Be absolutely honest. If you could do it all again, would you have had kids ?

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Definitely, all 3 of them, exactly how they are and the difference in age gap too.
in fact, wouldn't change a thing about my life.
Not meant to sound smug, I'm just one of those type who are happy with their lot.

Yes, but I would have stopped at two. I have three and adore the little one, but life would have been easier with two.

See here's another thing I really really struggle with. My half brothers dad is an absolute psycho, no matter how much you may not like it as a mother the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Most of my ex's twattish behaviour is culture not genetic but Fark what if it was 😟

Absolutely. Dc now mid/late teens and such a pleasure to have around.

Dh and I were developing into old grouches before they came along- and we were only in our 30s. Can't imagine what we'd be like by now if we'd just carried on unchecked.

I think different children do different stages of their lives better, and different parents cope better with different stages of their lives too. I find the teen years pleasant, partly no doubt because dc are very pleasant people, partly because I don't at all mind being challenged verbally or being made to examine my own opinions. I struggled with the early days when dd was failure to thrive.

The only thing that is not perfect is their genetics- they have inherited a condition from me which has caused a lot of suffering for dd in particular. Having said that, she finds life worth living, not least because of the way she overcomes her difficulties.

Now yes,when they were small I'm not sure my answer would be the same.I have been a single parent since my kids were tiny and its been so hard.
But they are fantastic,and I am a better person for having them,but it really could have gone the other way.

No.

Yes! I'm the happiest I've ever been (snuggled up to my lovely 2 yo as I type)

Yes but I would have started younger and had more

no. I love my DC and now that I have them I wouldn't change them. but ist us hard. One if the DC has severe ASD and LDs. as a result I am totally isolated. No social life, no friends, no money (oy work p/t as there is no childcare), marriage is going down the drain (we are now carers ,not parents) with no prospect of things getting better. When I die I will leave a very vulnerable child behind. I also struggle to offer my NT child a normal childhood as everything is geared towards their disabled sibling. If I had known that this would be me life then no, I would have remained childless.

Absolutely no fucking way

One child, very difficult...constant problems with school/behaviour

Soul destroying and utterly draining.

Yes. Sometimes I think having 3 rather than 2 was a mistake, though.

I'm glad I 'lived' and developed my career before settling down to family life.

Yes. No question. 1st year with 1st DC was fucking hard, but after that it got better and better. Now have a 4yo and 3mo and so far having 2 is a doddle: genuinely finding it easier than having 1 (am aware this is unlikely to last!). Wanted a slightly smaller age gap but had MCs along the way so wasn't to be, and the little one is a total joy. I adore both of them beyond all words.
Even though I started young, I'd packed in a fair bit of partying, travelling etc beforehand; then did a year of uni after DC1 and hated it. I know the grass is absolutely not greener, I never resent the lack of freedom. I feel like I'm right where I'm supposed to be, and loving damn near every minute. My kids are the best thing in my life (DH not far behind) - I wouldn't change a thing. It's a joy and a privilege to be bringing up these little people. I hope we're not done - both me and DH are more than up for DC3, but I have a history of mc so I know there are no guarantees. If we have no more I will still be eternally grateful to have my 2 lovely babies. I'd do the whole thing again in a heartbeat.

yes and I'd do it again at the young age I was too (16) and with hindsight have one or two more close together

I am 36 now and free but with an amazing daughter living independently of me... best of both worlds. I got to bring up a wonderful kid and now I'm living childfree

Yes! I left it late - I was 35 and 2 month shy of 40 (yes very lucky to not have fertility problems) when I had mine. I had a great and amazing life before! No regrets. Now a great life with them.

No kids, but if I can do it all over again, I'd have one at 20.

Have two at 20 and 18 and don't regret one single minute of their lives. They're my greatest achievement, my pride and joy.

Yes absolutely. In fact if I could I would rewind and do the last 8 years over and over again. My 3 test me to the limits of endurance but they also bring me the greatest joy.

Yes. I have three DC aged 23, 21 & 19 and they have enriched my life so much. Having them has been the best thing I ever did. So yes, I'd do it again.

I can't imagine never having the pleasure of meeting my 2 children.

Yes, this. I just love having them in my life.

I found going from one to two very hard, but now it's generally lovely. I'be found that having them has made me more driven on the career front too.

Yes 100%. Mine are still young (pre-school age and younger) so it's still very very challenging and demanding. I regularly have days where I think I just can't do this. But I love them so very much, I have never felt love like it.

They are so much hard work, knackering, cost a fortune and prevented me from doing so much. I have sacrificed a lot for them. I never would have forseen being a lone parent.

But I have never felt a love so powerful. Funny thing is I never seen a world with kids in it when i was younger and never was that fussed about having any. But my ex wife wanted kids. My sole purpose in life now is for them. I would never trade that love for the world. Given my life again I would do it again a million times over.

Having said that two is enough; I wouldn't have any more.

Now can any one point me in the right direction to get the snip.

Yes 100%
Don't get me wrong there have been times when I found it hard but I love my boys they make my heart burst with pride.

My youngest has Lf autism, currently non verbal, found out not long after splitting with exh due to an affair. There are many appointments, many set backs, this is really frustrating. It seems like they all want to give up on him, but I think he is amazing and has made me see the world so differently in a good way. Many people say about the bond we have. My boys make me a better person.

Plus they are only 1 yo and 5 yo so still young and very hard work. But I heard it gets easier (or maybe that is a vicious rumour)

Mine are 20, 21 and 23 and a big, fat YES from me. Hard work but worth every moment. Dh sometimes mentions all the money we'd have if we hadn't had them (just in one of those wondering what life would like moments) - they've cost us a lot with one who went to vocational boarding school - but my life wouldn't have been complete without them. I'm so proud of them and they're wonderful company and they think we're the best parents in the world (like most of their friends think of their own parents) which is pretty satisfying

Yes, definitely. I have two and would have loved a third but it wasn't to be.