehoming dogs to people with children under 10...just individuals ogs they've assessed as not being suitable to live with children.

TrionicLettuce · 03/11/2016 12:09

Also, not everyone SHOULD have a dog.

This!!

There are plenty of rescues with very flexible rehoming policies, based on the individual needs of every dog, who will bend over backwards to make sure they get their dogs into the right homes.

If people are being consistently turned away by reputable rescues and decent breeders then they should perhaps be asking themselves if there's actually a good reason why this is happening instead of just going and getting a puppy from whoever will give them one.

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/11/2016 12:55

Now they are all nearly over 10 I have my life back, I'd pass the criteria but no way do I want to be tied to a dog really.

So within the space of a few years you no longer want the commitment involved with caring for a dog? Were you planning on having a dog that only lived for 3/4 years?

Pisssssedofff · 03/11/2016 13:02

It was actually 13 years ago as it happens by which stage the dig would be fine to be left alone for periods of time, no doubt you never ever leave your dog etc etc .....

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/11/2016 13:03

I do, but leaving the dog alone wasn't what you said.

no way do I want to be tied to a dog really

^thats a bit more than leaving the dog alone for a couple of hours.

Pisssssedofff · 03/11/2016 13:06

Yeah true and again that was why I wanted an older dog not a puppy that would live another 10-15 years longer than I wanted to be house bound. It all worked out very well in the end.

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GiveUmEll · 03/11/2016 23:12

Vet has assured me that Rowan is healthy and farm is not a puppy farm. Can anyone suggest a good rescue website to look through? Still haven't been given deposit back. Really wish some of you would stop calling me stupid and an idiot.

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AliceInUnderpants · 03/11/2016 23:14