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'supported living for challenging youngsters' being built next door.

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getyourselfchecked · 18/10/2016 11:01

NC for this as could be outing. This is more of a WWYD really. I am at risk of sounding like a right NIMBY and I hate that its bringing this out in me but...
I am a single parent about to move to a new house. Building work has started on a 'supported living for challenging youngsters' development right next door.
Now, I have lived in some of the most gang-riven areas in the country without a thought but in my old age and with a child I admit I am worried about crime, drugs and ability to sell house on. I love the house and everything else is good.
WWYD? Still proceed with the purchase?

This is a genuine post, I don't have many people to discuss this with and I have never worried about house values etc in my life! I am genuinely surprised at my reaction to this.

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OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay · 18/10/2016 16:12

I work with vulnerable young people and, although I do love them dearly, I am often very glad that I'm able to go home.

StrawberryMouse · 18/10/2016 16:15

I think it depends on how "supported" the project is. If it's mainly self contained with a warden on-site part time then you may have more of an issue than if there is 24 hour on-site care? I used to work in housing and if it's any consolation, where I live at least, the projects were very well run and problems nipped in the bud very quickly.

Tiredtomybones · 18/10/2016 16:21

Pull out if the deal if you are still able. The opinions here show you will struggle to sell later. I personally would choose to live elsewhere, if I was in the same position.

S1lentAllTheseYears · 18/10/2016 16:26

I'd pull out while you still have the chance mainly because of the re-sale value of the house.

If I was renting, I would be willing to give it a chance as I can think of worse potential neighbour problems which you may not know anything about until you are stuck with them!

But I wouldn't buy there and would take the opportunity of a lucky escape.

Feel really sorry for the vendors. Unless they have known about this development and concealed it from you in the hope of completing before it started.

Creampastry · 18/10/2016 16:29

I'd pull out without doubt.

Strokethefurrywall · 18/10/2016 16:42

Yes I would absolutely pull out - not least because the value of your home will diminish and you will struggle to sell down the line.

Atenco · 18/10/2016 17:37

Everybody has to live somewhere, but I wouldn't bring a child to live there. I did have to bring my dd up in a crime-ridden area and it was awful, I could have handled it by myself.

getyourselfchecked · 18/10/2016 17:41

Hello, thanks to everyone for their views. Very much appreciated. As far as I know, it is not young people with learning disability. That wouldn't bother me at all and I'm sorry if any parents of LD children were offended. It's for homeless people aged 16-24. I'm going to contact the agency involved to find a little more about it. But I have a horrible sick feeling that I may have to withdraw from the sale.

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petitpois55 · 18/10/2016 17:43

What's the challenging behaviour OP. Are they homeless due to say drug abuse, theft, that sort of thing?

getyourselfchecked · 18/10/2016 17:48

I don't know, petit. I will try to find out before I make a decision.

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Andrewofgg · 18/10/2016 17:50

Don't even think of buying.

petitpois55 · 18/10/2016 17:50

Good luck Get

getyourselfchecked · 18/10/2016 17:51

.....But that is my worry. I absolutely know that anyone can end up homeless through no fault of their own and need a hand up in life but drugs/crime/ anti-social behaviour is a worry.

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petitpois55 · 18/10/2016 17:54

OP, even if you decided that you could live with whatever it is, would you not be concerned that you will have trouble selling on, or face a massive devaluation.
That's what's happened to a work colleague of mine. She has been trying to sell for two years, but as soon as potential buyers discover there is a bail hostel a couple of doors away, they very quickly lose interest.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 18/10/2016 17:57

I would not live there.

Lollipopgirls · 18/10/2016 17:58

It would be too risky for me. It doesn't make you a bad person if you do choose to find somewhere else, as a single parent especially you need to prioritise your own situation and finances. It would be the same if it was something like kennels or a pub - anything that has potential to be the cause of anti-social activity or noise needs careful consideration in terms of living next to. (it's not just NIMBY for social projects, IYSWIM).

Optimist3 · 18/10/2016 17:58

It could be a mixed bag. Some of the kids could be fine, others noisy, with lots of coming and goings, loud arguments, drugs. Also you have no idea what the hostels boundaries are and how well the young people will adhere to the rules.

Bagina · 18/10/2016 18:01

Like someone said up thread; I wouldn't buy next to a halls of residence either, so to me it doesn't matter why they are there, it would be down to a group of people in that age group living there.

MrsJayy · 18/10/2016 18:13

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HemanOrSheRa · 18/10/2016 18:13

I wouldn't buy it. I'm a Housing Officer and I've had to visit supported housing for young adults. It started off very well, with good on site support. Cut backs and a change in the support and the support provider means that it is now awful. There is no way that you can guarantee that any information you get now about a new 'all singing' acommodation complex will be the same in years to come.

mygorgeousmilo · 18/10/2016 18:15

I would pull out. I feel like an intolerant cow for saying it, but realistically I wouldn't put my investment in the line, and being brutally honest wouldn't want to live near a place like that either.

Justwanttoweeinpeace · 18/10/2016 18:17

I'd pull. How much would you want them to drop the house price before you are completely happy to move in?

Are you prepared to lose the same figure X years down the line?

RockinHippy · 18/10/2016 18:19

Honestly, as much as I would love to be PC & say it will all be fine, unless because of this build, you have already bought at a significantly reduced price, I would say, don't do it!

I say that based on a similar sort of development appearing close to my parents house, meaning that a few years later when they tried to sell it, they couldn't unless they reduced the price by a huge amount, meaning they couldn't afford the place they wanted to move too

Marmalade85 · 18/10/2016 18:20

I live opposite one of these in a posh bit of London and its horrendous

foreverandalways · 18/10/2016 18:21

Absolutely not.....you have also answered your win question by posting in the first instance.....good luck with your search....it's not meant to be X

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