To think it's bloody odd for my sis to have brought this for DS's birthday?

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I know gender norms are crap but I think this is a bit far, I'm guessing she purposely brought these to prove a point. DS does have a lot of blue stuff and there isn't anything pink in sight, I don't know really, I just buy what I like while he is so small. If he liked them I'd buy them for him but he's so young and doesn't have a preference yet so it seems stupid to purposely buy pyjamas that are aimed at girls.

AIBU?

These are the ones btw:

http://www.mothercare.com/nightwear-and-underwear/giraffe-pyjamas---2-pack/LJB956.html?cgid=toddlergirlss_pyjamas#sz=12&start=32

Just tell her that he cried and asked why his auntie wants him to be a girl- and asked why didn't she love him just the way he is.

That should guilt her.

They're not even nice for a girl. Yanbu- weird gift to buy for a 1 year old boy who hasn't expressed a liking of pink or giraffes.

Urge I hate hate hate that clothes are so defiantly male or female, but she's a twat for making a point via a present.

They're not a design I would choose but I don't have a problem with the principle behind her purchase.
You've said she thinks you put him in too much blue hence she's trying with the subtlety of a sledgehammer to balance it.
You may think that's not her place because she should respect your choices until DS can choose for himself but tbh if your DS is surrounded by blue then it's highly unlikely that when he gets to choose, he's going to opt for different colours.

Well i wouldn't put my dd in them, they are horribly cutesy! Yanbu but its a shame you only put your ds in 'boy' stuff

Obviously trying to make Her point, it's a bit ridiculous. Some people are far too judgemental why should anyone have an issue with the way you dress your baby?

I used to sleep in Swedish football Jerseys? We used to have the super old ones that were still made from cotton(although I'm not sure if they were for fans or players) and then the normal ones made from stretch.

I loooved my football jerseys.

I don't really think it's a problem. These are cute :) my godfather's son used to throw fits when he wasn't allowed to wear his sister's clothes....

But yes, she's trying to make a point. But if you make a fuss about it your actually showing her that she's "right". So, ignore it, say thank you and perfect :)!

tbh if your DS is surrounded by blue then it's highly unlikely that when he gets to choose, he's going to opt for different colours.

With all due respect APlace that is just incredible nonsense.

I have boy/girl twins. We were bought a lot of clothes in their early days. Piles and piles of pink and blue. Not my particular taste but they were kindly given and so we used them.

The clothes buying levelled off once the Grandparents could buy interesting toys for them. Around about age 3 when my two started expressing a preference regarding clothes.

Both of my two pick a broad range of colours in clothes. DS's favourite colour is currently purple, while DD favours turquoise.

The fact they spent the first 2.5 years of their lives almost exclusively in blue and pink is completely irrelevant.

You've could tell her she's being a twat.

Or just text a thank you but as he has lots of pyjamas you will swap them for something else

Call me sexist but I wouldn't buy those for a boy, they do look like girls clothes and I know your DS won't know the difference but no I wouldn't use them. Can you exchange them for something you like?

I still think that if you're making a fuss about it she'll think you've proven her point.... so, I personally would just say thank you. Should uhm... take the wind out of her sails (I think that's the English word).

Btw I dressed my girls exclusively in pink and dresses and they didn't mind a bit! It certainly didn't influence my now 10 yo as she is more into trainers and sports wear now although she loves a nice dress for a party!

Very girly and pretty - I would never buy them specially for a boy. All my children have worn each other's pjs and I don't think it matters but seems silly to buy deliberately.

If they were accidently to go in the wash with something blue that ran then they would be purple ish wouldn't they

Buy her a shirt and tie and men's boxers for her next birthday/Christmas.

I think it's annoying that she brought them to because she thinks he wears too much blue. A gift shouldn't be a way to make a passive aggressive point. But I would still use them. The colour of his pajamas doesn't really matter, no one's going to see them.

Actually Kitty's idea is intriguing.

Men's aftershave for Christmas?
Nice cuff links?
Nice men's leather gloves?

We wouldn't want to be encouraging gender stereotyping in what she wears...

I think all the gendering of children's stuff is a load of damaging old horseshit. I wouldn't buy these for a boy, but neither would I for a girl - the 'look at me!' (subtext: 'aren't I pretty!') slogan alone would put me off, never mind the whole 'this is for a GIRL' thing going on there.

I have two older boys and a baby dd. I've been horrified at my induction into the world of girls' clothes. Even simple sleepsuits need fucking frilly edging and bows on. I'll never forget looking for vests and finding 'nautical themed' packs for girls and boys on the M&S website. The boys' version - stripes, boats, anchors. All good. The girls' version - strawberries. WTF? Since when did strawberries grow at sea? But of course boats and anchors are far too manly for silly fluffy little girls . Dd got the boys' version.

Oh god, I'm as right on as they come, but I REALLY want you to buy her boxers and aftershave for Christmas. Please. Please. Please. Please.

Mine wore each other's babygros and pjs and ds was often in some princessy pink number (I only ever bought navy and red, but the dd's were given truckloads of pink) - really whatever was to hand and not stained with barf or crap - so I would have no issue with grabbing them out of a drawer and shoving a small boy in them if they had been previously gifted to his sister. But buying them new for your nephew to make a point is a special kind of doolally.

Please buy her boxers for Christmas. Don't say a word about the pjs. Not a word. But she MUST get boxers for Christmas. Promise. And I will bookmark this thread and check back in December.

I buy my son a mixture of girls and boys clothing apart from skirts and dresses. I dont want him to get the idea that any colour or pattern is specific to a gender. Hes got things with hearts and flowers on as well as things with cars and dinosaurs. I do think parents have a duty to try and raise sons who dont look down on women as 'other' or less than men. Part of that is having it ingrained in them really early not to avoid things just because they are considered traditionally feminine.

They're lovely pyjamas but I'm sorry. Rightly or wrongly. There's no way my son would be wearing them.
I personally think boys should be boys.

I don't think they are that girly - the dark pink is almost red, and there's nothing particularly girly about giraffes.

It's very possible she bought them to make a point. But she'd also be making a point if she'd bought your DD super-girly clothes - it's just that the point then would be so commonly held that nobody would notice it, and you'd have never started a thread on MN about it.

if you like them, use them. If you don't, give them back. But they aren't girl's pjs or boy's pjs - they are just pjs.

Sorry - got it the wrong way around in last post, so meant DS and "super boyish" not DD and "super girly".

Oh - and all this "buy her boxers and aftershave for Christmas" bollocks. Women don't generally shave their faces and boxers are not built with women's anatomy in mind, so both are pretty useless. There's nothing useless about the baby pjs that the sister bought. They'd fit a baby girl or a baby boy.

If you must go for something masculine, get something that a woman can actually use - like cologne (not aftershave) or argyle socks.

Archery you are quite right.

OP should just get your sister some really nice pjs for Christmas. From the men's section in the Next catalogue.

although I'm not sure why boxers wouldn't fit a woman's anatomy- they're just shorts

I wouldn't buy them for my girl or boy, too pink and cutesy with the hearts.