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To not of moved

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Pretenditsaplan · 29/09/2016 18:17

I get half an hour for lunch. During that time I like to sit on a bench near to my work and read. During that time I'll smoke 2 cigarettes one when I first get there and one just before I go back in. Today I'm just lit my second cigarette and just getting to a good bit in my book.

A lady with a screaming kid in a pushchair sits on the bench next to me. Not on one of the equally pleasant but slightly further away from the fag smoke benches but on a bench so close if there hadn't of been arm rest between us we'd of be touching. I thought it was a little weird but she was probably just harassed dealing with little ones temper tantrum.

She calms the girl down and starts feeding her some lunch. I get on with my book. She does that little cough thingy to get my attention. I glance up and she's pulling her face like shes stepped in dog shit but says nothing so I ignore her. She steps up the fake coughing and when I don't look up this time leans over and says pointedly "that's going in my face"

I'm a little non plussed because there's 8 benches around a small town square and I'm the only one smoking. Behind is a flower bed thing were another lady is perched also smoking. There's 3 other sides all smoke free. I mumbled an apology and tried to hurry my fag.

At this point she's raises her voice and says "I think it's disgusting your smoking next to a child that's eating." By now I'm getting annoyed. She chose to sit there and if she hadn't noticed me to begin with she could of easily moved before starting to pass her child wotsits. I point out very calmly I was smoking when she sat down. She tells me I should of moved as soon as she did and she shouldn't have to put up with it.

At this point I'm almost finished and about to go back to work when she goes on a tirade that I shouldn't be smoking anyway that I was too young and it was illegal in public places. I finish my fag and tell her not only am I 30 and can smoke if I damn well please it's illegal to smoke in enclosed public places but outside it's perfectly legal. (At which point I hear a laugh from the woman behind me.) Angry lady gathers her things and storms off and sits on the benches opposite glaring at me. By this time my breaks finishing and and saunter past her with a big smile and a wave.

What annoyed me was the assumption even though I'd been sitting there well before she got there I should move as she's so much more important. But I've been having a bad day so maybe I should of bowed down to her mightiness and and just moved. Wibu to not just move as soon as she sat down?

OP posts:
Didyoumeantobesorude1 · 29/09/2016 20:39

I really want to know what the consequences will be, It ShouldOfBeenJess.
Grin

HeCantBeSerious · 29/09/2016 20:40

I suspect the consequences are they will be picked up on every single mistake they make, and they always make mistakes. Which makes me laugh, a lot.

Hmmmm. So a rare and obvious typo is the same as consistently using completely the wrong word in every other sentence? Okaaaaaaaaay...... Hmm

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 29/09/2016 20:40

That's to the spreadsheet-keeping posters Grin

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 29/09/2016 20:43

Oh dear. Not just grammar pedants but humourless as well...

I'll get my coat.

HeCantBeSerious · 29/09/2016 20:43

ItShouldOfBeenJess?

usual · 29/09/2016 20:45

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Didyoumeantobesorude1 · 29/09/2016 20:46

^^ I was trying to be funny, HeCantBe. I'll get me coat.

Yes, I do know it should be MY coat.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 29/09/2016 20:47

HeCant. At least someone around here understands the word 'joke'!

Salmotrutta · 29/09/2016 20:48

You didn't do anything wrong OP.

Unlike the type of person who likes to humiliate people by correcting their grammar and spelling.

PresidentOliviaMumsnet · 29/09/2016 20:53

AHem

Talk guidelines are on the bench people
Peace and love

SamanthaBrique · 29/09/2016 20:53

Grammar pedants sod off to your corner.

Should that be "sod have to your corner"?

worldsworstchildren · 29/09/2016 20:55

Can j just say I'm enjoying this grammar face-off so much I've completely forgotten what the original op was about Grin

elQuintoConyo · 29/09/2016 20:58

So the child was fake coughing while you were feeding the mother wotsits? I got lost as some posters are having an attack of the vapours over your 'of'?

You were in the right OP. It must of been hard not to tell the woman too fuck of Grin

LadyConstanceDeCoverlet · 29/09/2016 20:59

We've had this tale before, haven't we?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 29/09/2016 21:00

I'm late to this, but was getting steadily more wearied until I got to samantha's post. Grin

Do grammar pedants honestly not realise how pathetic they sound?

Tinklypoo · 29/09/2016 21:00

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supersop60 · 29/09/2016 21:03

I hate smoking - both my parents died from smoking related illnesses.
However YWNBU at all - you were there first!

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 29/09/2016 21:03

samantha. Perhaps 'off you sod to the corner most suited to your presence'

Can I just say I'm not actually making notes (I'm a huge fan of italics) and there will quite obviously not be consequences. Whilst my grammar is reasonably accurate, it would appear that my sense of humour often misses the mark. I apologise sincerely to those of you I have offended.

(I can bet there's a bloody typo in this but I never preview messages.)

Tiredmumno1 · 29/09/2016 21:04

Shock Full stops Olivia, full bloody stops.

HmmShockGrin

OhtoblazeswithElvira · 29/09/2016 21:10

I don't understand why some posters are linking grammar mistakes with humiliation, social class, smoking habits and intelligence. It is an insight into some people's hang ups I guess.

Topseyt · 29/09/2016 21:12

If you are an avid reader you should know that your title is incorrect. It should say "to not have moved".

I don't think you were unreasonable at all to stay put. You were already there and already smoking when the woman arrived. She chose to sit next to you and give her child lunch when they could have sat on any of the other benches further away. She made her choice. She could have made a different one.

Tinklypoo · 29/09/2016 21:14

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ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 29/09/2016 21:15

toblazes. Because they have nothing better to do? I'm sure many OPs post in a state of heightened emotion; they care more about getting some immediate advice/reassurance than they do about how 'accurate' their post is in terms of spelling and grammar. Apparently, other posters can't quite see beyond that.

Oops. Started a sentence with 'because' (reaches for birch twigs)

usual · 29/09/2016 21:22

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Amalfimamma · 29/09/2016 21:25

Grammar can be learnt, as a child or as an adult. Good manners and politeness on the other hand are more difficult to learn with age. As an English teacher I hadn't noticed the mistake because

  1. it's late
  2. it's the internet
  3. the OP is not writing a sodding thesis for Oxford. It must be so nice to be so perfect that you take joy in being GF to complete and utter strangers. Wise up ffs

OP YANBU and I'd be on the look out for the GF in future just to annoy her or make snide comments about her wotsit feeding mothering style .

best thing is she's probably on MN and one of the ones slagging you off for your grammar