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to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 14:37

Have had kitten for around 6 weeks now. DC have wanted a pet for a long time and I gave in and got one for them. Cats are easier to deal with than dogs right?

Well today, I have had enough. I had have to scoop 3 lots of shit out of the litter box and there was a piece of shit on the floor that must have come off her paws and which means that the whole house, and sofa is now covered in cat shit germs Envy puke!

It also runs up the curtains which are now all pulled. My leather --look- dining chairs have scratch marks where it keeps jumping up the back of them and it has pulled up the carpet on the stairs.

DS (6) is constantly chasing it round the house with an incessant cackle (over excited, not cruelly, the cat loves him) which does my head in and keeps taking it upstairs to lie on his bed.

Last week, it has a runny arse and I still have the wounds where I had to bath it, not before it spread kitty shit germs everywhere again.

As a side note, I also suffer from OCD. Not 'a bit' but actually diagnosed.

I love my DCs to bits but they also love the kitty a lot. I am not sure I can put them first this time!

WIBU to find a good home for it and tell them it ran off into the forest and I couldn't find it

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 23:28

She would not end up in a Shelter. I would rehome her myself. I would not put extra work on the RSPCA. She does not need to see a vet. I was told worming tablets make them runny bummed when I bought them.

Older 3 DC are well old enough to help but one has severe learning difficulties so could not be trusted with scooping routine, although he is the one who would probably not mind doing it. Other 2 are as disgusted by the poop as I am and run off shouting 'I'm not touching it'. DH would not touch it with a barge pole. He thinks she should live in the garage although I did catch him with her on his lap the other night. He said she wouldn't take No for an answer. Terribly anxious cat Hmm.

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kali110 · 25/09/2016 23:28

lizzieoak one of ours is old now, but i think he's gotten a second wind Grin he's acting more like a kitten now!

kali110 · 25/09/2016 23:29

op take it back to the rspca ( even though i hate them) atleast they will check where it's going Hmm

Ubertasha2 · 25/09/2016 23:30

I really hope that poor little kitten is ok, and hasn't picked up on any of the negative energy directed towards him/her. I find it really upsetting when animals are mistreated in ANY way, and feel that you should find the poor little thing a decent home where he/she would be cared for properly.

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 23:30

Hardly think she's disposable. Did I say I was going to bin her?

She did hate the bath, yes, but she didn't mind the blow dry.

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kali110 · 25/09/2016 23:31

Disposable does not mean that you want to put her in a bin, but more that you've had her and now want to get rid of her like she doesn't matter.

kali110 · 25/09/2016 23:32

If she hates the bath you may not ne helping the poo or scratching situation as you may well be stressing this poor cat out.

kali110 · 25/09/2016 23:34

PrivatePike he's turned into a pyscho! I don't see anything and then suddenly there he is trying to get me Grin
Now he's curled up asleep in bed with me after a long day of attacking me Grin

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bumsexatthebingo · 25/09/2016 23:36

So the loose stool is a temporary thing then?
It sounds as though your kids have picked up on your germ phobia and are showing the same behaviour. If no-one in the house can care for the cat then you'll have to get rid but please don't pretend to have done your research and then be surprised that it's doing a normal amount of shits for a kitten and that you have to clean them up.
And joking about bathing a kitten (I hope it's a fucking joke) really isn't funny.

WeirdAndPissedOff · 25/09/2016 23:42

Jelli and Uptown - I always one if the pp who posted re cats bad/disgusting behaviour.
I hope I don't put anyone off of giving a cat a good home. My 5 are the best thing that's ever happened to me, and I couldn't bear the thought of giving up a single one. But you get so many people who rehome a kitten or older cat because it scratched someone, clawed some furniture, shat on a rug, brought in mice.
The vast majority of cats are amazing, and can be really well-behaved. Most behavioural issues are either a brief kitten phase, something they can be trained out of with patience and time, or a result of stress/illness. But potential cat owners need to be prepared that cats can occasionally be more than fluff and purrs! FWIW mine are fantastic - I'd say overall they're really well behaved cats. (Most of our "damage" was done by an innocent-looking street urchin who was abandoned by her feral mum as a baby).
But sometimes they can be bastards, and every now and then they can be somewhat disgusting. (Tbf I think I get more looks of disgust than they do). Grin

I know comparisons between kids and cats aren't completely valid, but you hear plenty of stories about DC on here that would make your blood curdle! And people still have them. But you'd also be prepared to have a baby knowing it poops, vomits, breaks your ornaments etc.

