To be so bloody upset that nobody remembered my birthday?

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It's not a landmark birthday or anything, but I'm sitting here in tears about the lack of..well..anything. Not even a text from my kids.

I lost my job a few weeks ago and have been very down about it. I have always had something to get up for on a morning, but am at this moment sitting in bed in my hideous fluffy purple dressing gown, wondering if I really am so insignificant.

Should I just accept that now I'm older, my birthdays shouldn't be celebrated?

Happy birthday to you!

I hope you go out and get some lovely things for yourself today. May the size of your Guiness only be exceeded by the size of your cake!

YNBU!!

Happy Birthday,

PM me your address if you want, because on Mumsnet we care.

If you haven't heard anything by the end of the day then I would definitely be texting your DC saying 'thanks for the birthday wishes'.

Hope you had a nice walk.
I agree with everyone to send a cheeky/subtle text to the dcs if you've not heard from them by this evening.
There's no point in continuing the misery.

While you're out buy yourself some flowers and chocolate. Have a lovely day at the beach and treat yourself to an indulgent evening when you get home. If I didn't organise my own birthdays nothing would ever happen. if no ones been in contact by the end of the day I'd let them know you're disappointed, it just might jog them to remember next time. Start planning next years birthday now. Decide what you would really like to do and make it happen.

Happy Birthday!!!!!

Bless you. Happy birthday

Don't be sad- be cross. Selfish sods!

Oh OP you're absolutely not insignificant, people can just be really thoughtless sometimes. I know that doesn't make it hurt any less.
Take the day in hand- take yourself out to lunch (including a naughty pudding), have a nice walk, a long bubble bath with a glass or two of your favourite tipple, watch all your favourite things on the TV. You deserve it. Happy Birthday lovely

Happy Birthday OP. I'd be upset too

It's ok to tell people you're hurt too.

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Text the kids this.

And happy birthday

So no cards or presents have arrived? If not then that is a very poor show from your children. If I have sent a card/present which I know will I arrive on time then I might not text or call until the afternoon or evening. But the person would know I hadn't forgotten because there would be a card/present!

Happy birthday. It's my birthday too, I'm 40. Neither my husband or my children remembered so you're not alone. I may have shed a quiet tear while I put stuff in the dryer before doing the school run. Eldest child (18) twigged when some flowers from my sister arrived! Bastards, the lot of them.

Aaw Happy Birthday.

My dad, couple of my siblings and DH are useless at remembering birthdays. So I get them personalised calendars for Xmas every year now. All relevant (brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews etc) marked on there. Our family calendar has my birthday particularly highlighted with a gold star. Shameless. I also have my birthday on FB and again shamelessly happen to mention in passing along the lines of 'going to treat myself to XYZ as it's my birthday on Xday' when anyone asks me what I'm up to over the next week/weekend ;-)

Ive got to the age where I don't expect anyone to remember. There's so many with more neices, nephews etc all the time now I know I'd forget some unless I was reminded in some way. I forgot our own wedding anniversary this year as I'd not written it on the calendar. It was DH who reminded me!

happy birthday

I am insane about my birthday and I don't care. I shamelessly demand to be treated extremely specially by all around me. I make everyone else's birthdays a big deal so I expect the same back!!!
YANBU at all. But....to ensure it doesn't happen again....be clear next year. "It's my birthday on X shall we plan something toget her or do you want to organise it all for me?" no subtle approach in this flat!

Hmm although not everyone wants a big deal made of their birthday lost making a potentially unwelcome big fuss on other people's birthdays because you want them to be obliged to do the same for you would be kind of a sick and twisted take on "do as you will be done by" ...

Wanting acknowledgement and some flowers or something is very reasonable, but emotional blackmail and manipulation is a whole different thing.

Went for the cherry and almond in the end. The chocolate cake was enormous so decided against it as I was already full of chicken zereshk. Was too busy shovelling that down to take a picture

Lovely cake. Has anyone been in touch yet.

Happy birthday OP.

I did something quite daring a few years back, I stopped acknowledging the birthdays of those who didn't bother with mine, including my son. It's incredibly liberating, I recommend it.

No one's ever complained.

Sorry OP and flying, that's really shit form.

Flying I hope your eldest was suitably shamefaced.

Happy birthday to you both.

Two of my oldest friends, whose birthdays I never forget, couldn't be arsed to send me a card this year. That hurt. So you have my sympathy, OP. I would shamelessly make my kids feel guilty if I was you. And happy birthday

Yup!

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