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I dislike children.

378 replies

HonestJan · 01/10/2016 19:51

What is wrong with me?

Never liked em. I don't find them cute, sweet, funny, interesting or entertaining. I have a few nieces/nephews and obviously love them but I don't enjoy the whole 'come watch little niece sing/dance 😍' and then enduring a painfully shit performance, 'Wow look at what little nephew has drawn' and it's a dreadful mess/ordinary drawing, and so on.

When kids do things like throw tantrums or make a scene in public and their parents do that 'ah isn't she adorable' look, I just don't get it.

When I'm sitting having a coffee and they come over to me/others to pester them and the parents leave them to it as if everyone must find their children as wonderful as they do, I don't get that either.

Babies I have no interest in either. I don't want to cuddle a small person or pull silly faces and coo over it.

I really enjoy people and I'm sure I'll have much more time and patience for my nieces and nephews when they grow up but I seem to be considered some sort of monster for not having an interest in children.

OP posts:
Lorelei76 · 01/10/2016 21:17

Nantucket, lots of parents have lots of conversation that isn't about their kids.

Op you're not a monster. I'm not sure what you wanted from this thread. I take your points about not knowing what to say, you're not alone there.

Crispspsps · 01/10/2016 21:21

I'm a mum and I don't like babies particularly. Struggled with my newborns, but of course love them to bits now. I can see how people are cross at the OP for posting this, but as we can all see in the comments not everyone likes other kids. Especially the annoying ones! Which mine can be sometimes aren't of course.

FurryDogMother · 01/10/2016 21:25

At the very least, OP, I hope you now realise there are people with worse attitudes to children (aka proto-humans) than you - ie, me :) I'm off to bed now, having outraged half of Mumsnet. Planning a lovely Sunday lie in tomorrow, in the absence of kids, and I may even drink some alcohol later in the day. Living well is the best revenge!

moreslackthanslick · 01/10/2016 21:25

No kids either, not too fond of many. Find many of the random kids I see around annoying. What's with the constant SCREAMING in supermarkets these days?

Love mumsnet.

IceIceIce · 01/10/2016 21:26

Yanbu. I can barely cope with my own. Definitely do not want anyone else's around me too much.

NantucketNightbird · 01/10/2016 21:30

Of course I know that, I am one of those parents! I just haven't met anyone else to be friends with where it doesn't involve children. Grin

dudsville · 01/10/2016 21:30

I struggle with anyone below the age of 25.

switswoo81 · 01/10/2016 21:32

I work with small children and find them fascinating, there take and opinions expressed on the world is not affected by what they feel they should say. I find them honest and yet naive and my working day flys by. Socially they are so innocent and I have been astounded by the popular teenagers coming in to visit me who were to shy to ask to use the bathroom at 4.wSince I had my own I love watching them grow.
However I understand what you are saying they can be difficult and if you don't love them horrendously annoying!

Oysterbabe · 01/10/2016 21:36

David Attenborough said that his favourite animal is a 9 month old human baby. Anyone who disagrees with David Attenborough is BU.

CancellyMcChequeface · 01/10/2016 21:38

It's an odd blanket statement. I couldn't say that I like or dislike all children. They're individuals. It's like saying I dislike all men, or all over-50s.

I don't have children. I like most, but not all, of the children I've met.

'Proto-human' is really awful. They're people, too. Biologically immature people, but people.

ohtheholidays · 01/10/2016 21:41

Like some other posters then why have you joined and posted on a parenting site?

pandarific · 01/10/2016 21:42

OP said: I seem to be considered some sort of monster for not having an interest in children.

I have been on the receiving end of what OP describes, and it IS very annoying when you don't have any children, aren't particularly gooey over them in general, and are made to feel somehow 'wrong' and 'unnatural' for not being bothered. It's reeeeeally annoying.

I had a lot of cousins who reproduced when I was younger, and was always dragged along to family things where people made stupid comments at me.

Lelloteddy · 01/10/2016 21:50

Odd thread.

CancellyMcChequeface · 01/10/2016 21:51

Like some other posters then why have you joined and posted on a parenting site?

Not sure if this was addressed to me or not, but I originally joined to post in 'The staffroom' subforum when I was working in education. I like the community here, and there are lots of subforums which aren't directly related to parenting. It's also nice to find an online forum which is predominantly female, and where feminist viewpoints aren't (usually) mocked and derided.

ollieplimsoles · 01/10/2016 21:53

Bit of a downer this thread isn't it?

Kind of a shame that children are just an unwelcome annoyance to some people out there simply because they haven't being alive as long.

gonetoseeamanaboutadog · 01/10/2016 22:04

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SnowWhiteTan · 01/10/2016 22:05

Furry - you're ace Grin

Mozfan1 · 01/10/2016 22:06

Duds I'm 23... Will something miraculous change when I turn 25? I will be sure to mention it to ds and dh Hmm

Westfacing · 01/10/2016 22:09

There's a similar thread on Gransnet, poster is very glad that she doesn't have grandchildren and says when she tells people this they think she's weird.

Doggity · 01/10/2016 22:09

I dislike sweeping statements.

TheFormidableMrsC · 01/10/2016 22:11

I think it is perfectly OK to dislike children. I am a mother Smile

pictish · 01/10/2016 22:12

It's a crap, negative thread that has actually made me shudder a bit.
One or two people here are creeps.

TheFormidableMrsC · 01/10/2016 22:13

....I also don't mind at all if my children decide not to be parents. My 18 yo has always said she doesn't want children and has done for a long time. I respect that. She may change her mind. She may not. It doesn't matter, as long as she's happy. My youngest has ASD, so who knows?

buttercup54321 · 01/10/2016 22:17

Why are you even on Mumsnet if you dislike children so much? You were one once!!!!

Lorelei76 · 01/10/2016 22:19

More "What's with the constant SCREAMING in supermarkets these days? "

I fear this might be me, Aldi aren't doing the long life pre cooked potato thingies any more.

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