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AIBU?

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To leave hungover DH with baby?

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luckylucky24 · 23/10/2016 10:05

DH agreed to have 1yr old today but went to a wedding last night and is hungover. I expressed my frustration at not being able to go shopping as planned today (he didn't get me a birthday present so this was to be it - shopping alone without the children) and he said "just take the kids down stairs and when I have been sick i'll be fine".
AIBU to think he is not in a fit state to care for a one year old but leave him to do it anyway?
I have arranged DS to go to his Grans (she cannot have 1 yr old) and will prepare her lunch so he cannot claim he "didn't know what to feed her".
Rescheduling isn't really an option as we have plans most weekends between now and xmas. I also feel I shouldn't have to as I have had the kids alone for the last 24 hrs so he could go to this wedding, even gave him a lift at 9am to his mates and in return I get let down!
Would you just go?

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Smartleatherbag · 23/10/2016 10:07

Wow, he has been really unfair, ruining your plans. If the baby will be fine with him the number go, and put the phone onto silent.

Smartleatherbag · 23/10/2016 10:07

Sorry, autocorrect went crazy there!

Hotwaterbottle1 · 23/10/2016 10:07

Yep Id just go!! I'd also not make her lunch!

CremeBrulee · 23/10/2016 10:10

I get why you are u happy but wasn't it pretty obvious when you planned this that he'd be hungover after attending a wedding party the night before?

LittleBearPad · 23/10/2016 10:11

He'll survive. I'd go. Don't make lunch. A father should know what their one year old will eat.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 23/10/2016 10:12

Everyone here will just tell you to go, people trot it out here all the time, a thread says my dh went out and got day arsed drink and fell in sick at 4am and mn's reply is "spa day". But I couldn't, for my sake because I couldn't relax and for my dc's because if I don't want to be stuck with a hungover lump all day then why would they. Probably not what you want to hear but even if you go now your child free shopping day is still a bit meh isn't it

NoIsAnAnswer · 23/10/2016 10:13

Make him a coffe. Give him 2 ibuprofen and tell him you're leaving in half an hour and tell him to get in the shower.

Dress one year old and feed her.

Leave in half an hour.

Baby will be fine. Dh can get on with it. You can have a lovely day

ageingrunner · 23/10/2016 10:13

He sounds useless. Does he generally not feed his children?

StealthPolarBear · 23/10/2016 10:13

I'd not go, I wouldn't leave a baby with a vomiting parent. Despite the reason for the vomiting, it is not the baby's fault.

Giratina · 23/10/2016 10:14

I don't think I'd go just because you'll be worried all day and won't enjoy it.

MatildaTheCat · 23/10/2016 10:15

Give him half an hour to get his shit together and then leave. Return at your own convenience. Switch your phone to silent. He'll be ok, just miserable. Shame.

PinkyOfPie · 23/10/2016 10:15

Do it. He'll learn the hard way hangovers and kids don't mix!

mycatstares · 23/10/2016 10:16

What the hell are you with such a loser for,
he doesn't know what to feed his kids for lunch?!

Get rid of the bloody idiot and stop wasting you life away with him!

Peanutandphoenix · 23/10/2016 10:16

I would go if I where you and leave the dick head to it don't even make DD any lunch drunken ass can do it himself. Enjoy your relaxing day of shopping you deserve it.

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luckylucky24 · 23/10/2016 10:18

I'm not going all day. 3 hours max. Yes he is useless at feeding them. If he isn't hungry it doesn't occur to him they may be.

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Meadows76 · 23/10/2016 10:18

I would totally go and leave him to struggle on through. It's the worst thing ever feeling hungover and you just want to curl up in bed but can't. Definitely don't let his selfish actions ruin your day. Then later when lo is in bed have a serious talk about his complete disregard for you.

Ilovenannyplum · 23/10/2016 10:18

Yeah I'd go. He's an idiot. If he knew that he would be in charge today, he shouldn't have been so selfish and got pissed.

In The Night Garden on repeat all day will do wonders for his hangover

Make sure you spend a nice long time looking round the shops and absolutely stop for coffee and cake or wine

NoIsAnAnswer · 23/10/2016 10:19

3 hours?

Definitely go.

And enjoy every minute! Don't rush back

theclick · 23/10/2016 10:20

I would go so he learns his lesson. He probably expects you not to now.

amazingtracy · 23/10/2016 10:24

I cannot be the only person that has had to parent while hungover? Not an enjoyable experience granted but not exactly impossible either!
Bloody hell- its only 3 hours!!! Get your arse out the door and suggest that you all go out for dinner.
Disclaimer- single parent with no choice but to get on with it!

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luckylucky24 · 23/10/2016 10:26

To be fair he is very good at practical things like money, insurance etc. Planning, time keeping is appalling.
And yes I knew he may be hungover but to the point of being sick is irresponsible. If the tables were turned I would have reined it in wedding or not.

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NoIsAnAnswer · 23/10/2016 10:27

He's an adult and a father to two DC.

You have 2 DC. Not 3. Your youngest will be fine.

BeerBelly79 · 23/10/2016 10:28

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StealthPolarBear · 23/10/2016 10:28

No tracy but I'd avoid it if possible

StealthPolarBear · 23/10/2016 10:29

So if op had to work then she would have little choice. However I personally wouldnt go shopping leaving my baby in the care of an adult who is vomiting.

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