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Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 18:17

I get half an hour for lunch. During that time I like to sit on a bench near to my work and read. During that time I'll smoke 2 cigarettes one when I first get there and one just before I go back in. Today I'm just lit my second cigarette and just getting to a good bit in my book.

A lady with a screaming kid in a pushchair sits on the bench next to me. Not on one of the equally pleasant but slightly further away from the fag smoke benches but on a bench so close if there hadn't of been arm rest between us we'd of be touching. I thought it was a little weird but she was probably just harassed dealing with little ones temper tantrum.

She calms the girl down and starts feeding her some lunch. I get on with my book. She does that little cough thingy to get my attention. I glance up and she's pulling her face like shes stepped in dog shit but says nothing so I ignore her. She steps up the fake coughing and when I don't look up this time leans over and says pointedly "that's going in my face"

I'm a little non plussed because there's 8 benches around a small town square and I'm the only one smoking. Behind is a flower bed thing were another lady is perched also smoking. There's 3 other sides all smoke free. I mumbled an apology and tried to hurry my fag.

At this point she's raises her voice and says "I think it's disgusting your smoking next to a child that's eating." By now I'm getting annoyed. She chose to sit there and if she hadn't noticed me to begin with she could of easily moved before starting to pass her child wotsits. I point out very calmly I was smoking when she sat down. She tells me I should of moved as soon as she did and she shouldn't have to put up with it.

At this point I'm almost finished and about to go back to work when she goes on a tirade that I shouldn't be smoking anyway that I was too young and it was illegal in public places. I finish my fag and tell her not only am I 30 and can smoke if I damn well please it's illegal to smoke in enclosed public places but outside it's perfectly legal. (At which point I hear a laugh from the woman behind me.) Angry lady gathers her things and storms off and sits on the benches opposite glaring at me. By this time my breaks finishing and and saunter past her with a big smile and a wave.

What annoyed me was the assumption even though I'd been sitting there well before she got there I should move as she's so much more important. But I've been having a bad day so maybe I should of bowed down to her mightiness and and just moved. Wibu to not just move as soon as she sat down?

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ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 21:26

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 29/09/2016 21:29

Grin Right there with Amal.

Though, to be fair, I've marked sodding theses for Oxford's inferior fenland counterpart, and no one has ever cared as much about grammar as MN's self-defined intellectual elite.

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 21:30

I mean, once you've corrected someone on here, and shown how clever you are...do you get a warm fuzzy feeling or something? Just how bad is your own self-esteem that you come onto these threads to try and humiliate someone else? Confused

OhtoblazeswithElvira · 29/09/2016 21:35

Just out of curiosity- in a shop say, or at work, if you hear another adult making a grammar mistake- let's say someone says 'They was watching the film.....' would you correct them? To their face?

Not necessarily. But if their grammar was very bad it might make communication difficult and there might be an "oh you mean X" moment. Again this is purely about grammar... whatever layers of meaning that you are adding to this (social class, intelligence) are not necessarily there.

No, because a) you'd make yourself look a total twat in public b) (hopefully) you might get your teeth knocked down your oh-so-smug throats...so don't hide behind your fucking keyboards you sad fuckers.

On the other hand you sound lovely and totally cool about minor stuff on an Internet forum. What were you saying again about hiding behind a keyboard...?

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 21:41

Is your punctuation button not working?

PunkrockerGirl · 29/09/2016 21:46

Tinklypoo
Did I mean to be so rude? Absolutely yes. Before you responded to the OP, you felt it necessary to have a dig at his/her grammar.
And I'm the rude one? Hmm

Tinklypoo · 29/09/2016 21:51

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PresidentOliviaMumsnet · 29/09/2016 21:54

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Shock Full stops Olivia, full bloody stops.

HmmShockGrin

I have utterly lost the ability to punctuate with full stops on MN
I am sure if I was trolling I would be discovered in this way
Peace and love anyhoo all of you

Tinklypoo · 29/09/2016 21:55

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ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 21:58

You wouldn't have corrected her in person because orally, she wouldn't have made a mistake, would she? Tsk.
Your first sentence needs sorting btw, would you like me to rewrite it for you so the verb-subject relationships are a bit clearer?

..and the irony of someone doing what you were proudly the first to do on this thread calling others 'nasty', is just too funny.

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 22:01

Tinkly, you've lost your punctuation ability as well! Obviously, you'll have no problem with me telling you that, because we correct people out of the goodness of our kind little hearts, don't we?

HeCantBeSerious · 29/09/2016 22:08

Having worked in organisations where making a complete hash of English would see your work binned/allocated to someone else and you despatched to work in the basement elsewhere, yes, I would have asked why the OP thought "should of" was in any way correct. (My children get corrected if they dare do it as well.)

Tinklypoo · 29/09/2016 22:24

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5OBalesofHay · 29/09/2016 22:26

Tinklepoo should of thought before posting

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nancyblackett80 · 29/09/2016 22:38

I must admit to pulling faces when I have to walk through the main doors at the supermarket or hospital and smokers are stood 1 foot from the door so they're technically "outside" ... That's just rank and your not giving me any choice.

But sat on a park bench... YANBU

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 29/09/2016 22:40

Should've/should of (obviously, as any fule know, with 'of' having its schwa weak vowel, as it invariably does) try writing them phonetically. Wink

5OBalesofHay · 29/09/2016 22:41

Sorry Tinkles
The 'of' was just to annoy you

Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 22:46

I admit the grammar war has made me giggle. I admit I was wrong. The bit in " was verbatim though so I can only cop to one mistake (one was as she spoke). I'm typing on my phone so I admit proof reading it was more looking for spelling mistakes. Now I know where I went wrong I shall never do it again

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Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 22:47

I promise

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LittleBearPad · 29/09/2016 22:51

I think most people on MN contribute to threads from a place of kindness and goodwill first and foremost.

Evidently not you eh, Tinklypoo?

Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 22:51

Also yes the woman was feeding her 1/1and a half year old wotsits as a main meal....

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Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 22:58

Sorry phone fail one and a half year old so 18 month old

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