To think it's bloody odd for my sis to have brought this for DS's birthday?

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I know gender norms are crap but I think this is a bit far, I'm guessing she purposely brought these to prove a point. DS does have a lot of blue stuff and there isn't anything pink in sight, I don't know really, I just buy what I like while he is so small. If he liked them I'd buy them for him but he's so young and doesn't have a preference yet so it seems stupid to purposely buy pyjamas that are aimed at girls.

AIBU?

These are the ones btw:

http://www.mothercare.com/nightwear-and-underwear/giraffe-pyjamas---2-pack/LJB956.html?cgid=toddlergirlss_pyjamas#sz=12&start=32

they'd piss me off every time I saw them. It's not her baby & it's not her place to make a point of 'balance out your parenting' as though you were doing something awful.

^ This. It's very "look how modern I am"^. The colour is fine but the intent is obnoxious.

I think its more important that the message on the front of them says 'look at me'. Its a double whammy of 'up yours'. Passive aggression? No. There's nothing passive about any of this.

I wouldn't have put DS in them but only because I would resent the message implicit in them. Sometimes it's handy to have an extra set, with D&V bugs, etc.

I put DS in our nice pink snowsuit for his first two winters. It was really well designed, easy on and off and not too tight. He had delightfully long curly eyelashes and people always mistook him for a girl, while they mistook DD1 for a boy all the time even in the pink snowsuit when she wore it. It's funny to look back on because there is no mistaking them now at 26 and 23.

I had 3 MCs between DD1 and DS, and exMIL sent DD1 a jacket at Christmas when DD1 was about 24 months that was most certainly a boy's design - a very unfrivolous blue with brown and cream stripes across the chest. This was after my second MC and was accompanied by a note that said, 'Don't worry, you'll have a boy some day'. At that point I would have liked to bring a puppy to term. The jacket upset me every time I laid eyes on it.

exMIL sent DD1 a jacket at Christmas when DD1 was about 24 months that was most certainly a boy's design - a very unfrivolous blue with brown and cream stripes across the chest. This was after my second MC and was accompanied by a note that said, 'Don't worry, you'll have a boy some day'.

that is fucking shocking

Whatever your views on gender stereotyping it's a shit gift, isn't it? Make him wear them and she feels like she's won, give them away and she feels like she's proved her point about stereotyping.

Oh Math :(

They would annoy me to no end because of the message implied (that you're doing something wrong by dressing your son in boy's clothes) but I'd probably keep them tucked away for the inevitable day when none others are clean because of a vomiting bug or the even more likely event that I've forgotten the laundry again something.

My best friend got this book for DS when he was a toddler. I was outwardly right on with the trans stuff (am now firmly of the belief that it is harmful) but it made me extremely uneasy despite that. I never read it to him but lied and said I had.

AmeliaJack I often buy men's pjs as they are usually better made - even the cheap ones! Both DS and I have big fluffy dressing gowns from the men's dept at Primark (I'm classy, me) because they are full length, whereas a lot of the ones in the women's dept are 3/4 length, which is no good in a chilly flat.

My hot tip for xmas is that the Primark men's pj dept sell Ghostbuster onesies, which are nowhere to be found in the women's pj dept. (Which is a truly weird marketing decision as the new film is all-women Ghostbusters.)

mathanxiety god, that's absolutely horrible. I am so sorry.

She's clearly making a point but it wouldn't bother me. I like the pyjamas and even if I didn't... well, they're just pyjamas.

The fuck?. Id ask her why she's buying girls clothes for your son.

I agree that she's making a point, and that would piss me right off.
However, some of the comments on this thread are truly depressing. They're just pj's folks, it's no big deal if a boy wears pink pj's. Remember, pink used to be viewed as a boys colour. But, argh, why do colours need to be split into genders anyway??

. Your sister was very wrong to make a point like that - especially with pink pyjamas I would never even consider dressing a girl in. The giraffes are nauseating and there is far, far too much pink going on there for either sex. Fwiw, though, deep pink looks rather fetching with dark blue or black - my ds has a lovely dusky pink t-shirt which looks great with his trousers but would look gross if he were dressed all in pink. It is definitely possible to have too much of a good thing. Could you mix and match the tops and bottoms with other pyjama sets to make it less overwhelmingly sickly?

The intent behind them would be an instant turn off for me and I would take them back (as long as they are unopened they will let you exchange them)

Your SIL's fear of your ds having a complex about wearing so much blue is as ridiculous as those who believe in catching the gay from playing with a doll.

Deep pink with pale blue is rather nice, too. Giraffe pictures and silly written comments, though, spoil the effect somewhat.

Defo exchange, otherwise pop them into the wrong wash with a new blue top.

My DD has some boyish clothes. She's 3 and she chose them herself. Dinosaurs, snails, Thomas etc. However, she mainly has pink, unicorns, kittens, princesses etc. Again, she chose those herself. I'm all for letting her choose her own style (last week she wore a party dress, trainers and a builder's hat to the park) because she's old enough to do so. Last Christmas we bought our 5yo niece monster trucks because that's what she wanted (my 3yo has a good monster truck collection too).

However, buying pink pjs for a 1yo boy is quite pointed imo and I'd be a bit miffed. Your DS surely won't care what he wears at this point so it isn't as though he just loves pink. It is a case of buying something purely to be contraversial/cool/political as opposed to buying something you/he may like. I'd exchange them because they'd bug me whenever I saw them.

It's making a point - if it annoys you get rid and if you can get it replaced with something useful it still a win.

We had opposite effect - we went for gender neutral stuff with few less neutral stuff thrown in. IL went pink frilly mad and as pfb had eczema so we wanted cotton or other natural fibres went for made made. They bought so much so we wouldn't go shopping our selves - and said that as they didn't like our choices.

We got rid of stuff that was no use - had massive space issues - and dyed

a lot of the really pink stuff which ended up looking better.

They still do stuff like this - often now very nasty "comments" on T - shirt or sometime with toys - kids pretty much ignore it as do we.

Did your DB/BIL react when you opened them?

I would buy them for my boy (well not now, not a baby anymore!) but I wouldn't buy them for someone else. It's a waste if they don't like them and I'd prefer not to rock the boat and make a point over a present.

YANBU in thinking that your SIL is trying to send a message with the gift choice.

YABU if you refuse to use them for a boy because they are pink, now that you have them.

Did he like them?

See there's buying gender neutral gifts (which I tend to do...multicoloured building blocks, craft supplies things like that) and there's buying girls pyjamas to make a point. That just seems rude tbh.

They're cute though, if I got them as a hand me down from a friend with a girl, I'd put DS in them.

Lol Annie - nothing actually happens when I wear dh's boxers, and aftershave is just perfume, innit? To claim that you need some magical appendage to wear boxers is just as mad as any other obviously gendered clothing. And presumably means that girl's pyjamas couldn't possibly fit as there wouldn't be room for the giant boy penis.
It's a pair of boxers, not a condom. I am loving your reaction to this. Women can't wear boxers. Eh? you just pull 'em on, love. No testicles required. Give it a go.

Jesus Christ... YANBU at all! What's wrong with people? They want to show themselves as cool, modern but it's the child that is going to wear those clothes! People might say bad thing behind their back... If she wants to make a point she can go and find herself a girlfriend or get a beard implant but leave your child alone.