In any case, I think any point I may have had has been long-lost in my rambling, so have a cat picture:

to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?
OliviaBenson · 25/09/2016 23:44

Please do take her back to RSPCA and don't rehome yourself. When we have rescued animals there is always a clause about taking it back to the charity.

There are a lot of dodgy people out there, do not do it yourself.

Memoires · 25/09/2016 23:51

"I myself" is an accepted phrase, used to emphasise a difference between self and others, eg "They are blood thirsty ignorant canivores who have no credibility in the modern wold; I, myself, am a vegetarian."

You can use "you, yourself" and "they, themselves" in the same way. All lose impact if overused or used out of context such as suddenly introducing "I myself" out of nowhere and with no relevance.

HTH

Memoires · 25/09/2016 23:52

And that would have worked marginally better if not for the Demon in the Keyboard.

bringbacksideburns · 25/09/2016 23:53

Yep rehome .

She's a terribly anxious cat because she can probably pick up on the fact you seem to hate her Guts.

It's kinder in the long run.
Be honest with your kids and never get another one.

Suggest you do it asap.
At Christmas it will love your Christmas tree and spend most of the time climbing up it and clinging to the top of it knocking your baubles off.
And you wouldn't like that I feel.

WeirdAndPissedOff · 25/09/2016 23:53

OP I would also reommend taking the kitten back to the RSPCA, or to a shelter.
Failing that, ask your local Vet if they can recommend anyone.

There are a lot of either dodgy or careless people out there, and without the resources to do proper checks you really can't tell the kind of person you're giving the kitten to.

If however you rehome the kitten privately anyway, please PLEASE do not offer it on Gumtree or similar, or give it away free.

lizzieoak · 26/09/2016 00:08

Private Pike - sentient cushion describes our old boy pretty well. Among other adorable behaviours, he'd heave himself out of his sunny spot in the bushes about 10 minutes before my DS was due home from school. He'd take up his post at the end of the path and wait for his best friend in all the world. Once DS was safely home & they'd had a chat, old Tom would go back to his napping spot. He was very sweet.

OP, I have a sense this might not make sense to you, but partly what is setting people off is that either you actually hate the kitten or think it's funny to pretend you do. Most posters see kittens as defenceless (and pretty damn adorable) babies, so the whole disgust/hate thing makes uncomfortable reading.

And am very confused why you & your family are so shocked the kitten poos. It's not a plant, of course it poos. I think you had it confused w a stuffy.

kali110 · 26/09/2016 00:24

PrivatePike oh no i love him to pieces. He's just playing. He follows me around the house and calls to me if he doesn't know where i am.
If i'm having a bad day he makes it better Grin

giraffesCantReachTheirToes · 26/09/2016 00:34

Oh stratters I didn't know you'd rehomed most but suspected it was on the cards. You know where I am x

MumblePuppy · 26/09/2016 03:45

Not surprised the kitten prefers Wayne to you as company OP.

BedknobsandBullhooks · 26/09/2016 04:07

Nobody should get a living being into their lives without knowing they'll be there to care for it for the rest of its life. There's nothing neurotic or daft or irrational about that. I agree there are genuine situations where people can't (eg I helped find a home for a dog whose owner had had to go into a care home, and when I got thrown out of home aged 15 I found a GOOD home with a friend for my dog),but this is not such a situation. This is someone who had got an animal and decided they can't be arsed with it now. And I am with down and others that it just isn't right. Animals deserve to be loved and liked and appreciated. TBH I think (hope) op is a troll.

Only1scoop · 26/09/2016 04:28

Ugh you sound like the Family Grim.

Get compassionate professionals to re home.

Stanky · 26/09/2016 05:52

Rehome the kitten through a rescue and get the kids non shitting cuddly toy kittens.

crazydaisies · 26/09/2016 06:26

You don't deserve the happiness a cat can bring. Give it a new home (to "get rid of it" speaks volumes about what you think of the poor thing).

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