To think this is a weird request?

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Just received a text from dd's dad asking for pictures of dd opening her birthday presents because his brother's girlfriend wants to see them. Her birthday was a couple of weeks ago. It just seems strange

Eh?
Are you in the habit of taking pics all the time?
Do you have any?
I'd think this was a bit weird.
Why doesn't HE want to see them if you do have them?

have you met her? If you use FB as her to add you then you can control what pic she sees that way and also check her out if you dont know her.

I would find that a strange request.

I don't know how strange this, it depends on the relationship you have with them.

If the brother and his girlfriend have been together for a while, maybe she sees herself as an aunt, or is genuinely interested in seeing the pictures. I don't really think it's a big deal, it's only your kid opening presents.

I find that very strange and specific. Pictures from her birthday sounds a bit more normal if they're close, and she was invited but couldn't make it but surely she'd ask you directly. Opening presents specifically sounds odd!

seems a bit specific.

I'm assuming she wants to see her opening the present they sent? I don't think it's an odd request, but if you don't have a photo then just say you don't.

My first thought was the brother's girlfriend is angling to be more than just a girlfriend . Maybe she's looking for a ring on the finger and is playing the happy family game?

If it was a present she sent I don't think it is that much of a strange request.

Did the brother & girlfriend buy a present maybe they would of liked a photo of DD opening it?

Maybe she is trying to be part of the family?

I don't think it weird

Maybe she is making a Christmas gift for you and needs specific images?

I don't think it's odd at all.

Her family would like to see a pic of their niece on her birthday.

What's odd about that?

Her father's brother's girlfriend?

Um, no. Weird. So she's suddenly eager to see her boyfriend's brother's kid opening gifts? Kids are only of any interest to their close family. I wouldn't even expect the Uncle to be all that fussed, let alone some random.

Say you don't have any and see if it escalates... see if he explains what's going on. Maybe she'll confess she has an Instagram full of strangers' kids pics.

It depends how long they've been together - alright, a few years she might think she's an 'aunt' now or something and be trying to 'get involved', personally I still think that's weird*

But if he only met her last week, she's extra weird.

*I only say this as I've had a couple of family incidents where distant relatives I do not know and never see - think, third cousins twice removed estranged in 1987 - demanded pictures of my children when they were born because they were 'family'. I refused, obviously. The message had to come down the grapevine via about 4 different people, they are so far removed from my actual family. And then I've had ANOTHER relative who disappeared nearly 30 years ago suddenly reappear and demand access to my kids to 'be family' and.... like, no? And I'm apparently unreasonable for saying no.

SO YEAH Guess I'm being a bit personal, but the way I see it, family are your nearest and dearest who actually see and interact with you on some level and who you maintain contact with, be that your auntie next door or your mum in Australia you Skype twice a month. Some random nobody who just so happens to be friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a cousin is not family. And if they ask for pics of your kid... they're weird.

I don't think I even took any of her opening her presents. She was at the party and I saw her taking photos when dd blew her candles out etc. They didn't wrap the present they gave to dd because it was a big teddy bear with a ribbon tied around it.

I've met her a few times and she seems nice enough but I think a pp hit the nail on the head by wanting to be more than a girlfriend and trying to play the doting aunt so that my ex's brother sees how keen she is. I still find it really weird unlike dd's dad though. He thinks I'm the strange one for thinking it's strange

Is it a really roundabout way of saying "You didn't say thank you for my present and I want to see physical proof that she received the present?"

I've thanked them more than once, just looked back at the messages I sent at the time. I don't send cards though. Should I have??

How long have they been together? If a while and she is essentially your daughters 'auntie' figure then I don't find it weird in the slightest.

She sounds like one of those people that want to overplay their part & wriggle into a family.