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to be a bit peeved about dp and the cinema

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diamond457 · 05/10/2016 14:01

I've been wanting to go see bridget jones baby for ages! I said to dp but he said he didn't really fancy it so I went with my friend instead last week.

Dp went to the cinema last night with a friend because they wanted to see magnificent seven and I don't fancy it either.
Apparently it was cancelled and they went and saw bridget jones instead! I only found this out an hour ago, when he came in last night he didn't say anything and I sent him a text at work asking him how was the film and he said he went and seen bridget jones because the other one was cancelled.
I am a bit annoyed but not sure why. I guess the fact he never told me and the fact he didn't actually want to go see a film with me but went with a mate because nothing else is on. Tickets are expensive and we could have just gone together! I think im more miffed he didn't tell me about it!

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myownprivateidaho · 05/10/2016 14:04

But he'd already arranged to see a film with his mate though? And possibly they were already at the cinema when they found out it was cancelled? If he'd said no to you then made plans to see it with someone else I'd see your point, but in the circumstances I don't see the big deal tbh. Sorry!

Sparklesilverglitter · 05/10/2016 14:04

To be fair to him, they got all the way to the cinema there film was cancelled so they saw something else. That is exactly what I would of do if a film I wanted to see was cancelled when I arrived.

So you found out today instead of last night, is that really a big deal? When you asked him about the film he told you didn't he? So what's the problem

trufflepiggy · 05/10/2016 14:04

I think YABU.

Your DP didn't deliberately go to see it without you - he only saw it as a last resort.

You got to see it anyway.

Can you do something together this weekend if you're feeling sad about that?

GillyMcFizzleSocks · 05/10/2016 14:06

I'm guessing they turned up at the cinema, found they couldn't see the film they wanted and thought "might as well see Bridget Jones then rather than see nothing". Especially if you had said it was good having seen it the week before.

Chocolateiloveyou28 · 05/10/2016 14:06

If I got to the cinema and my film was cancelled I would just pick another too.

I wouldn't tell me DH the moment I got home unless he asked about the film as its no big deal and why would he care

Your dp saw and different film and told you when you asked about the film so what's the problem?

TheNaze73 · 05/10/2016 14:09

YABVU. He's not give out of his way to deceive you. Go & see it with a friend & have dinner after

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diamond457 · 05/10/2016 14:11

I know its not a big deal but I am more annoyed he didn't say anything last night when he came in. Just find it all a bit weird. Its the kind of thing you would talk about and as ive seen the film a good talking point.

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BitOfFun · 05/10/2016 14:15

But why be annoyed, rather than, say, puzzled? Perhaps he didn't fancy a big post-match analysis?

Sparklesilverglitter · 05/10/2016 14:17

Maybe he just didn't think it was a problem so didn't mention it last night?

If DH didn't ask me about the film I wouldn't of mentioned it either TBH as it's not a big deal

GillyMcFizzleSocks · 05/10/2016 14:19

Do you think your DP suspected you might have a moan if he came home and told you he'd seen it and decided to tell you via text instead?

Meadows76 · 05/10/2016 14:21

Waste your energy on something else. This is seriously not a thing to be bothered about.

Gileswithachainsaw · 05/10/2016 14:22

Yabu I'm afraid.

No one needs to run film choices past their dps.

Just go and see it with your friend as planned. No big deal at all.

MothersGrim · 05/10/2016 14:24

I actually understand why you're annoyed. You're not a good enough reason for him to sit through a film he doesn't like but his friend is?

However I'd decide that it was situational

Pinkheart5915 · 05/10/2016 14:25

Yabu
I think your dp went to see a film, it was cancelled so he saw a different film. He didn't mention it when he got home as its no big deal. He then told you today he saw a different film when you asked today

If I went to see a film at it was cancelled I would see another. Unless DH asked me about the film once I got home I probably wouldn't mention it as it's not a big deal

Why are you trying to make it in to something?

heron98 · 05/10/2016 14:28

I am more surprised that 2 blokes went to see Bridget Jones!

ImperialBlether · 05/10/2016 14:31

Me too!

Seahawk80 · 05/10/2016 14:34

Me too! Unless the friend was female, in which case I'd be annoyed too. Which is unreasonable I know but I would be!

Gileswithachainsaw · 05/10/2016 14:36

Well you'd be surprised what people agree to watch investment they have a drink or spliff inside them.

Was probably the best of a bad bunch of film. I'd rather see a film I wasn't interested in than miss out on seeing my friend and going home to cats bump faced partners

ChequeOff · 05/10/2016 14:37

Another one surprised that two blokes went to see BJ. Are you sure he went with a male friend?!

ofshoes · 05/10/2016 14:43

Maybe he thought it was shit and didn't fancy a debate before bed?

Niloufes · 05/10/2016 14:48

Why would a bloke want to go and see Bridget Jones' baby?

diddl · 05/10/2016 14:53

"I am more surprised that 2 blokes went to see Bridget Jones!"

Yes!

I see where you are coming from OP.

If I didn't want to see a film, I still wouldn't want to see it even if the film I wanted to see wasn't on.

So I'd do something else that evening.

JessieMcJessie · 05/10/2016 14:55

Let it go. You may be miffed but they probably hated it so you're even.

I suspect he didn't mention it when he came in as he knew you liked it and didn't want to say it was shit.

My long ago ex admitted to me after we'd seen Shrek that he was actually seeing it for the 2nd time as he'd already seen it with a mate and didn't want to upset me. We were in our thirties! Now that's weird!

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam · 05/10/2016 15:01

What other films were there to choose from, does seem an odd choice.

BackforGood · 05/10/2016 15:03

YABVU.
It didn't appeal, so you went with your friend. All good.
He wanted to see another film which didn't appeal to you, so he went with a friend. Again, all good.
Unfortunately, they found themselves stood in the foyer with the fil they wanted to see cancelled, and so chose to see a film that hadn't appealed much in the first place, but seemed a better optin than just going home.

what on earth is there in that, to be peeved about ?? Confused