Be absolutely honest. If you could do it all again, would you have had kids ?

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I'll answer later.

Yes 100% and glad we have two as I didn't like being an only child. If I could change anything I would have had them a bit later (I had my eldest on my 25th birthday ) but I wasn't done being a party queen and found the first year really hard to adjust to mummy life but I love the absolute bones of them.

Omg.im filling up at this thread. Sad for those who have lost babies and those who have regrets. Sad at the comment over long days but short years. So true
I have three dc and still hope for a fourth. I dont ever regret any dc only wish id had more. Had couple of unnecesary long gaps.
I found a photo today of youngest 2. Little one is a chubby toddler then but a little boy now
I regret things too-wishing the time away and moaning how hard it is. It flies by. And the early years,though difficult in one way do not compare to the teenage years.

yes. my 3 are all adults now and I think my life has been richer for having them

Yes.
I am 43 and have a beautiful little 6 year old who I adore and she adds to my life everyday .

I've answered this question before, on another chat forum, & it was hard to type it out.

I have one child, a son, now 18. I assumed I would have have had 2 or 3 (twins with the second pregnancy) by the time I was 30. It took me ages to conceive, & he was born when I was nearly 33. My marriage is pretty crap.

If I had an absolute choice, I would choose to have had no children at all, & to not have married my husband.

Much as I love my son, he is not the reason I exist & is now becoming an independent adult. I'm glad I had him, but if, looking back, if I had the chance to change the number of children I would have, I would change it to zero, rather than to two or three.

Yes I would.

Yes to them no regrets.... but the father some days.... I have a few .

Absolutely! I loved every minute of it with both my boys, even the rough times.

If I had my 'druthers (and more money) I would have started a few years earlier and had one or two more.

My DTDs were a lovely surprise, and I'm so glad I have them (this, after many years of not wanting to have kids...).

God, yes. They're my life. My reason for being.

I would have started earlier and had 2 more in an ideal world. 4 sounds perfect.

I had such an awful, awful mother, and I was so very scared that I would be like her that it took me ages to have children. Turns out I'm OK. Not brilliant and I get it wrong, but I'm also not a sociopath, so they're always going to have it better than I did. Thank God.

Wish I'd started earlier and had six. Heartbroken it looks as if I'll only have one but he is my world.

aquashiv,
Your not alone there.
I sometimes wish I could turn back time,but then I wouldn't have my little girl.
Thanks for sharing that .

Yes. I can honestly say I would. It's hard and I'm no earth mother, but I love my daughter and I don't regret a thing.

I just wish I could have more.

Not even a question !!!!!

No.

I have 3 DD's. My biggest/only regret is that I didn't have more. Being a mum was all I ever wanted to be. I loved every minute of being a new mum annd having a new born baby and didn't find it hard at all. Annoyed at myself for listening to everyone around me saying 3 is enough. Pissed off at Doc who persuaded DH that having snip would be in my best interests.

Notangelina, I read your post while half in a doze. You wrote: I have 3DDs, and I thought, God, that must make buying bras difficult...

LOL I wish they were DD. Having babies has made my boobs way too big but that's a whole different thread I think!

What strikes me reading this is that lots of people who had their children young wish they'd had them older and people who had them older wish they'd had them younger! There are obviously advantages and disadvantages to whichever way you do it!

I adore my kids; the very worst thing was losing dd. But..... even though her death was worse than you could imagine, I wouldn't change having had her. And her brothers have brought me so much joy and love that I wouldn't change having them either.

I do think, yes, it would be nice to be able to say "Next week, I'll walk the Camino de Santiago" or "I'll live in an apartment in Paris" etc but by and large it's been positive.

No. They cause me so much anxiety that I will never have another single moment of happiness or relaxation for as long as I live.
It is relentless and thankless and boring.

All it's brought is guilt and worry.

No.

That's not to say I wish I'd never had them, I don't mean that at all but if I could go back and do it all again I don't think I'd want kids.

No I wouldn't.

Too much anxiety. Too unpredictable.

Yes! I waited until I was late thirties so had lots of travel and experiences first. I was ready and I love it so much. Can't relate to people who are looking forward to kids leaving home.