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to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 14:37

Have had kitten for around 6 weeks now. DC have wanted a pet for a long time and I gave in and got one for them. Cats are easier to deal with than dogs right?

Well today, I have had enough. I had have to scoop 3 lots of shit out of the litter box and there was a piece of shit on the floor that must have come off her paws and which means that the whole house, and sofa is now covered in cat shit germs Envy puke!

It also runs up the curtains which are now all pulled. My leather --look- dining chairs have scratch marks where it keeps jumping up the back of them and it has pulled up the carpet on the stairs.

DS (6) is constantly chasing it round the house with an incessant cackle (over excited, not cruelly, the cat loves him) which does my head in and keeps taking it upstairs to lie on his bed.

Last week, it has a runny arse and I still have the wounds where I had to bath it, not before it spread kitty shit germs everywhere again.

As a side note, I also suffer from OCD. Not 'a bit' but actually diagnosed.

I love my DCs to bits but they also love the kitty a lot. I am not sure I can put them first this time!

WIBU to find a good home for it and tell them it ran off into the forest and I couldn't find it

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 25/09/2016 15:14

This is like the scum bag who kicked my (now) cat in the face and abandoned her in the snow when she was 12 weeks old. Luckily she found some kind people to look after her. Get her re-homed.

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 15:14

FFS I am not going to abandon/dump it and never said I would.

It's food costs and arm and a leg - Royal Canin, so not cheap stuff to make it have a dodgy belly and of course I do not give it milk. It has been eating daddy long legs and moths though. Thought that was great until I found the chewed up remains of one on the dining table.

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ZaraW · 25/09/2016 15:14

Your attitude is awful rehome the poor cat and don't get another pet. Nothing annoys me more than people dumping pets because they are an inconvenience but in this case it's for the best and your child should not be chasing the cat as a parent you should be showing how to take care of it.

george1020 · 25/09/2016 15:15

You really should re home her. You don't sound at all suited to owning a pet (maybe fish?)

But you must tell your DC the truth it would be beyond evil to leave them thinking it had run away and might come back/be eaten/hurt itself and died or any other horrible thing the could possibly imagine.

Barksdale · 25/09/2016 15:15

OP: AIBU?
Mumsnet: YABU
OP: I am not BU!

AdaLovelacesCat · 25/09/2016 15:15

Hunter do shut up, nobody is a 'scumbag' and nobody is kicking a cat in the face. some people have to be so emotive...

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 15:15

Hunter no offence but you sound off your rocker Hmm.

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SuperFlyHigh · 25/09/2016 15:15

Poor kitten. You can get covers for chairs and they do stop the running up the curtains bit... And chewing.

It's a baby animal used to having fun with its siblings and mum.

I'd re home it though, hope you've not been cruel to it.

JenLindleyShitMom · 25/09/2016 15:15

This is like the scum bag who kicked my (now) cat in the face and abandoned her in the snow when she was 12 weeks old.

How the fuck is this like that? Hmm

Gabilan · 25/09/2016 15:16

Kitty has been treated like a queen. No cruelty or unkindness here

Animals need to be treated quite specifically for their species though and so what you see as kind may well not be for the cat. Allowing your son to chase her is unkind. Wiping her paws is also unkind and I suspect the reason she tries to shit when you're not around is because she already knows that after she's used the tray, you will try to get hold of her and wipe her paws, which she doesn't like. She's a cat, she needs to be treated like a cat, and on the whole they prefer to come to you rather than you going to them.

I would rehome and tell the children the truth. It isn't working out and is triggering your anxiety. They could possibly have outdoor pets if you do your research thoroughly. Are there class pets you could look after in the holidays for a short period of time to see how you get on? Otherwise, they may not grow up with pets. That's just how it is - I had to wait until I was 32 until I got my first horse.

pigsDOfly · 25/09/2016 15:16

Never a good idea to get a pet because the children nag for it.

You've clearly got it on a whim and have done no homework to inform yourself about the needs of kittens. It's a baby animal, it will be messy and unpredictable in its behaviour. What were you expecting?

You clearly don't want it in your house so rehome it to a good rescue and let someone have it who won't resent its perfectly normal cat behaviour.

And never ever buy another animal.

GerundTheBehemoth · 25/09/2016 15:16

Rehoming her responsibly sounds like the best thing. But lying to the DC that she ran away would be awful IMHO. They would surely worry dreadfully about her being out on her own, starving to death or getting killed by something. And expect you to make efforts to find her... and in the end probably want a replacement kitten.

SuperFlyHigh · 25/09/2016 15:17

It doesn't need Royal Canin by the way.

My cat is fine on kittens IAMs and Felix pouches.

ZaraW · 25/09/2016 15:17

OP Seriously that's what cats do mine bought a rat home. Disgusting yes but it's not like you are the only one stop being such a drama queen.

Huppopapa · 25/09/2016 15:17

Get shot of the thing. YANBU, (though you might have thought a little more before you got it!). There are plenty of folk who will love it to bits. You no more have to live with a cat you don't like than a DP.
And as for the children, they'll get over it. If children can cope with the death of grandparents, children at school and so on - and they can - they are not going to be traumatised by a cat that (purportedly) effs orf.

LazySusan11 · 25/09/2016 15:18

I'd rehome the kitten somewhere where it's properly loved and part of the family. You don't sound like a great owner and a cat deserves a good home and to be treated well.

pigsDOfly · 25/09/2016 15:19

Oh and meant to add, don't lie to your children. Explain it simply that you didn't know what was involved with having a kitten in the house.

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 15:19

FFS to clarify. DS is running around the house with cat toy on string. Cat running after it and jumping all over the place. Should have said Cat chasing DS all over the house. He builds her dens too and watches over her when she's sleeping - the spiteful little horror.

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AdaLovelacesCat · 25/09/2016 15:20

Saggy some of the people that have answered you do genuinely sound unhinged. Please do not take it to heart.

ShebaShimmyShake · 25/09/2016 15:21

Rehome her but tell the kids the real reason.

liz70 · 25/09/2016 15:21

"Rehome her and get the kids a hamster or guinea pig."

Just no, ffs. Piggies in particular are right poo monsters. Ours need the cage mucking out daily.

TrillKitten · 25/09/2016 15:21

YABU. Highly unreasonable. But it's still probably better for you and the kitten that you part ways. I don't think you're an abusive pet owner, but you're clearly not going to be a good one if you don't even like the poor animal. Re-home it responsibly and think things through a bit more the next time you take responsibility for an animals' life.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 25/09/2016 15:22

So to the people saying it is only a kitten, are only human lives worth treating well?

I don't think the OP is being cruel to the cat (the son is by chasing it) but she needs to think about if she can provide the love it needs. And the older children should be helping but that is not the cat's fault.

Omgkitties · 25/09/2016 15:22

Cats aren't disposable when you've had enough you know?

But you clearly can't give the cat the love she deserves so it's best you rehome her.

Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 15:22

My cat has been on tesco tins and IAMS dry since we brought her home. Doesn't need to be the expensive stuff at all.

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