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AIBU?

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to be a bit peeved about dp and the cinema

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diamond457 · 05/10/2016 14:01

I've been wanting to go see bridget jones baby for ages! I said to dp but he said he didn't really fancy it so I went with my friend instead last week.

Dp went to the cinema last night with a friend because they wanted to see magnificent seven and I don't fancy it either.
Apparently it was cancelled and they went and saw bridget jones instead! I only found this out an hour ago, when he came in last night he didn't say anything and I sent him a text at work asking him how was the film and he said he went and seen bridget jones because the other one was cancelled.
I am a bit annoyed but not sure why. I guess the fact he never told me and the fact he didn't actually want to go see a film with me but went with a mate because nothing else is on. Tickets are expensive and we could have just gone together! I think im more miffed he didn't tell me about it!

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yerbutnobut · 05/10/2016 15:10

DH not allowed to be spontaneous? Or do anything that may pee you off a little? Should he have called you once he realised film was cancelled and check your feelings first before seeing Bridget Jones. Never understand women who think their DH should bare them in mind 24/7 and revolve their lives around just you!

LemonSqueezy0 · 05/10/2016 15:21

Crikey, you've got a very tight leash on him there! What if he wants to change his mind about lunch, or dinner plans? You can't control someone's life like that... I used to be quite uptight, but found life much easier when I unclenched a bit!

melibu84 · 05/10/2016 15:24

It was probably the only film on at that time lol. I don't think this is something he needed to tell you, does he really need to tell you every little thing about his man dates :D

expatinscotland · 05/10/2016 15:28

I'd rather eat hot coals with lemon juice than watch Bridget Jones.

diddl · 05/10/2016 15:28

It's not as if he deliberately went to see the film with someone else rather than you though.

But I'm wondering why they watched BJB at all than do something else.

Perhaps he said nothing as he thought that you might be offended-or that you might want to discuss it!

phillipp · 05/10/2016 15:29

You're not a good enough reason for him to sit through a film he doesn't like but his friend is?

Except that's not what happened is it

Lweji · 05/10/2016 15:35

I am more surprised that 2 blokes went to see Bridget Jones!

Definitely.
But he may have chosen it rather than any other because you had already seen it, which would be the considered thing to do.
If he had gone and seen one that you hadn't and you might want to, then you'd be right to be upset.
Not this one.

As for not saying anything last night, did you ask about the film?

Lweji · 05/10/2016 15:36

Also, I'm guessing it wasn't his cup of tea and he didn't want to discuss it.
Or he cried like a baby, and didn't want to discuss it.

gillybeanz · 05/10/2016 15:38

i'm surprised 2 blokes went to see Bridget jones and more surprised the other was cancelled, wonder why?
i'm cynical though, so don't mind me.

kissmethere · 05/10/2016 15:39

Yabu. He didn't fancy and chose it as a substitute on a different outing.
Have to also express surprise that 2 blokes went to see this. My DH would have made a bee line for the pub.

NNitro · 05/10/2016 15:42

I call bullshit. I'm guessing the friend was female and in that case I'd be really pissed off too.

Two blokes wouldn't go and see Bridget Jones.

Gileswithachainsaw · 05/10/2016 15:46

And why would a female friend be a problem?

Goingtobeawesome · 05/10/2016 15:47

Maybe he knew you'd not be happy so thought he'd save the grief..

APlaceOnTheCouch · 05/10/2016 15:54

How peeved I was would depend on how much he moaned when you asked him to go with you. If he said he'd rather walk on hot coals or stick pins in his eyes then I'd be surprised that really all it took was the cancellation of a cowboy movie and a lack of imagination to go somewhere other than the cinema for the rest of the night.

NNitro · 05/10/2016 15:57

a female friend would seem worse because it would seem like he couldn't bring himself to go see it with his wife yet he'd do it for another woman!

roundaboutthetown · 05/10/2016 16:05

Would you rather he'd gone to the pub and got pissed with his friend, instead?! The poor man had to sit through Bridget Jones's Baby, which was clearly as awful as he'd anticipated, as he didn't want to talk to you about it when he got home, and you're cross with him? Seems a bit harsh.

As an aside, did you actually enjoy it? I thought it was crap, tbh - all the characters were supremely irritating, navel-gazing caricatures.

RepentAtLeisure · 05/10/2016 16:05

Well, I'd guess that he didn't tell you because he thought you'd be miffed. Just let it go, it's not a big deal.

Skittlesss · 05/10/2016 16:05

I've never known a film to be cancelled... I've been to the cinema when there's only been approx 4 others there and they've still played the film.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 05/10/2016 16:07

Why is the OP being unreasonable?! First up, she's wanted to see it for ages, but DP refused. Then he goes and watches the film he has refused to take his partner to see with a male friend.

Secondly, two straight guys watching a chick flick?

Yeah, MN, she's being soooooooo unreasonable!

APlaceOnTheCouch · 05/10/2016 16:08

Skittlesss it happened once when we went to the cinema. It was a problem with the reel - it started playing upside down, backwards, etc, and they couldn't fix it so they cancelled the screening.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 05/10/2016 16:09

round. But he didn't have to sit through it! He could have gone to the pub instead!

APlaceOnTheCouch · 05/10/2016 16:10

I've just realised I typed 'reel' - obviously it wasn't a reel! But there was a problem with playing it that they couldn't fix in 5 minutes so they just cancelled it. We got the option of another film or a refund.

user1471517900 · 05/10/2016 16:10

Love the fact that even this innocent story can lead some of you to sow the seeds of doubt of an affair. Just wow. The bloke has had to suffer watching Bridget Jones. He doesn't deserve yet more grief.

alafolie29 · 05/10/2016 16:15

I understand why you're annoyed, I've been in similar situations in my own relationship. And every time there has been another reason behind it. So in this situation I would suggest that you often feel that he wouldn't make a sacrifice for you but would for a friend. And that is why you're a bit annoyed. Because even though what he did in this situation is reasonable, it's brought up your feelings more generally.

roundaboutthetown · 05/10/2016 16:16

ItShouldHaveBeen - exactly, that is doubtless what he was thinking the entire way through that crappy film. That's why he deserves pity, not anger.

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