To wonder if I am putting men off

[Circuscats]

Rather embarrassingly, I am mid/late thirties and haven't ever had a relationship to speak of. I've never lived with a man and have only had sex in the context of ONSs.

I've been urged to try POF and Match and others and I have ... and they just don't work.

Am I doing something obvious wrong? Friends seem to join and be in a relationship in minutes,

The best advice I had when online dating (and it worked for both me and my friend who ended up marrying someone as a result!) is to put up photos of yourself enjoying yourself with your friends. My photos ended up being a lot less flattering but attracted nice men who could see from the photos who I am not just what I look like.

I'm a die hard feminist but I'm just saying what my experience has been and that of friends. Of course it's bollocks but that's what seems to happen.

You have a DD, she could have been IVF, but to clear it up, no lurking father?