to be a bit peeved about dp and the cinema

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I've been wanting to go see bridget jones baby for ages! I said to dp but he said he didn't really fancy it so I went with my friend instead last week.

Dp went to the cinema last night with a friend because they wanted to see magnificent seven and I don't fancy it either.
Apparently it was cancelled and they went and saw bridget jones instead! I only found this out an hour ago, when he came in last night he didn't say anything and I sent him a text at work asking him how was the film and he said he went and seen bridget jones because the other one was cancelled.
I am a bit annoyed but not sure why. I guess the fact he never told me and the fact he didn't actually want to go see a film with me but went with a mate because nothing else is on. Tickets are expensive and we could have just gone together! I think im more miffed he didn't tell me about it!

user. That's par for the course on here. Always insinuate infidelity, even with zero evidence. And then of course, post 'so what if he went with a female friend who he has never mentioned and whom you have never met to a movie you really wanted to see? My husband goes out with random unnamed women all the time to events I'd quite like us to have shared but I don't bat an eyelid'

Secondly, two straight guys watching a chick flick?

It's a comedy.

I imagine they had watched others on offer, or were kids movies, or worse chick flicks. Plus it was one he knew his partner had seen, so it should be safe. If only he knew...

Maybe he should be angry with his dp, if she came home and told him it was a good film (which it most definitely isn't), as otherwise he wouldn't have been swayed into watching it when it was the only other film on at the right time as an alternative to what he wanted to see.

Also, maybe the other was gay. Who knows?
Maybe the OP's DP is a closeted gay too.
The plot thickens.

Haha Lweji

OP, FWIW, my DP is a total romcom enthusiast.

I can imagine a situation where he would have persuaded his mate to watch BJB if the original film was cancelled.

(Btw, you know you can always phone the cinema and find out if it really was cancelled... Just sayin' )

I suspect this thread is not really about Bridget Jones and there's something more to it.

Is his friend a woman is that the issue?

"Would you rather he'd gone to the pub and got pissed with his friend, instead?! "

Well it's hardly one or the other, is it?

He wouldn't go to see it with Op, but sat through it with a friend rather than do something else or cancel the night.

Actually I'm thinking YANBU, Op.

Next time you are together at the cinema and your jointly chosen film is cancelled, see if you can persuade him to see something utterly crap, like Bridget Jones's Baby, instead. It's the only way you'll know whether or not he has double standards, as deliberately heading out to see an atrocious film is one thing and accepting watching it because you are there, now, is another.

I am more surprised that 2 blokes went to see Bridget Jones!
same ere!

Give him a break.

I am not surprised that two blokes wanted to see BJ. Its a comedy. that would be like saying why would 2 girls want to see The Hangover.

I went to see BJ with a bunch of girl friends and my husband was gutted because he wanted to see it. we both went to Ab Fab together.

They aren't girl films and boy films - just comedies!

In the situation where the one film is full or not on (let's all face it we'd have re-booked!) then I would also just go to see something else that was on and even if it was one I wouldn't have otherwise gone to I would go to something once there. It just so happened to be that one.

I agree, HereIAm20
Never realised you weren't allowed to watch a comedy because you happen to have a penis.

MN at it's weirdest.

Early in our relationship, I discovered DP had secretly been watching my stash of romcom DVDs and my heart swelled even further for him

There isn't another woman I know that much.
It's a mild annoyance because I wanted to go see it and he gladly went and saw it with a friend instead, after all the hype I made about it. I think it's the double standards thing that's annoying me. More a point to make. Silly yes but sometimes in relationships little things can annoy you.
We normally talk at length about how our nights have been when out with friends. I talk a lot in detail if I have done something maybe that's just me but it's the way I am.
I actually wanted to get the dvd and watch it with him but now it doesn't feel the same. Petty first world problems but it has bugged me!!

It's annoying that it didn't work out the way you'd have liked. But to be fair, it's not like he just decided to see it with a friend instead of you.

It was circumstantial. He wasn't keen to begin with so you went to see it with your friends. Then the film he was meant to be seeing got cancelled so he saw BJB instead.

It wasn't pre-meditated.

So after all that he said he was winding me up and he did go see the original film and he was only joking about bg.
Absolute arse!

I am having awful pms just now too so im going to use that as an excuse for being unreasonable and grumpy. How dare he joke about going to see my fave film of the year without me! And Yes i did think it was a bit odd for two macho blokes to go see bg.

What a wheeze.

YANBU.
This would piss me off too OP

he said he was winding me up

Huh? Really? I don't get it.

YABVU & Daft to boot

My money's on that he's just saying that to stop you complaining

I'm more pissed off with my DH who said he'd go to Ab Fab with me. When I went to book tickets for the last weekend before it finished he denied he'd ever said that. Now have to wait for the DVD

This was in July. I'm over it now

that would be like saying why would 2 girls want to see The Hangover.

I'd be asking why anyone would want to see The Hangover, actually.