Think friend should thank me for trying to help when his father died.

[Welshpoolmummy]

Someone I used to be almost best friends with father died.
He went all distant on me and tried pushing me away when his father was ill.
I sent him a text saying if he ever needs a chat to text me.
Then when his dad died I sent a text saying I'm sorry etc.
He replied to everyone bar me.
He asked for people he wasn't close to go to the funeral with him. Obviously I didn't go.
I donated a fair bit of money with a message to a charity he was raising money in memory of his father.

AIBU to think he should at least thank me for trying to help?

Obviously I'm being a selfish cow to think of manners when he had to go through this

I know this may be shocking for you but it's not actually all about you.

Your self absorption is staggering. You want gratitude for two texts when he lost his dad? You sound very very selfish and someone he doesn't need in his life at the moment.

Bless.

If my 'almost best friends' friend sent me a text or two, instead of at least ACTUALLY TRYING TO TALK, they too would be hearing the sound of silence from me.

Ok. Nice and slow.

HIS .....DAD..... DIED.

Had similar from a family member complaining I didn't call them back when my dog died very suddenly. As 'THEY were sad too'.

And guess what. I didn't thank them for their self absorbed, petty, short sighted, staggeringly selfish, 'ME ME ME' attitude.

And that was a dog, not a parent. ... I can only imagine your 'friend' was horribly sad, likely distraught and didn't fancy dealing with your narcissistic personality disorder at the time.

I doubt the OP will be back...

Is this a reverse?

His Dad has died. Cut him some slack.

YABU. And insensitive and self-absorbed.

My first biscuit! I'm sorry but you seem to be a little self absorbed regarding this situation

YABU OP.

YABU.

The lack of empathy and compassion shown in your post is stunning.

You have done nothing which requires thanks.