My daughter slapped a work colleague on the shop floor!

[plastique]

My daughter is distraught, she slapped a colleague at work whilst having playful banter (though they did cross the line), but it was a bit hard, left a mark for 10 mins and colleague is not happy...what should she do??

[slenderisthenight]

he deserved it

I think the OP meant her DD's slap was provoked by an unacceptable comment on other employee's part, rather than it being right to hit him boney. It's a turn of phrase to indicate that what he'd said to her was significantly out of line, rather than the physical assault being an appropriate response - the emphasis was on the fact that it was retaliation rather than aggression out of nowhere.

The OP has made it clear she doesn't think either person was behaving in an acceptable way and there are no circumstances in which this was the right course of action.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

slenderisthenight

there is never an excuse for violence, but you keep trying for one if you want.

[Justaboy]

Young Jack the lad has been a bit of an arse, upset a lot of people there it seems one day a girl looses it and slaps him and he's probably too bloody embarrassed to take it any further and seems to me its matter closed he's hopefully learnt to be less of an annoying prat, shes probably shocked to see how she lost her rag all have learnt they were being daft and that they weren't all that grown up end off.

If i were running that firm they'd get a bollocking off me that they come to work to make money to live on, profits for the company so it stays in business they get employment from that and that's how it is.

Works there for those reasons not to sod around at.

[slenderisthenight]

boney

My point didn't include the notion that there is ever an excuse for violence. Thanks.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

slenderisthenight

And yet you still included an excuse.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

And the excuses for assault continue.....

[slenderisthenight]

boney I'm aware of the point you're trying to make. I don't agree.

[kali110]

Diemme the dd is the only one who has learnt something from this ( i've never said i wanted her to lose her job) it was people on this thread who should be ashamed of their responses. I think the dd will actually take this in.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

slenderisthenight

If we all agreed the world would be a much less interesting place, but I am saddened by various posters acceptance of violence.

[slenderisthenight]

boney I think you're possibly unnecessarily sad. But I agree with your other point.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

slenderisthenight

How much violence do we accept?

The little girl who is hit by a little boy because "he likes her"?
The little boy hit by the little girl and told that "girls don't hit as hard as boys so its not as bad"?
The boy that hits other boys because "boys will be boys"
The pupil that hits other pupils because they have a "bad home life"?
Someone who hits someone else because that person said something/has something/likes a different group that they didn't like?

When do people stop making excuses for violence?
Is it when its you being hit?
Your friend being hit?
Your DP being hit?
Your child being hit?

[slenderisthenight]

boney

There is a particular response that you feel is the only acceptable way to respond to violence. Anything that presents as different to that response is classed as permissive by you. I disagree with your classification of exactly what constitutes an acceptable response but not with the basic idea that all violence is unacceptable. I don't expect us to be on the same page here but as we agree, that's ok.

[differentnameforthis]

To be fair to the OP, she has never defended her DDs actions, accused the guy of harassment or done any victim-blaming Except where she said he deserved it...

[BoneyBackJefferson]

slenderisthenight

We all draw lines in the sand.