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AIBU?

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To be pissed off with anti-child threads on a parenting forum?

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ItShouldHaveBeenJessMass · 15/10/2016 08:12

I love Mumsnet. I love the diversity on here. However, lately I have seen more and more threads appearing (possibly from trolls) about how awful kids are, how the OP is so glad they are child-free, how they dont want kids etc, etc.

It's a parenting forum. I'm not suggesting for a minute that anyone should be excluded from any internet site, but the judgement of parents by non-parents on here is becoming more prolific by the day. You don't want kids? Cool. I hadn't planned on becoming a mother either, but here I am! I honestly don't care who joins MN, and I'm love learning about different viewpoints/lifestyles, but the anti-child crap? Why join in the first place?

AIBU?

OP posts:

JosephineMaynard · 15/10/2016 08:55

Can't say I've noticed this.

Graceflorrick · 15/10/2016 08:55

Some people don't want kids and find them annoying, that's perfectly fine. I love mine and couldn't imagine a world in which she didn't exist. Different strokes and all

PaulDacreCuntyMcCuntFace · 15/10/2016 08:55

KeyserSophie - Yes to this. Great NN BTW

That was a great thread. It was a good opportunity to get across some of the stereotypes that people have to face...

As a parent you're doomed to receive advice - the good, the bad and the bloody unhelpful - from everyone including your Mum and the stranger in the supermarket. As a woman without children you will almost certainly be on the receiving end of comments about how you are selfish not to have children, how you must not like them, or worst of all the sympathetic head tilt accompanied by a patronising 'Oh I'm so sorry'.

Guavaf1sh · 15/10/2016 08:56

I think this thread is a reference to the flight one too. These troll threads exist because this is a parenting forum. Trolls in LGBT fora are anti gay and trolls on conservative fora are momentum supporters. Even though it is obvious people keep feeding them

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 15/10/2016 09:00

That poster has other threads where she mentions her DH & DCs. I wouldn't take her seriously.

I'm childfree by choice & that was exactly the right decision for me, but for plenty of people it wouldn't be. That's fine.

I've been on MN since 2010, for a range of threads that don't involve parenting.

I don't go around moaning about other people's kids though, I even entertain toddlers on buses sometimes.

acasualobserver · 15/10/2016 09:00

I suspect the OP is making the mistake of judging the whole site on the basis of what happens on this board. Even the most cursory examination of other parts of Mumsnet reveals that AIBU is ... er ... untypical.

petitpois55 · 15/10/2016 09:05

You might be better off at Netmums OP. It's very gushing and glittery. I bet the seek out non parents and hound them off the site as well. [ smile]

SuperFlyHigh · 15/10/2016 09:09

Do you mean the snakes sorry children on a plane not having booked scenarios or the child free wedding posts OP? head tilt

I was directed here years ago to a PPI thread on reclaiming it.

Stuck to S&B first now sticking around for other boards, not a mum why should I be forced out?

petitpois55 · 15/10/2016 09:16

I first found Mumsnet by googling French campsites.

Whatthefoxgoingon · 15/10/2016 09:41

YABU

My kids are not that little anymore and I joined mumnset late in the parenting game. I barely talk about them here. MN is more than a forum to just talk about kids all the time. It's evolved.

IrenetheQuaint · 15/10/2016 09:48

As a childless woman who is v. fond of my niece, godchildren and friends' children generally, I am always amused by the number of posters who say they love their own children but dislike other people's. I've seen a couple of childless posters moan about children generally but it's pretty rare in my experience.

pinkyredrose · 15/10/2016 10:04

YABU. This site isn't strictly a parenting site, there are many sub forums here that have jack to do with kids just as many if not most of the threads aren't about kids. It's the word 'Mum' in 'Mumsnet' that's made you think this site is just for people to talk about kids.

OneFootinFront · 15/10/2016 10:13

YABU.

People constantly talk - here & in general - about how the need is for the whole community to participate & understand about raising children, and that children have rights to participate fully in society (eg on planes & trains).

If that is the case, then anyone and everyone should have a say or be able to express an opinion about children & the way they are raised.

We all pay taxes for the raising of children - each child in this country costs the state (ie taxpayers) around £100,000 by the time they're 18, and that's before you calculate what parents pay or forgo income.

So it cuts both ways.

JellyBelli · 15/10/2016 10:14

YANBU. Its like joining a dog forum to say you dont have a dog, would never have one, and dont think people should be allowed ot have dogs because they are dirty and dangerous.

Manumission · 15/10/2016 10:19

Why do you let it wind you up so much? You come across as slightly jealous that others are child free but you're saddled with a kid.

Only 3 mins and 8 seconds before a shrivelled trollish person proved your point for you OP That's pretty good going

alltouchedout · 15/10/2016 10:20

Meh. I can't say I have much time for the "ooh kids are so horrible" threads, and it confuses me a bit that people come to a 'by parents, for parents' forum to express their desire never to be parents and their dislike of children, but it doesn't bother me that much. I'm aware that despite the website name and tagline it's not actually a parents only site.
I just ignore them or have a little snigger to myself. I used to read the cf_hardcore lj back in the day just for laughs.

Manumission · 15/10/2016 10:23

Stuck to S&B first now sticking around for other boards, not a mum why should I be forced out?

Unless you post hatefully about DC, she's not talking about you is she Super?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 15/10/2016 10:26

So people that don't agree with you Manumission are automatically trolls then.

Manumission · 15/10/2016 10:28

I said trollISH.

Creampastry's post did have a trollish flavour to it. Quite deliberately I'm sure.

pictish · 15/10/2016 10:28

Yanbu...I agree with you. I have voiced my opinion about these sorts of posts before. It's rude, arrogant and insulting to rock up to a parenting site and sling shit around about how awful children are.

Manumission · 15/10/2016 10:30

It is mildy interesting, when you reflect on it, that certain actions and posts are considered ban-worthy on MN but "You come across as slightly jealous that others are child free but you're saddled with a kid." and the like don't seem to be.

Oysterbabe · 15/10/2016 10:31

Yanbu.
So you don't like kids, good for you. There are probably more appropriate sites to crap on about it.

blue25 · 15/10/2016 10:41

YABU. Perhaps because it's a touchy subject for you, you notice it more.

stitchglitched · 15/10/2016 10:44

YANBU, agree with Pictish.

Fauchelevent · 15/10/2016 10:47

Yabu, I don't need to want or even like kids to appreciate a good MIL thread. Mumsnet hasn't been about Mums or even just women for a long time. So why should everyone on here love or want kids?

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