To want my birthday food gifts to be unopened?

[WorkingBling]

I got some fancy hot chocolate as a birthday gift to go with another food gift. Of course I would share it with the family but aibu to raise an eyebrow when I got home to discover that dh and ds had opened it and tried some today? I didn't freak out or yell or anything but I was a little surprised that at the very least the first mug would include me?

Am I just a selfish cow? Dh thinks so and is basically not talking to me now. Should I be apologising?

Where does sharing end and thieving begin?

As far as I'm concerned, pretty much in the same place. Sharing is being asked if you wish some. Thieving is taking without asking first. So if you haven't asked and you haven't been asked, you aren't 'sharing' you're stealing.

The man in that thread is an arse.

It is the most basic childhood rule. You ask permission before you take something that does not belong to you.

He is really rude and lost a great opportunity to teach DS manners.

My friend gave me some Chocolate for my dd bday the other day, me and my other dd ate some on the way home, but it was very wrong of us 😕 Yanbu

over react THAT!
Love this, am going to use it!

OP, YANBU.

I remember sharing my dsis's sheer aghastment that her rather tubby lodger helped herself to her Christmas chocolate orange

If I was out I wouldn't expect dh to ring me to ask if it was ok to open a hot chocolate to give some to one of my kids. He would assume the answer was yes! Me and dh open each others letters, borrow each others phones and eat each others treats etc. I wouldn't be bothered if he opened bath stuff or watched a dvd that was a gift of mine before me either. I guess it depends on the kind of relationship you have. I'm assuming the dh thought it would be ok and the op doesn't which is obviously a problem.

No not at all! I think you should have a chat and agree on what happens if one of you is given a food gift. In our house we have baskets that belong to each of us that we put any food gifts in after xmas/easter/ect that aren't for sharing. OH and I keep up on the top shelves to stop small hands 'borrowing'.
Other than that, anything in the cupboards is for anyone. It usually prevents this happening....

It was very disrespectful and selfish of him, glad he's apologised. It may be 'only food' but it's YOUR food, and heaven knows, we get little enough we can call our own once we're in relationships and have children.

Bogeyface, your 'over react THAT' is wonderful.

it's rude and thoughtless.

no YANBU