To be so bloody upset that nobody remembered my birthday?

[Agerbilatemycardigan]

It's not a landmark birthday or anything, but I'm sitting here in tears about the lack of..well..anything. Not even a text from my kids.

I lost my job a few weeks ago and have been very down about it. I have always had something to get up for on a morning, but am at this moment sitting in bed in my hideous fluffy purple dressing gown, wondering if I really am so insignificant.

Should I just accept that now I'm older, my birthdays shouldn't be celebrated?

Happy birthday gerbil and saggy

Happy Birthday! Sometimes people are very thoughtless, aren't they?

Hopefully you'll get birthday messages later, but give yourself a 'day off' for your birthday - no fretting about jobs or doing housework. Go to a lovely coffee shop and have a gooey cake, have a walk somewhere nice or go to a gallery or museum,. Then buy the biggest cake you can find, shove a candle in it and sing happy birthday to yourself and post a picture somewhere (Facebook/Twitter/Instagram) with a happy birthday to meeeeeee!!!! message.

Kids can be very self-absorbed, so maybe one will remember and jog the other's memories...but you might need to be a bit proactive about it!

Have a lovely day, whatever. Maybe when you get past a certain age birthdays are meant to be less celebrated, but you can still celebrate umpty tum years of being YOU!

Happy birthday OP!

What a shit day, sorry to hear your family and friends have dropped the ball on this one. I still love birthdays, no one will ever make me grow out of them!

I suggest you treat yourself - put on a nice top, wander to a local cafe/pub and have yourself a nice snack or meal and enjoy it being your birthday! Take a book or magazine and celebrate yourself!

Oh that must feel lousy. Poor you.

I agree with the other posts - spoil yourself today, eat, lounge, drink whatever you fancy and Happy Birthday!

My kids are all grown-up and have their own lives now. I accept that, but even when I lived abroad, I arranged for flowers to be sent to my mum back in England.

I have now shed my ugly -yet surprisingly snug- dressing gown so that I can get a bit of fresh air. A walk along the beach might be in order.

Sorry yours was forgotten last year Fleur - people can be so thoughtless

Ager- a stroll by the beach sounds lovely. Maybe treat yourself to some fish and chips with that Guiness! The ideas of sending a pic to your children is fantastic, I bet they move into action then

Husky Normally I would've had something by now. One or 2 have forgotten before, but not all of them.

Could you not send a text with something like "Ahem!" on it? Would they remember then?

Try not to take it too personally - if they're busy it's probably just slipped their minds rather than a deliberate rejection.

gerbil - they may be grown up but you're their mum and it's not too difficult to remember someone's birthday - remind them that it's yours or this will happen year after year. Enjoy the rest of your day

I'd wait a little longer, the day is barely halfway through. I'm terrible in the morning (especially on a weekday), so they may get in touch later. I've been on the other end (parents forgetting/ignoring my birthday), it does hurt. Hope you enjoy your day, cake is always good .

Happy Birthday! Agerbil and Saggy

That's just rubbish, I'm so sorry. Can you treat yourself, or go to the cinema and see something fun maybe?

Wishing you a very happy birthday

I hope your kids do get in touch and wish you a happy birthday - maybe there's a package on it's way? The postman round here doesn't come until after 2pm, maybe it's the same where you are.

Enjoy your beach walk and treat yourself to something nice anyway. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday!

Stop bothering for everyone else's birthdays.

Oh OP, that's life on a stick - utterly rubbish for you. Now you know you deserve plenteous and much fine . Nip out and have a solo feast while you think of how best to treat yourself for the rest of the day.

Happy birthday!

Oh op, I feel quite tearful on your behalf nothing at all to do with pregnancy hormones of course

That's very hurtful and yanbu. However, the day is still relatively young so you may find they'll text/ call you later?

In the meantime, I'd get out of bed, have a shower and throw on some clothes/ makeup and go out and do something I enjoy: a walk in the sunshine, call or visit a friend, film at the cinema, shopping or nice lunch out (if money allows). You're not insignificant. You've made a stranger cry for you! Happy birthday - have a lovely afternoon.

Sorry LittleLion I didn't mean to make you cry

Good luck with your little one when they arrive.

I should probably put my tablet down and go outside now....

Happy Birthday!

Take yourself off for the day, To the beach, etc

Stuff everyone elses birthdays.

I am not very good at remembering birthdays, so in our house, we tend to hint and mention plans and basically inform everyone that a birthday is coming up and that way no-one gets too insulted. My dd (ok, she is 10) reminds me that her birthday is coming up almost every day. I think it's fine to mention it in advance, I don't think it's a measure of love if people forget/slips their mind.

So, being the unsubtle person I am, I'd probably text my children saying 'I'm sure the card is on it's way, call me later for my Birthday Chat!' or something like that, or I'd just call them and tease them about it. That way it's still repairable today rather than letting it go on being an issue. But we are quite a blunt family.

Have a fun day yourself, buy a lovely treat (mine would be a tub of Haagen Das or perhaps a lemon cheesecake) and do something nice.

Oh don't worry Agerbil - Kate Bush on Spotify made me cry on Monday. It's not difficult. Last time around it was Gordon Brown's resignation speech - but I didn't even like him!

My mil forgot my DH's 50th birthday. She still hasn't remembered at all.
She's got a real talent I mean this is her own biological son.

Hope things pick up for you soon OP and, many happy returns of the day!
The day is young yet, maybe they'll remember by nighttime? Chin up!

Happy birthday! Enjoy the beach!

Oh gerbil happy birthday sorry that has happened

Happy birthday, wish I could do something for you. Enjoy the beach.