To get frustrated when I see...

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Children in prams when they're obviously too big, their bottoms practically dragging on the floor, knees up by their chins! Children still in nappies, walking round with dummies/bottles etc!! Argh it really gets to me! I obviously don't say anything but I can't help but want to shake the parent when I see it even if it's a total stranger I appreciate sometimes there may be a disability but probably more often than not there's no need, often ease for the parents I think. One of the best thing about children is watching them grow and develop and people who don't encourage it really grip my shit!

As you have absolutely no way of being certain whether a child you see has a disability or a lazy parent, I suggest you stop allowing yourself to be so ignorantly judgemental of random strangers, rather than let them frustrate you.

What is it that a person lacks when they find themselves desperately seeking attention from a bunch of strangers to appease their sense of superiority?

Not being goady - just asking

I just find it odd when people can't think of reasons why. DH once picked up nappies that said they were useful up to the age of about 10 with a quizzical look. Then it dawned on him why they might be needed and he commented sadly that 'some people have it much harder than us'.

He's not known for his sensitivity either.

Yeah all children are different. I've made myself feel really run down many times by stressing about dc2 not being potty trained yet. He just will not entertain using the toilet or the potty at all.
My oldest was completely different and was the same as your oldest and I never had any problems toilet training him. He was out of nappies at 2. He does occasionally wet the bed at night (he's 5) but during the day never been any issues there.

1 of mine was toilet trained 21 yrs ago she was 2.5 i was everything from a lazy parent to is there something wrong with them back then they had to be sat on a potty from sitting up to fully trained by 18months now it is the norm for 2yearolds still to be in nappies and PT age is usually around 3 I was clearly just ahead of my time

OP, I hope your'e not this judgmental and critical to your dcs as they grow up.

My colleague was disappointed that her 7 year old DS had outgrown the pushchair as on holiday they made him sleep in it whilst they went drinking of an evening. Ruined their holiday apparently........That shocked me a bit but otherwise I don't judge

Is this about your stepdaughter again? Or more to the point, about your boyfriend's ex? Just wondering.

My advice would be Beak Out because as so many have said so eloquently already - you see a snapshot, out and about; not all disability is visible and convenience for folk who don't tote selves about by car is no bad thing.

Oho so there's a back story and it's personal?

Actually could this be the reason for this thread?

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So you and your friend were gossiping behind someone's back. Nice.

I had dd in a buggy because I lived in a shit pit on fuck all money and I couldn't afford a car. She had a dummy to soothe her because she had trauma due to what she had seen that meant we ended up in the shit pit. She had that til she was 6 or 7 I honestly don't remember. No SN.

You and your smug mummy mate should be ashamed of yourselves.

Keep your nose out. Its nothing to do with you and you have NO place to comment or judge on it.

My son has just turned 3, he's still in nappies and probably will be for a while.

He's got severe epilepsy, and loses control of his bladder and bowels a lot, you obviously wouldn't know by looking at him.

I can't stand judgmental people, I bet there's been a few times people have judged me for having him in nappies, you're obviously lucky you're not in a predicament like myself and other people are! So you just stay up on your high horse looking down at people that are struggling daily

If it helps at all, knowing my son has to live with this condition for life, having to revive him almost daily, barely sleeping as he has nocturnal seizures and worrying about his future all upset me, but knowing people like you are silently judging me makes it a whole lot worse.

Could this be one of the most annoying things I've seen posted?

We're just going pull up-less at night time now! Was made slightly easier by a fairy who came and took all the nappies away "for the babies that need them" and left a present in return.

Wish the fucking 'fairies' had visited DS, he was 14 before he was dry at night. Maybe the fairies only come to certain households?

My 6 year old wears pull ups at night. Send the 'nappy fairy' (vom) round to talk to her hormones will you?

Kondos has summed up the op perfectly.
Op I feel quite sad for you
You either being goady or just stupid