to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?

[SaggyBaggyPuss]

Have had kitten for around 6 weeks now. DC have wanted a pet for a long time and I gave in and got one for them. Cats are easier to deal with than dogs right?

Well today, I have had enough. I had have to scoop 3 lots of shit out of the litter box and there was a piece of shit on the floor that must have come off her paws and which means that the whole house, and sofa is now covered in cat shit germs puke!

It also runs up the curtains which are now all pulled. My leather --look- dining chairs have scratch marks where it keeps jumping up the back of them and it has pulled up the carpet on the stairs.

DS (6) is constantly chasing it round the house with an incessant cackle (over excited, not cruelly, the cat loves him) which does my head in and keeps taking it upstairs to lie on his bed.

Last week, it has a runny arse and I still have the wounds where I had to bath it, not before it spread kitty shit germs everywhere again.

As a side note, I also suffer from OCD. Not 'a bit' but actually diagnosed.

I love my DCs to bits but they also love the kitty a lot. I am not sure I can put them first this time!

WIBU to find a good home for it and tell them it ran off into the forest and I couldn't find it

costacoffee, Gerald Durrell's puppies were called Widdle and Puke.

Elephant I think your cat wins the gorgeous stakes Although they are all pretty cute I want another cat

I prefer cats to some people - funny that

who cares if they eat my face when I die - I will be dead! I should be so lucky to die alone though all these kids - never get any peace!

I think the OP is going on the attack in the hope of getting the thread deleted as a bunfight. I wouldn't mind betting she's already asked MNHQ to remove it and they've refused.

Eeeeee, cringe at the OP having a proper teenage tantrum now.

You asked if you were unreasonable, verdict of the masses is yes, very much so. Bow out gracefully, for the love of God!

Op you have made a mistake and a misjudged thread.

Again take the kitten back, name change and move on.

OP, I suffer with mental health issues, I really do sympathise with you, it can be hell to live with. I have two cats and they do all of the things you've mentioned, which can be annoying to people who don't have OCD.

My curtains have tiny claw holes in them, my bathroom windowsill is chewed on the one corner and sometimes the kitten doesn't realise he's stepped in his shit and walks it through the house.

Luckily the only carpet we have is on the stairs. But the kitten has pissed on my bed twice in 4 months, and the cat always seems to spew on the carpet and never the tiles. Not to mention the mostly white cat likes to sit on anything black, covering it with white hair. I am constantly hoovering and cleaning.

Cats are hard work sometimes but I find mine both extremely therapeutic.

This thread has a lot of nasty comments, but OP, you have to do what's right for you. I'm sure you read up on it before you got her, but now you've realised that you can't cope. You can't just keep her if it's going to be detrimental to your own mental health. Explain to the children that the kitten is making you feel poorly and that it is best that she goes to someone else who will be able to look after her. Maybe if you know the person who will be having her, you can explain to the children that they can still see the kitten but it won't be able to live in your home.

Do the right thing for you and don't let your OCD spiral out of control.

Just digressing slightly ...

OP just let the thread die its miserable death. I don't know what you wanted from it because you don't seem to have taken on board anything anybody has said, even the advice you've got from experienced owners. You asked the question and you got your answers.

Return the cat, move on and learn something from this sad situation. It's not funny and it never was, it's an awful start in life for a 4 month old kitten which was born in a rescue shelter and is returning to one already.

sooty i'm wondering if she's been goady purposely from the start

On reflection I haven't experienced most of life's sad events to come yet. I understand that a cat isn't cat to everyone. I'm the same with dogs- everytime I see a cute dog I want to hug it but I would probably be beaten back by their protective owners thinking an unhinged brown man is trying to attack their dog. I was in leamington spa a fortnight ago and the only thing I enjoyed whilst talking a walk in the park ( until my train was due) was seeing the cute little things.

I will never probably have any pets as I know at 23 that it's unlikely I'm ever going to be responsible enough for one and I will never probably have children for the same reason. I do offer to dogsit/ walk their dogs to my friends because that's the extent that I can enjoy a dog but picking up shit is never going to be something I am willing to do even for a pet.

I second the OP contacting mumsnet hq to ask for this thread to be deleted as its too much of a volatile topic.

bluebell

Don't misjudge your audience, some knob on MN will probably try that based on what I've seen here lately!

"Return the cat, move on and learn something from this sad situation. It's not funny and it never was, it's an awful start in life for a 4 month old kitten which was born in a rescue shelter and is returning to one already."

I think DownWith has summed up the sentiments of the majority on this entire thread in two sentences.

Op and others who maybe in this situation. As others have said, make your decision fast, the younger the cat the faster it will be to find a home. There are fewer people who want older cats.

milk you sound very good pet owner/child rearing material in training at 23. Give it s few years and you might well have the 2 kids and the Labrador.

CrazyNameCrazyGuy

Sorry 🤐 yes was a complete joke (haven't read the whole thread... just couldn't believe anyone would actually think about it, it was just something to lighten the thread)

Just nipped back in and caught up and was going to say *downwith" had expressed it well

Milklollies i agree with yorkie don't say that right now.
You know right now that you couldn't cope with the responsibility so are being sensible. That's a good start. That does not mean never!

I see the OP's strops / PA s have been deleted.

sooty i always miss everything!

Something I've remembered from years ago. Our cat was 10 when DS was born. DS had terrible asthma as a baby. Consultant said animal fur couldn't be discounted. Vet said baby had to come first but ten year old cats were notoriously hard to rehome. Thought hard and got a,quote for an outdoor run like those in cat kennels with a heated house at the end. Before work could start vet phoned and said a lady in her 80s,had lost her elderly cat and wanted an old cat because she thought it irresponsible to get a young one. I know we were lucky but it worked for everyone, exept the cat house builder.

Could you do that sort of compromise op?

DS wasn't allergic to cats btw and grew out f his asthma.

"I do offer to dogsit/ walk their dogs to my friends because that's the extent that I can enjoy a dog but picking up shit is never going to be something I am willing to do even for a pet."

With respect, walking a dog involves picking up after their mess.

Any outcome yet? Is the OP going to rehome and be honest with DCs?

Has Saggy decided on her course of action yet?

Is this cat going to get rehomed sooner rather than later - whilst it is still kittenish and has a better chance of finding a good home - and is she going to tell her children that nasty fib?

I am asking the other MNers on this thread, because so far the OP has ignored my questions with steely determination, so I have little hope that she would answer this one.

Last she hilariously implied she was going to dump it by the motorway. Fantastic banter

I missed that - what a wit she is.