to think you don't text people when you'd expect them to be asleep?

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I have terrible insomnia and have been awake since 3am . I was actually just drifting back to sleep at 5am when I received a text from a friend!! So that's me woken up for the day. I can't think why you would do that?

I don't have a landline. I don't have an alarm clock. I do have my phone off silent and on vibrate in case I'm needed urgently. Like I am sometimes due to family emergencies. I'd not be impressed getting a text at 5am. what's so urgent it needs sent then. Seriously.

I work strange hours and lots of my friends live abroad, I just silent my texts when I'm going to sleep, easiest solution!

I have my phone on loud every night next to me so I'd be annoyed too. 5 years ago my mum was trying to ring me to tell me my stepdad had just died aged 47 of heart failure. It took ages of ringing and rang my partner in the end to get through to me, since then I always have it incase there's an emergency. Also my Nan had a heart attack a couple of months ago so want to be contactable for emergencies X

Doinit, great post! I started a thread about this not long ago. I have a friend who ignores my requests not to text early mornings. She sends unimportant nonsense messages as early as 5.50am. I just think that texts are the modern equivalent of a phone call and should be treated as such. After 10ish and before 8am should be considered anti-social and for emergencies only. Your child "ate a fish finger for the first time" is not such an emergency! It amazed me how many people think IABU to expect the sender to consider the time they sent a text. OP, YANBU

Yabu

Put it on silent or do not disturb.

"After 10ish and before 8am should be considered anti-social and for emergencies only. "

I agree, with consideration to what you know of the person's lifestyle. I have friends who I know would be up till about 12 and wouldn't be up before 10 on the weekend.

"I work strange hours and lots of my friends live abroad, I just silent my texts when I'm going to sleep, easiest solution!"

Easiest solution for YOU as you work strange hours. There's no reason why OP should have to do this. The onus is on other people not to text her at anti-social times.

A lot of people need to spend some time looking at the settings on their phone. They seem a bit of a mystery to many.

Easiest solution for YOU as you work strange hours.

Easiest solution for most surely, far easier to put phone on dnd then to expect everyone to know what time you find acceptable to receive texts.

I text friends up to Midnight if its important and if i'm still awake.
After Midnight unless its a weekend, my phone is on silent.
It's no big deal.

We have a family WhatsApp chat with relatives in a very different time zone. People say things like "oh you can't send a message on the group chat now because XXX will be alseep". I always thought is a bit weird - why not just mute chats and texts at night?! YABU OP, just mute it if it bugs you.

I've had my phone on silent overnight and now airline since 1999. It's not hard!

If anyone texts me when I am asleep (just as when I am at work) I see it when I wake up.

OP,
Just tell them straight not to text or call you after a certain time and if that fails just block them.

I just think that texts are the modern equivalent of a phone call and should be treated as such.

You may think that, but it doesn't mean you're right. They are not the same. We still have phone calls. If it's an emergency, you make a phone call, not send a text, because they are different and people react differently. If you behave like every text

If you behave like every text is an emergency, that is what needs to change.

If Anybody wants to reach me in a emergency, then they have my landline number and even though its downstairs if they keep ringing it, i'll answer it.

My dad used to often text me past midnight and wake me up, I try not to text people after 11pm unless it's an emergency, I ended up telling my dad not to text me late and he stopped doing it

I cannot believe so many people thinking you can text at any time.

What would be so urgent to send a text at any time, and if it is that urgent, then surely it should be a call, not a text?

I'm nearly always up at 5am, but would never expect a text before 7.

A phone that has voicemail is both synchronous and asynchronous.

Obviously.

By the logic on this thread, it is acceptable to phone in the middle of the night to access people's voicemail because they willl certainly have their notifications set to allow this and if they don't they are stupid/old/a cunt.

Default phone settings have text messages set to loud notifications abd e-mail.set to much quieter.

It's not too hard to understand that that is because people are more willing to be interrupted by texts than by e-mails.

Yabu. Very strange that so many people don't just flick their phones onto silent . I'm always waking up to texts - I've never contemplated being annoyed by that.

How strange the mentality is that says "Being disturbed in the night annoys me. I could resolve this easily, at no cost to myself bar that of about 3 seconds activity in turning the text alert sound off. Whilst aware of this, I choose not to out of sheer bloody mindedness. I see the problem as originating with other people who are not behaving as I wish them to. They must change their behaviour, regardless of what suits them, because it suits me not to make the simple, cost free, 3 second movement if my hand that would prevent me from being woken in the night and feeling annoyed"

Cutting your nose off to spite your face is the cliché that springs to mind.

This thread has at least taught me the word "asynchronous"

It's interesting that a landline seems to be a popular answer to the mobiles off at night. I wonder what it will be like for our DCs' and following generations (pre the Zombie Apocalypse of course ) I tend to think we are moving towards a genuine 24 hour society and certainly away from the 9-5 work pattern.

PP idea about a scheduled delivery time is ace!

It is a bit like putting your TV on in your bedroom at full volume and then demanding that the BBC stop broadcasting between 11pm and 7am so they don't disturb you.

That said, I don't text in the middle of the night because I know some people do have this set up.

You learn something every day :)

By the logic on this thread, it is acceptable to phone in the middle of the night to access people's voicemail because they willl certainly have their notifications set to allow this and if they don't they are stupid/old/a cunt.

Voicemail is shit. It's never OK to deliberately aim to leave a voicemail. If you call me on the phone and accidentally encounter voicemail, I would prefer that you hung up and left a text.

Well I have woken up to two texts this morning.
One sent just after midnight to remind me that I'm on a course today and another one alerting me something about my bank account. Messages came in at 00.12 and 03.14. Both obviously automated messages.

My phone was next to me by the bed, face down and on silent.
Didn't know they came in until a few minutes ago and thought about this thread.