to want a hobby with my DH?

[ChampagneTastes]

Be gentle. Well as gentle as you can be in AIBU. DH and I are, I think, drifting into the world of housemates. We've never been the most romantic pair and we are starting to just exist together, albeit quite comfortably.

We also have quite different interests so while I might be here researching nineteenth century radicals, he's happy on the floor with a pile of lego. My thought was that if we did something together regularly, something that neither of us has done before, then it might build some closeness. The suggestion was met with a "look" and a dismissal of every idea I came up with.

AIBU? I thought it would be nice. DH seems to think it would be a ballache.

We do family history together. We have a joint tree on Ancestry with 7.5k entries now. It sparks loads of discussions from whether a record is the one the other is looking for to what type of job a strange occupation is.

Another vote for geocaching, hiking, rambling, cycling sort of things. Added advantage that you can take DS out with you so no babysitting costs.

Or why not look at what National Trust or English Heritage has available locally and consider joining one of these?

Make a pact to go out for the day a couple of times a month? Walk round the place and up into the hills/along the canal/coast and you can also include ice creams, pub lunches, cafe visits, fish and chips or take a picnic etc as desired.

DP and I scuba dive together both in the UK and abroad but it doesn't sound like the sort of thing you are after.

My DH & I are married 20yrs together 26yr and no shared hobbies. But I have my own. Which gives us things to talk about.