"My bird"

[chelseafan123]

My fiancé is great, obviously. But her refers to me as his "bird" and other people in the same way, eg.

"Fred is a great guy, he really loves his bird."

I called him on this and asked him to stop doing it and he appeared baffled and asked: "Well how do you want me to refer to you then?" I said: "Well you know o call you your name, or my fiancé, why not do that?"

He thinks I'm being OTT and making something out of nothing. AIBU to be irritated by this?

reminds me of the guy in The Apprentice calling every woman a 'chick' What century are these guys living in???

This thread has reminded me of this character. Deep apologies to everyone

Hahaha
YANBU OP

YANBU. If you don't like it he shouldn't call you it.

It's our lass here. Doesn't bother me, but if it did, dp wouldn't call me it!

Oh YADNBU.

There is a professor in Birmingham who calls his wife 'the bird'. He is secretly the butt of national jokes in his discipline for doing so. Everyone does impressions behind his back.

My partner is one of those who's refers to others wifes as 'Mrs' and refering to me as 'the Mrs'. I find it highly amusing as he sort of thinks as it as Miss'is like at school that's Miss es ss pen when kids are confused about names and possessions IYKWIM. And we're not married....
It doesn't bother me, and I always refer to him as my partner to others who don't know him or sometimes other half. Although I have had a few people assume that because I haven't said boyfriend or husband that I'm gay. Doesn't bother me, more funny when I introduce them to my partner! LMAO Plus don't really want any homophobes as friends so scares them off too.

But the point is if you don't like it then your partner shouldn't call you it. I call my partner some daft things to his face and often in front of my kid sister (to wind her up), we also do the pretend kissy thing with lots of air kisses and stuff. Funny that if I gave him a quick kiss on the lips it doesn't get a rise.

I'm always baffled by how much MNers hate "bird" because to my ear it's just the female form of "bloke" (I blame Mark and Lard). But obviously if you hate it he should avoid it - just like people who loathe "nom nom" or "moist" or "holibobs".

(Apologies to all the people who have now run screaming from the thread.)

YANBU if it offends you then it's right to put him right - I don't mind it personally, I've been called worse 😂 Husband refers to me as "the boss" which is just his way of never making a decision 🙄😂

I wouldn't like it. But I also hate hearing woman refer to "my man" or "her man". I don't know why really.

If you don't like it he shouldn't do it. It's not something I could get worked up about though.

To me bird is a derogatory term, so I'd be very pissed off if DH used it.

Hate it. My DH used to say it, he knows better now.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess So did mine. Urrgh indeed! He didn't have lambchops and a Stereolab obsession by any chance?

YANBU. It makes no odds what the word is, if it makes you feel uncomfortable then it isn't on. Personally, I don't mind "bird" but cannot stand "chick" (or "kitten", for that matter). The worst of all though is "baby". It's a bit...yewtree.

Are you marrying Jim Davidson?

Mind you, I was referred to as "a Doris" once as in "is your Doris coming along too?". Uurrgh. Far worse. They got short shrift for that one!

Pretty old school I'd say - probably originally meant as someone said earlier - the female of bloke. I guess the issue is you don't like it and it feels wrong as you view the word differently to him. He thinks nothing of it- it's just something he's always said. My husband is early 50's and calls me 'doll' or 'doll face' or even 'doll bits'. Personally I've always hated it - he doesn't say it that often but when he does I have to restrain myself physically . He is just old school and thinks the world has become political correct madness.

It's missus that I always hear people's partners being referred to as.. ugh

Introduce him to people you know as "My Bitch".

Bird hasn't really bothered me. It's 'the ball and chain' or 'the bag' or 'her at home' that would make me cross. Just for the record, I work in retail so these are what I've heard men call their lovely wives and girlfriends!! I always tell the ladies to give them a thick ear!

DH refers to me as 'the wife'. As in, I'm sorry teacher, the wife doesn't do pick ups can I help?

I hate it. 'My wife' is ok. 'The wife' is not. I now refer to him as 'him indoors' when asked

I've always thought this a rather insulting thing to call your partner/girlfriend/fiancee. I also haven't heard ti used for so many years that I am amazed to hear that anyone still does.

'Bird' would annoy me. But hearing any man say, 'THE wife' makes me growl. Makes your wife sound like an object. 'MY wife' please...

People use words like that when they dont know your name.
Years ago an uncle explained he did it becase if he couldnt get his wife and his girlfriends names mixed up.

Hated it in the 70s and hate it now.

Men who call women birds are only confirming that they are the worms we pick up ;)

My bezzie & I call each other bird. It's a term of endearment for us. I now live at the other end of the country. Up here the equivalent is 'doll'. Seems to me if you don't like it he should respect your wishes