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to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 14:37

Have had kitten for around 6 weeks now. DC have wanted a pet for a long time and I gave in and got one for them. Cats are easier to deal with than dogs right?

Well today, I have had enough. I had have to scoop 3 lots of shit out of the litter box and there was a piece of shit on the floor that must have come off her paws and which means that the whole house, and sofa is now covered in cat shit germs Envy puke!

It also runs up the curtains which are now all pulled. My leather --look- dining chairs have scratch marks where it keeps jumping up the back of them and it has pulled up the carpet on the stairs.

DS (6) is constantly chasing it round the house with an incessant cackle (over excited, not cruelly, the cat loves him) which does my head in and keeps taking it upstairs to lie on his bed.

Last week, it has a runny arse and I still have the wounds where I had to bath it, not before it spread kitty shit germs everywhere again.

As a side note, I also suffer from OCD. Not 'a bit' but actually diagnosed.

I love my DCs to bits but they also love the kitty a lot. I am not sure I can put them first this time!

WIBU to find a good home for it and tell them it ran off into the forest and I couldn't find it

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PrivatePike · 26/09/2016 12:36

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kali110 · 26/09/2016 12:58

Omg guys your cats are beautiful!
I'd put mine on but too many people would know me Grin

Yorkieheaven · 26/09/2016 13:00

Love these pics. Grin

Uricon · 26/09/2016 13:46

Those are lovely pics!

This thread has made me sad. When we got our rescue hound, he had been through the most awful times (was in the paper, RSPCA court case, we found out later) and some problems were foreseen given what he had been through.

I wouldn't have called myself a dog person (DH is) but I was utterly determined before he came to us that whatever happened, having taken him on we would work through problems and he would not go back to rescue.

As it turned out, he surprisingly easy-the odd nibbled thing at times (Staffie jaws Grin ) and as Liz70 says, throws are my friend, but he is an amazing, loving, funny cuddle monster. We are so lucky to have him in our lives.

I really hope that little kitten gets a nice home.

DonnaMoss · 26/09/2016 13:48

This is my gorgeous boy. He was abandoned when his previous owner moved house and left him behind. When we bought him home he hid behind my kitchen cupboard next to the oven for 3 days so we had take away for tea for 3 nights. He's still a nervous wreck 5 years later. You should have thought the decision through before you took on the kitten.

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Twogoats · 26/09/2016 14:07

Awwww! This is turning from a terrible thread into a brilliant one with all the pictures!

PosiePootlePerkins · 26/09/2016 14:10

I've posted mine before but here she is again! We've had her for 6 weeks and she's made herself very much at home! Not much of a one for cuddles but we're making slow progress. Very much on her terms of course!

to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?
PosiePootlePerkins · 26/09/2016 14:12

PS she was a rescue - the owners didn't want her when she became pregnant Sad

mummafresh · 26/09/2016 14:18

I second the covered cat box, ours is amazing.
To have a kitten/cat means you need to be prepared to scoop shit OCD or not. Look on the bright side in six months you can butter her paws and she will or can be an outdoor cat! it's not long

EveOnline2016 · 26/09/2016 14:20

My cat is asleep by my feet. But she wasn't always like this.

We had her at 5 weeks ( don't get me started on how this was wrong at so many levels) we had to hand feed her a encourage her to eat.

She was a lively kitten but as she is just over 1 now she has calmed down.

She has bought home both dead and alive birds.

Op I think rehoming her would be the best for kitten it don't seem like a good match and kittens are easier to regime than adult cats.

MaddyHatter · 26/09/2016 14:48

i don't know what i'd do without my two, they're the absolute light of my life (bar my kids of course, lol)

I've had a shitty day, spent hours crying my eyes out.. and you know whats made me feel better? Climbing into bed with my two cats and being loved and purred on.

