We gave friends nothing for their wedding....

[Diel]

We were looking for a very specific gift for our friends that we couldn't get in stock and wouldn't be practical to carry on the actual day. We explained to the groom that we would drop by with the gift when they were home from Honeymoon at some stage and he said that they had wondered if some gifts had gone missing as a number of people hadn't brought anything (not sure why others didn't have gifts but point is it was certainly noted) Anyway, it's only just came back to me that we never did track down the gift or give anything else in it's place whilst reading another thread on here. I feel terrible!! We were both at the full day of the lovely wedding of good friends and fully intended to follow up with the gift. This was 3 years ago (I know, awful!!) my question is, AIBU to send a gift now with our heartfelt apology? I was thinking I would just be honest about how it happened and hope they enjoy a very late gift.

Absolutely better late than never.

Yes,do it!

If it was me I would be delighted to receive a gift, late or not. We had said no need to bring gifts at our wedding but most people did anyway which was lovely but not at all expected. A couple of people didn't bring gifts which was of course fine but if I received on today all these years later saying Fuck! Meant to give you this, I would fond it very touching and also funny! Go for it

I think you should do something now you've remembered. It would be a very nice gesture.

Can't quite work out how anyone can 'forget' to give a present that you've ordered or are tracking down but there you go....

Our best man (best friend of DH) did similar and said gift never materialised and we've been married 30 years! I always did think it was a bit odd TBH as he is absolutely minted. It never affected the friendship but reading this thread has made me think how strange it was. (now hoping for a very nice gift from him )

It would be a great thing to do and it would put the whole thing to bed for good, you don't want your friends pondering in 30 years time about when you never did get that gift to them!

Give them the gift! It would be lovely.

I don't understand the people who would be angry about it. Would you have forgotten and only just be reminded about the missing gift? In that case, it clearly wasn't a big issue if you'd forgotten. Or would you have been harbouring bad feelings all this time and let it out finally? But why would an attempt to repair the issue do that? Shouldn't that be what you want, an apology?

I remember at our wedding two good friends (both single, not a couple but close friends of each other) told us they were clubbing together to get us something specific and would get it to us after the wedding. They never did. 4 years later I would be thrilled to get that gift. I was really looking forward to it and have thought about it many times since. It's no big deal but I have thought I'd be so embarrassed to do that myself.

Go for it. At least they will see yours was a genuine mistake. I had so many friends and family tell me on the day they forgot my card, never did receive one! I wasn't expecting giftd from everyone, I know it's the done think but I've hit hard times myself many of times so I know a wedding can be costly after outfits and money for drinks all day. But a card there's no excuse really!

To go to a wedding and not bring a present is really shitty.

3 years later is taking the piss a bit as well but if they're good friends then do it

I'm gobsmacked at the angry responses here. I can totally understand that mistakes happen sometimes and if it was me I'd be delighted with a surprise gift 3 years later. Go for it!!

If your still good friends with them, I would, things happen. Why did you not just give them a gift card or something if your present was not ready in time for the wedding.

If you're good friends then I reckon they'd be happy you remembered & will be delighted to receive a gift now. I'd be very pleased. Out of curiosity, what was the original gift?

On another thread I said my SIL promised to paint an abstract picture of us from one of our wedding photographs. The thought filled me with horror but what can you say. She'd just had a baby and didn't have the time thankfully.

Roll on years and she presented us with a beautiful box and a selection of mommin mugs (I had admired them in someone house) She said it was to make up for the fact she hadn't done the painting (yahhhh).
I was delighted.