I wouldn't be without them, for all girlcat is an attack muffin with claws, and boycat is a crazy floof, they make my life and the pain i'm in bearable because they love me.

littlemissneela · 26/09/2016 14:55

I think you should sit down with your kids and talk to them about what it has been like since having the kitten. Discuss what they said they'd do when it came to live with you and what has happened in reality. Then see what they say to it being rehomed, with someone who will look after it as it should be.
If they do still want a pet, then an adult cat might be the way to go. Already toilet trained, and you'd just need to put up with in the house for 2 weeks so it got used to where home is.
That said, it does make me wonder how you coped with your kids when the were babies and toilet training Hmm

Oblomov16 · 26/09/2016 14:55

Don't lie to you he children. Tell them the truth. Say you are very sorrry but you've made a mistake, you thought you could cope, but it's too much for you and another family are going to have her.
Yes they'll be upset but they should understand that you've made a mistake. We all make mistakes. It's just having the grace and dignity to admit it.

Oblomov16 · 26/09/2016 15:00

And you really do need to consider why you made such a very stupid decision in the first place of getting a kitten when you have OCD, and the cluelessness you had about what it would be like.
How could you have been so naieve
And ignorant?
You really need to learn from this. You sound like a right twit. This is a serious issue not a funny silly one.

ilovesooty · 26/09/2016 15:05

I hope that you won't take an adult cat on instead. When it becomes elderly you'll be taking it to a shelter to live out the rest of its life - if it isn't PTS.

I don't think you should ever have a pet in the house again.

honeyroar · 26/09/2016 15:14

Anyone who chooses an animal because it's the one that is the least work shouldn't get an animal, you're not the right person to be a pet owner. All animals need time and attention, will need cleaning out, will leave hair and poop... Buy a stuffed animal if you can't cope with that. Don't even get a rabbit or gerbil and think it can be left stuck in a little cage 24/7 and have a happy life. I can't bear people that get an animal without putting any thought into it. I have two cats and three dogs that used to belong to idiots that couldn't look after them, or couldn't be bothered.

ReginaBlitz · 26/09/2016 16:02

Kali110..is your cat purple or something?

Milklollies · 26/09/2016 16:10

If some of the unhinged posters showed a little of the emotion they feel for a cat to the worlds poor the world will be a better place.

shakes head at the emotive comments
On a factual basis- as the kitten hasn't got any deformities and painful problems I would just rehome or give to a rescue.

For what it's worth- you've been given a false branch by your children when it comes to pets. Sometimes you do have to go military mum but as you suffer from OCD just get rid of the cat. If your older kids bitch about giving away the cat then just be clear that you won't put up with false promises. You seem to have 4 kids and I would think it's crazy to get a cat unless the kids really stepped up and took their fair share of pet responsibilities.

End of story, no need for this thread to be 22 pages long. Your 6yo will be sad until something shiny comes along. Don't ever get a pet again as with ocd- it's always going to be a disaster. Tell your children when they are old enough, educated and have their own jobs/homes etc they can get as many pets as they like.

Elephantsaremygods · 26/09/2016 16:29

hinged posters showed a little of the emotion they feel for a cat to the worlds poor the world will be a better place.

It is possible to care about animals AND people you know.

And as for this:

Dont ever get a pet again as with OCD - it's always going to be a disaster

Well you are talking bollocks. I have OCD and 2 cats. Having OCD doesn't automatically mean you shouldn't have pets. OCD covers a wide, wide spectrum of things.

ghostyslovesheep · 26/09/2016 16:37

Milk how do you know they don't Hmm

what a silly comment

ghostyslovesheep · 26/09/2016 16:39

ps we all have lovely cats Grin

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MaddyHatter · 26/09/2016 16:42

i see tuxedo toe beans!

Mr Half-tache and a Goatee says hi! :)

to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?
ghostyslovesheep · 26/09/2016 16:46

hehe toe beans !

Hello lovely cat!

lizzieoak · 26/09/2016 16:48

One of our two, being adorable.

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ghostyslovesheep · 26/09/2016 16:49

here's my Mr Spock

to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?